35 MISTAKES MEN MAKE WHEN EXPOSED TO FEMALE SHADOWS

It’s pretty simple!

Some emotions and reactions usually mean tension and separation build up when exposed to her shadows.

Other reactions will mean more success and connection.

If you practice what works, you will get deeper and better connection.

If you practice what doesn’t work you will get separation and tension.

So here are some of the reactions you should better avoid if you don’t want to trigger her further and get to fight escalation.

35 attitudes to avoid when exposed to female shadows

  1. DON’T JUDGE HER
  2. DON’T ATTACK HER
  3. DON’T THREATEN HER
  4. DON’T DISCONNECT FROM HER
  5. DON’T FOLLOW HER INTO EMOTIONAL INTENSITY, STAY PRESENT INSTEAD
  6. DON’T BE A PUPPY
  7. AVOID CHILDISH OR IMMATURE RESPONSES
  8. DON’T BE HER CHILD, BE HER LOVER
  9. DON’T LECTURE HER
  10. DON’T LOCK HER INTO YOUR FRAMES
  11. DON’T JUDGE HER SEXUAL FANTASIES
  12. DON’T FREAK OUT WHEN SHE CONNECTS WITH OTHER MEN
  13. DON’T TRY TO FIX HER
  14. DON’T JUMP IN WITH ADVICE, UNLESS SHE ASKS YOU TO
  15. DON’T ISOLATE YOURSELF
  16. DON’T STAY IN SELF ABSORBED MODE
  17. DON’T STAY IN PROCESSING OR THERAPEUTIC MODE
  18. DON’T BE NEEDY
  19. DON’T OVERREACT
  20. DON’T BLAME HER
  21. DON’T BE TOO NICE OR JUST NICE
  22. DON’T BE BORING
  23. DON’T BE TOO INTENSE
  24. DON’T INVADE HER SPACE
  25. DON’T ASPHYXIATE HER
  26. DON’T MICROMANAGE HER
  27. DON’T PROJECT YOUR AGENDA ON HER
  28. DON’T FRAME HER
  29. DON’T LABEL HER
  30. DON’T DOMESTICATE HER
  31. DON’T ARGUE
  32. DON’T BE OVERSENSITIVE
  33. STOP TALKING ABOUT YOURSELF
  34. DON’T STOP EVOLVING
  35. DON’T RESIST CHANGE

That’s it!

There is probably a list of 673 more behaviors to avoid!

I let you figure out what these are.

That leaves us men with a whole lot of positive options, right?

Some questions for you

Which of these mistakes do you see yourself making?

What other behaviors must be avoided?

What happens when you do any of the things in that list?

What’s the impact on your couple?