Does she mean it when she breaks up?

Most of the times, Yes!

The reason why she decides to break up is because there is a deal breaker!

There is a condition you are not fulfilling.

So, yes! She means it!

Is there still a chance for the two of you?

Well… Of course there is but as you probably heard me say before, getting back together does not work in 95% of the cases.

Why?

Because in most situations, one or both partners don’t do what it takes to solve the key relationship issues they face.

Telling her “I will change! I can do that!” is NOT ENOUGH!

You need more than that!

You need to actually start taking action and tell her exactly what you intend to do and how you plan on changing that specific behavior.

Suppose for instance that she tells you she no longer can stand your controlling or needy attitude.

What do you do?

You tell her:

• Exactly why your past behavior was wrong.
• You describe in detail how you will respond if this type of challenging situation happens again.
• Next time you are confronted with a situation that triggers jealousy, you actually IMPLEMENT the specific changes you were talking about.
• Etc.

In other terms, you make your change VERY specific without ever giving away your power!

Get this, ok?

You don’t need to make yourself small or give away any of the power you have.

On the contrary, develop confidence and stay in charge of your existence and if she says again she wants to break up, don’t collapse as if the world was crumbling under your feet.

To your power!

vitalcoach

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posted by vitalcoach  # 2:52 PM