68 POSSIBLE RESPONSES TO HER SHADOW ATTACKS

Of course, this is not a complete list!

There is way more but it will at least give you a spectrum of ideas and possible tactics.

It is up to you to choose what works in your situation.

I just give you random ideas to make you understand that applying the right tactic is a conscious choice.

Many of these tactics are not recommended of course, like “getting drunk”.

What’s interesting though is that even though you know it is a useless self destructive choice, you might still go for that one to escape pain and discomfort.

Check it out and dive straight to the questions at the bottom of the page!

Answering them will offer you insights about your unique situation and how to move forward.

POSSIBLE TACTICS

  • KINDNESS

  • PASSIVITY

  • DISTANCE

  • BOUNDARY

  • CUTTING HER OFF

  • EXCLUDING

  • DIALOGUE

  • LOVE

  • DEPRIVATION

  • ULTIMATUM

  • EDUCATING

  • REASONING

  • ANALYZING

  • RELEASING

  • PASSIVITY

  • IGNORING

  • COMPASSION

  • CURIOSITY

  • ENERGY RELEASE

  • VITAL FORCE ACTIVATION

  • VITAL FORCE ACTIVATION TOGETHER

  • VITAL SEX

  • CARE

  • EMBRACING

  • ACCEPTING

  • TRUTH

  • STEADY POWER

  • VOICE YOUR GRATITUDE

  • FOOLING

  • HUMOR

  • SARCASM

  • ENERGY BUILD UP

  • LEAVE

  • STAY PRESENT

  • DON’T REACT

  • FEEL IT

  • DEFEND YOURSELF

  • EMOTIONAL RELEASE

  • CONNECT WITH FRIENDS

  • GET CREATIVE

  • TEASE HER

  • USE HUMOR

  • MEDITATE

  • DISCONNECT

  • PERMANENT SEPARATION

  • JOURNAL

  • STAY UNTOUCHED

IMMATURE TACTICS

  • ANGER

  • AGGRESSION

  • ARGUING

  • GETTING TRIGGERED

  • ESCALATION

  • RETALIATION

  • RIDICULING

  • CRITICIZING

  • VICTIMIZING

  • SELF PITY

  • COMPLAINING

  • BLAMING

  • RESENTING

  • SELF BLAME

  • SELF SABOTAGE

  • SELF DESTRUCTIVE CHOICES

  • GETTING DRUNK

  • SURFING THE NET

  • GET LOST IN WORK

I will check in another post the best tactics.
For now, I’ll let you feel into that.

Questions for you

  • Which of these tactics did you try?

  • What’s your favorite response to her shadow attacks?

  • What are 3 specific situations where you handled her shadow really well?

  • What exactly did you do?

  • What shadow were you exposed to?

  • What are 3 specific shadow attacks that you handled poorly?

  • What exactly was your response?

  • What’s a more winning response?

  • What exactly would you do in the future if you were exposed to these challenging shadows again?