• Preselected by other women
• Leader of men
• Protector of loved ones
• Willingness to emote

If you are gaming the girls, no attraction!

• Opening
• demonstrating higher value
• nagging
• Qualify her (what have you got going for you?)
• Move
• etc

Correct me if I am wrong...

Correct me if I am wrong, ok?

I want to tell you something about yourself:

In you, there is this dream of the perfect romantic connection with a man.

You dream about it and it is triggered when you meet the eyes of a man you are attracted to.

This simple glimpse into his eyes, triggers a chaing reaction of thrilling emotions and excitement in you.

You feel totally alive. You start having dreams about that man. You imagine the kisses, his sensual touch on your skin.

In your dreams the fantasy of this reality is totally alive.

Your night is filled with images of sensual moments shared in this vibrant intimacy between your two beings.

Even though, you never spoke directly with him, he is now part totally part of your life and you enjoy it immensely.

You feel like telling your friends, telling everyone, actually!

Even at work, you sometimes find it difficult to focus because the memory of his smile suddenly pops up in your mind.

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Is this good? Yes!

Now, this is a "trance script".

What you just said is hypnotic because it does bring the woman into an inner psace and triggeres her imagination.

Now, the way you say this, you can start fasta nd progressively slow down, until you get into a much slower pace when she can relax.

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Next question:

What do you do or say next?

What is the message you want to give her?

Here we go:

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I am here to help you? - Hummm.....

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These impressions of love feed your being and nothing and no one can take them away from you.

This clear vision of these romantic moments are yours. They are totally strong and grounded in you. Nothing and no one can remove them from your mind.

They are a source of inner pleasure and delight.

being in love is a wonderful feeling and you totally embrace it with trust..

There is no tension in.

You relax in that experience and enjoy it fully.

You are fearless!

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Now, I did value these feeling and gave them strength and power. I did consciously reinforce them in her.

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Now, let's take this even deeper, ok?

You follow me and do what I do.

Look at your beautiful hands and rub them against each other.

Next, touch your face gently.

Now open up with a gentle smile.

This smile open up more until you know it is an unstoppable stream of energy!

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Now, this was the physical anchoring of these emotions

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What to do next?

Do I need to follow up?

What is their agenda?

Do I need to introduce my own agenda? Yes? No?

What is it?

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You now want to connect...

Believe in yourself...

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Life is easy and everything you want is within reach!

You fully trust yourself!

You trust your instincts!

You now evolve within a space of emotional freedom where nothing ever holds you back.

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Now, these are affirmation statements. They are orders and directions!

Next step, get what you want? Or keep the wellness of others in mind?

Here is a potential shift to embarce and bring the well being of everyone in the picture.

It is a bit of a stretch... and feels more natural to stay focused on just her

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You always easily get what you want with love, respect

Why? Because you are totally in tune and synchronized with all forces at play.

You are the center of energies...

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Or...

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You get what you want easily because what you want is what is best not only for you but for everyone you interact with.

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Ok, now, we enter into an area where there are potentially conflicting interests.

Two very clear directions show up:

the first one is individual focused, my goals and my wants at all costs

the second is selfless service and being an agent of change not only for yourself but for others as well...

What is the right choice?

Is it too early for both?

What is the right closure?

You are from midwest...

I want to tell you something about yourself:

You make imagery in your mind very vivid

You are smiling because you know I am right...

if you are borded, even if you are looking right at this person, you could be a million miles away (said very slowly looking straight in the eyes with a gentle smile) in your ideal favorite fantasy vacation...

True?

..............

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Comments:

What is surprising with this vid is that she seems already "sold" to him in the moment he comes closer to her and asks her a question.

His confidence is total, no doubt. He knows what is is doing.

Then, the whole hypnotic message...

Does it work?

Sure it works!!!

The results show in her attitude and total openess...

Well.. the presence of the camera might be intimidating as well.

This gives him and edge of power and recognition.

She thinks: he is being filmed, that guy must be important!

Increased social value in her eyes...

That's the steps to build up physical connection, first touching nad, hug, then kiss for instance...

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Simple!

That's the fear of approaching.

There is a simple way to kick that one out forever!

I'll come back and show you soon how to do just that!

http://vitalcoaching.com/datingformen.htm

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The key to seduction is to accelerate the emotions and to give her the feeling that she has known you for longer than she has

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disqualify her openly:

"Well that means it probably would never work between us because..."

http://vitalcoaching.com/datingformen.htm

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You are overwhelmed when you are not prepared and are feel really attracted to a girl.

It's like talking to a crowd of a thousand people and having to start cracking jokes with no idea of where to start.

the best way to avoid overwhelm is to train before hand.

If you do have a couple of well trained routines, the moment you meet THE challenge, it will seem very easy to open the set with the routine you already practiced or start teasing her

http://vitalcoaching.com/datingformen.htm

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This is one of the easiest way to open a set:

"What do you think of...."

"Would you agree that...", "Why?"

"My friend believes that... What's your opinion on that?"

http://vitalcoaching.com/datingformen.htm

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this will make you super good at opening sets .

You become excellent at delivering that specific routine! You master it!

http://vitalcoaching.com/datingformen.htm

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This is to keep things really simple!!!

http://vitalcoaching.com/datingformen.htm

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A wing is a wing man. It's a friend who will help the energy going and eventually strengthen or support your moves

In other terms connecting with the stream! Once you get moving it's easy.

How do you that?

Simple: start talking! with anyone!

When you get talking you get moving.

Once the real challenge comes you are all warmedc up.

Open at least three sets as a warm up routine.

Yes! that's the goal.

More on this coming soon

This is what happens when you approach a small group of people (2, 3, 4 etc person's set), and you connect with the whole set at once.

In many social situations, that's what you will have to do.

It might be rare to see a woman you are attracted to all by herself.

This means that having the skills to open a set is key!

More on how to do just that coming soon...

Coming on all fronts at the same time is challenging.

Ask yourself:

"What is the key quality or skill I need to develop this evening?"

Identify it and focus on that one as a guide line.

For instance:

"Practice being the most important person in the room"

That could be your target for the evening.

Make sure that women perceive you that way and everything you do must reflect that role.

Resistances to play that role?

What if you are with friends and you all have the same target (being the most important person in the room?) - Can it still work? - of course it can!

Any guys who play that role increases his level of attraction because he positions himself as the leader of men.

yes! You can have many leaders in a room.

And no, you don't need to put others down to play that role!

giuys will sometimes be so afraid of loosing touch with her that they will be very insistant in their behavior.

If she feels like leaving, it means that attraction did not build up.

We'll check later what to do if you are trapped in that pattern

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"But... I would never do something like that with someone like you. You look like a city gril who would not be to at ease in nature. Of course I could be wrong. But you would have to demonstrate that to me live.

the fact that we won't ever share that does not mean we can't have drink... Of course we can still have a chat."

nagging = Fault-finding; teasing; persistently annoying

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You need a couple of topic you really like and they need to trigger attraction in women as well.

Select a topic and dive in, and ask her questions, opinion and keep on questioning her choices.

There are two ways you can demonstrate your higher value:

By behaving from that position and letting others relate to you from that place.

Or you can talk about experiences you had which do demonstrate that higher value.

Once attraction is granted and you did demonstrate higher value, the next step is to create comfort.

how do you create comfort?

Again, you suggest it.

I want you to feel really at ease.

here, have a drink.

That's called being a gentleman in the old sense.

Now, when you display a creation of comfort, you don't have to put your power down.

being kind when she knows you don't have to will trigger security in her.

She will stay tense as long as she does not feel this sense of comfort.

What gives her comfort is your confidence and the fact that you do give her protection.

Now, once you have the attitude right, how do you express that verbally to her?

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Show examples of your life where you describe situations where women are attracted to you. No arrogance, simply describe facts and real events where women did show appreciation for you.

Ask for advice on this situation.

for instance:

the other day at work, this girl was flirting with me intensely. I noticed her before but I can't say why she suddenly decided to be so into me... Any idea? Does your level of attraction change during a month? Did you notice it change in you?

how do you feel when you are attracted to a guy?

You like having a crush then?

Do you feel you loose touch or control when you are in love?

These last ones start being hypnotic and subliminal messages

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You hear these ones before right?

• Preselected by women

Show examples of your life where you describe situations where women are attracted to you. No arrogance, simply describe facts and real events where women did show appreciation for you.

Ask for advice on this situation.

for instance:

the other day at work, this girl was flirting with me intensely. I noticed her before but I can't say why she suddenly decided to be so into me... Any idea? Does your level of attraction change during a month? Did you notice it change in you?

how do you feel when you are attracted to a guy?

You like having a crush then?

Do you feel you loose touch or control when you are in love?

• Leader of men
• Protector of loved ones
• Willingness to emote

Preselected by women?

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I feel you are open, outgoing, smart
life-loving and fun to be with...

You flow with life, enjoy the fresh air... the
sensual touch of nature.

You feel good in your body...

You want to explore new horizons... Would you
be here otherwise?

PS: I must definitely extend the "going out"
section to intimate friendship, love, romance,
sex ...and of course I'm open for
suggestions...

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I'm free spirit, tantric lover, athletic and
attractive...

And... fun to be with, caring, sexy, smart and
have a successful life...

I m visiting New Zealand until April. Will be
back in Europe in April 2002 for a few
months...

Love is that playful merging of two spirits...

Originally swiss/spanish, I spent these last
few years living in various countries... I'm
familiar with so many places, I'm more like a
world citizen now...

On the professional side, I work with
individuals and groups on the life-coaching
field... outdoor training seminars, etc. I'm
actively engaged into helping people
reach their goals and desires.

I'm a life lover, passionate about existence,
who stimulates pleasure, delight and
excitement in daily life...

I look at you evolving through life and naturally
empower the beauty of your secret intimacy...

Romance between you and me is the
revelation of delight, the passionate play of
refinement.

I love your freedom as much as mine...

Show me your smile... Would love to flirt with
you...

ajaya1111 at y...a...h...o...o dot com

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What is the goal or the target?

To establish a meaningful flirty connection and as well some light intimacy.

What do you need or what is missing for this to happen?

A strong confidence base, outgoing and fun attitude but warm as well.

What is the key?

There must be excitement

Excitement and sexual awakening is the core of this.

What are the only dangers?

STD

Pregnancy

Emotional mess up, attachment, claiming, sudden shift and lack of fun.

So, these are the only reasons to step back, right?

Yes.

Does this stop you from having fun?

Not at all.

You simply have to be careful with these three aspects.

Yes!

So, what do you need now?

To express pure, solid and absolute confidence and magnetic attraction.

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Flirting Intro ideas


I want to make sure you walk with a man at your arm.

You look like someone who would like to be invited to the party of the year!

Do you work out?

What is your favorite destination.

I would like to see you again.

I don’t like animal testing.

What are you looking for? Maybe I can help you find it.

I saw these nice tops on sale not far from here, I think you should checked them out.

Care for a strawberry?

Care for a strawberry shake? Or are you more of a chocolate girl?

Have you seen the last episode of temptation island?

Do you like soaps?

You look just like…

Hi, I am Brad Pitt. I know, and we are not related…

Hi, I am Francesco, I am from Italy!

Hi, what breast size do you have?

Hi, do you model?

This friend of mine has this party tonight.

Have you been to the new beach club? Shall we meet there sometime?

I have a good friend I would like you to meet.

I need a female opinion on something. *****

Is it true that women don’t like being approached in public? **

If a perfect stranger was walking to you on a mall, would you give him your number?

How many times did you get laid last week? -----

When is the last time you had sex? -----

How is your love life? -----

Have you been fantasizing about me, lately?

You know that I like you, right?

I am not looking for a relationship, I am looking for some fun, are you in?

I need a female opinion on a challenge I am facing at work.

I am in the middle of a crisis and I need some comfort

Are you enjoying the city?

Have you seen the last episode of sex in the city?

If a perfect stranger was walking to you in a mall, would you give him your number?

Suppose we would not know each other. If I was approaching you out of the blue, how would you react?

Would you like to play a game with me? It’s quite fun!

I am testing a new theory on women. ***

I heard that if you ask 5 women for their phone number 4 of them will give it to you.

Do you think it’s true?

I just got 4 phone numbers from 4 strangers and you are the 5th!

Don’t you give that look! I told you I was sorry!!! I won’t cheat on you again! You said we would give it another try and now, you ignore me. -----

This one is bad because it tells about a possible future but creates a negative image of it. It triggers imagination but send out the wrong message

Why are you ignoring me!

Again, bad

I had enough of that!

You stay away from my wife!!! -----

??? Non sense – Inner joke - bad

I warned you! Now you went one step too far! -----

I heard many times that very beautiful women don’t know how to be kind. Do you think it’s true?

I heard that beautiful women like it when a stranger approaches them in public.

Is this true?

I mean, I have always been fascinated by what happens in a woman’s mind. My theory is that they keep rejecting opportunities which come to them and then complain that they are still single.

What is biggest turn off you can get from a man? **

Good because it triggers the conversation – but is it good? Maybe too serious and not teasing enough

I know that you are looking for excitement but you don’t know where to find it. ****

Good teasing

Can I pick your brains? ****

Good teasing – but what next?

Can I check your brains?

Let me look into your eyes… Yes! You have a brain! *****

One of the best because jerk teasing – Believe this would work

Does you hair look like that when you wake up in the morning? **

Not sure about that one – we enter into a sensitive subject - hair

Or did you just spend the last 4 hours pampering yourself? **

Same teasing is good but challenging the body is bad – not sure she has enough humor to laugh on that one

So, when did you break up with him? *

Talking about an ex – Not a nice memory to recall – You head for being a best friend – It does not put you in the lover’s position

I know, he treated you like shit! You did the right thing in leaving him! *

Same

How come you chose for him?

That’s it! I’m leaving her! ---

It’s a compliment without tease – it shows that you already adore her – Has the opposite effect than what you would like to create

How often do you feel it is healthy to have sex? **

Right track – But needs to be more subtle

Suppose I would ask you for your number. Would you give it to me? --

Gives her a choice and the possibility to say no – no teasing and no challenge – a bit flat

What would you like to give me? You phone number or your email address? --

Flat – Not very original

Would you like me to call you at home or on your cell phone?

Flat – not very original and does not trigger imagination

Would you prefer giving me your cell phone or your home number.

Would you like me to get back to you on your cell or by email?

I need help with setting up a profile on a dating site. I need a female opinion.

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What’s the opening?

Invitation?

What’s next?

Invitation for what?

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Hi!

I am a light, flirty guy who does not play games. I know I am not here to settle down. I enjoy my freedom but do enjoy sharing it with friends from all over the world.

Sometimes, I will share something more “intimate” with a special woman, but to tell you the truth, I just enjoy the sharing of two minds.

On an intimate level, I like the ideas and practices around tantra, as they give to any love exchange a new dimension of beauty and pleasure. Nothing extreme or complete, it’s just about enjoying what is there and allowing the energies to flow.

Immensely fulfilling, I think.

I travel. I am free spirit, have my own business online which gives me the freedom to live where I want and when I want.

I lead a very simple life style and easily take time in nature by the sea, forests or high mountains.

I love staying healthy, eating well, don’t drink, don’t smoke and don’t use drugs. Lately, I am experimenting with eating just raw food which seems to really work so far…

Gives me a real energy boost.

I am really easy going though. Not fanatical about forcing that kind of stuff on anyone.

I am in the best place I have ever been in my life. No hang-ups or stupid worries.

I am really grounded emotionally and really take great pleasure in giving to those I care for.

Dark side you ask? Well, what some people would call dark is just the other side of the medal. I can’t see a difference myself.

I am pretty passionate about what I do.

I don’t let anyone limit my freedom. I do let people in, tough. I simply don’t give them control of my life, that’s all.

I love as well pushing my body to extremes. Last two winter, I did for instance jump in a cold lake everyday. Temperatures below zero. I broke the ice a couple of times to get it.

“Nuts!” You might think…

Sure! I like training my body to deal with this type of extreme challenges.

Same with some sports and outdoor activities. I enjoy stretching my limits when running swimming, biking or trekking.

I am of course not perfect, but definitely get this feeling that I found what I was looking for in life.

So, what am I doing in this site?

Well, I love sharing all this with people. I like connecting on many levels, giving and receiving more of these precious life gifts.

I know now that men and women can relate to each other in so many ways. I like exploring all this. This site is a gold mine of links, connections and I really like what I see here. Many, many spirits I enjoy connecting with.

Looking forward to meet you!

That’s it for now… More coming soon if you ask for it 

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Directive challenging and teasing communication – Really connecting with girls

With the challenging teasing funny attitude, there have been many good results.

In fact, it really feels that this has been the most successful communication style so far in terms of reaching girls.

The challenging answers stimulate an engaged and teasing dialogue.

In comparison, the open, romantic, soft attitude did generate nothing.

It’s very symbolical and clear!

Now, we are online!

This is a very specific environment. My guess is that in the dating scene, the same kind of rules apply. If you are simply kind, you’ll get close to no response and be ignored.

Being kind is apparently perceived as being weak.

At this stage, there have been some very good breakthroughs but the techniques are not yet fully mastered.

What I need now is a clearer and stronger stream of energy which guides me in this communication style.

To take that step, you need to understand the goal and the target of such action.

This is really about breaking the ice.

The ice is cristallized. It is this shield that people put up naturally.

Now, when you want to reach someone, you’ll need to break through that shield.

If you simply act kind, you will simply bounce on the surface because the force you use does not have enough impact.

The shield which is up is a form of power.

It is a wall of energy.

Unless you manage to efficicently break that wall, you’ll get zero or very very little response.

On the other hand if you use a strong impacting force, you’ll get to the core of this person and effectively reach her.

Now, the reason why most men do not use this communication style with women is because they don’t master that force and are afraid as well of playing that game.

It’s like going on stage and doing something you do not usually do.

Again, the reason why you want to use that force is because you want to reach a woman or a girl.

The reason why you want to reach her is because it will be much more fun the moment you.

For of both you, connecting is the thing to do.

Why is that because unless you have that connection or bridge, you can’t establish this tantric energy exchange and it’s a missed opportunity for the two of you.

The question is what do you do once you reach her?

Well, online for instance, see it as a training ground first.

The online medium is a way of training that skill.

What you can do online will of course eveolve further as well.

Once you master that skill and communication still, you can apply it and attract women much more easily.

You become a natural in the art of seduction and attraction.

Why? Because you understand fully how a woman functions and what she needs exactly at that moment.

The walls and the ice she tends to build up around her are like a prison.

These walls are useful most of the times, but when it comes to connecting with guys, she’ll often overprotect reject opportunities because this is what she trained herself to do out there.

When you use a directive force and break this ice, you change the rules of the game and set up a new course.

The course you set up is much more interesting for her because it will give her the space to feel and express emotions.

These emotions are the nectar she’s looking for.

She wants to feel something. She wants to feel passion and feel alive,

She wants to feel thrilled and excited and as guy who breaks her ice, you are the one who allows this flow of new emotions.

This is why your presence and attitude becomes almost addictive for her.

She loves it because if frees her from a rigid crystallized set of emotions.

This is why, even though your communication style can appear like aggressive sometimes or challenging, it is actually what she needs the most.

This challenge is what allows her to grow further and in fact experience new sensations.

This is why the impact you have is very different from what it feels at first.

You are a freeing force and this is why taking this challenging attitude is the best you can do.

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Teasing

So littleandxgirl, I mean litxand.., lit, I believe you made a couple of spelling mistakes in your name.

Did you? Can’t be sure I’ll date someone who can’t spell her name.

Is this some form of native name?

• So, what? It’s kind of a smart ass answer to complex… not funny
  

Are you always that grumpy. I do love grumpy girls and just want to make sure that if one day we meet. You’ll be exactly like on the picture. Can you offer a guarantee?

• Better. The guarantee thing is boring at the end. Find another way of ending it.

Anti drama? I don’t think that’s fair. What’s wrong with people trying to make a living with acting?

• Excellent!

5 favourite TV shows?!!! If I manage to unglue you from the TV screen, maybe you’ll cook some dinner for me? Is Saturday night okay with you?

• Good directive

A true person? You mean someone who is actually alive and human, not just a dog or a frog?

• She might laugh but then what?

Married at 19? 2 years old son? Do you always marry a guy you just met? What were you thinking?

• Teasing on a sensitive topic. Not good

So, you are a nurse interested in the supernatural. Makes total sense! I am so happy I found you!

• Cool, you need now to come with a plan or a question

Okay Sol, Anyone who is a bit brownish can say they are from tropical or ethnic descent. You find anything nowadays in make up shops and I am definite that your skin colour is either fake or due to some form of vitamin supplement. It’s obvious to me that you are in fact Caucasian from Russian descent… That’s just me. Can say whatever you want. You won’t convince me

• Excellent – teasing on skin colour and making fun of it. A bit long though…

Whoa! Dayum! Hottie! You’ve got the longest list of “must not” so far! What about something positive? I tried to get between the big huge body guards at the entrance of your profile but got kicked back.

I tried to remove my picture before sending you this mail (to annoy you even more) but I was too busy selecting the weirdest location on earth for our first date.

• No! No! No! these THOUGHT images do not work! Shift for another style. The beginning is great
• Too long – too trying to be smart and sticking to the exact scenario she designed. You are abusing a cool strategy and overusing it in just one email.

You’re cute but pretty angry. Say cheese! Ok! That’s better. Do you have an MP3 recording of your laugh?

• What the ***??? Good until the say cheese! After that’s it’s downhill

Love, laugh, fun and more fun and laugh!!! What’s wrong with you? Your profile is a total offence against those who are depressed and take their daily doses of valium to stay on alive. If YOU are so happy always, how come you look depressed first picture from the right… Yeah! THAT one!!!! Gotcha! Yes! The wrinkle or rinkel, how d’you write this?

• Shorter is best. One line and then nothing. It has greater impact
  
  
  

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Okay,

What most guys miss when going on a date with a girl is a plan that works.

A plan is not a set of rigid sentences you want to say.

If it was rigid and fixed, it would be boring.

No, what you want is to connect with the spirit of effective and fun dating.

When you meet a woman, success means that you connect.

It’s not about having sex or not. It’s just about connection.

Dialogue is the number way to establish a connection.

What you say and the way you relate to each other are the visible parts of your connection.

This is what you want to understand.

So, let’s check deeper ideas on how to create a lively, effective and meaningful connection with a woman you like.

The first minute:

“Hi! Good to see you again. So where shall we go to have real fun today?”

Was this a good opening?

How high does it rate in your inner success scale?

70%

What would be even better?

“Hi, I’ll be your date today! You look terrified. Don’t worry, I only eat small children and baby frogs”

Okay! That was plain stupid! 40%

Why?

“You look terrified” puts her down without opening.

Let’s try something else:

“Are you always that terrified at a first date?”

“I’m not terrified. I can perfectly handle the challenge”

“So, it is a challenge!”

“Well, it’s not what I mean. I find it quite easy to actually be with any guy… I am always very comfortable with first dates. I have guys in my pocket from the first date”

“Whaou! You seem like a serial dater. Not sure what I am getting into. Maybe I should run away before it’s too late…”

“You mean you don’t want to date me?”

“Well, let’s give it a try…”

“Whaou! You seem like a serial dater. Are you serial with everything or only with dating?”

“with none. I am not serial with anything”

Etc.

Next?

“Hi, Whaou! Gorgeous! Great combination! Where shall we go? Do you have any preference?”

40%

You let her take the lead. The compliment means that you are already hers. There is no challenge or subtlety in your questions

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Teasing… Do you just go on and on and on?

Or do you shift to something else after a while.

Teasing is good because it challenges and surprises.

Is it wise to shift the mode and go to

Validating
Caring
Complicity
Serious talk

???

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Teasing ideas

Are the teasing ideas or directions things to use just once or can you keep on using the same teasers which work really well with different women?

Examples:

• You are a serial dater
• You are terrified
• So, you look for a green card?
• Sport addict
• Workaholic

It seems that when you suggest these things, you label or categorize them into a fixed behaviour box and this creates a challenging conflict for a woman which forces her to defend herself.

In other terms, teasing works because you create conflict.

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Sexual communication starters for first dates

So, tell me about a moment you felt truly happy

How did that feel?

Why did you loose that feeling?

What would you do if you wanted to recall that feeling again?

• The theme is good but you let her guess too much. To succeed you need to be more directive

What is the sense that you enjoy the most? I mean, through what sense do you experience the most intense pleasure?

• That’s very good!!! Excellent. It’s good because it is very specific and gives her space at the same time

What happens exactly when you experience that pleasure?

Would like to experience this pleasure more often?

You know you would like to experience this pleasure more often

Are you saying that you would not like to experience this pleasure more often if you could?

• Good

I know we could talk about your business and projects which are out there but I feel these projects are not the priority.

The priority is you: Once I know you are experiencing your life fully, I’ll be happy to shift to this topic…

• Are you saying I am not happy?
• That’s not a good message to send out…

If you had the choice between discovering a new marketing strategy and experiencing a new sense of magic, what would you choose?

• All these directions you take are okay but you use words like magic, energy, almost tantra… You are setting up a very new agy tone… Might be a turn off… Might be the way to go as well…Can you westernize what you say?

If you could recall at will your most pleasurable experience ever, would you do it?

• Are you trying to market me something? Are you misleading me and giving me hope when in fact, you have no idea of what to do next?
• The dimension of lightness and fun is missing so far. These words and directions are on the edge of being almost heavy and too serious topics. You might need to make her laugh a bit more, don’t you think?
• Does the sexual communication merge with the challenging funny style or are these two definitely different grounds that must not be mixed?
• The feeling that I get is that you start by funny challenging style to break the ice and then you do shift gear to engage into sexual communication and wake up more connection.
• This has to do with energy.
• At the same time, effective sexual communication might work in itself alone without starting up with challenging openingings.
• Are all possibilities just open or is there a way of doing it which works much better?
  
  
  
  
  
  
  

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Sexual communication starters online

So, what is the most pleasurable experience you had this year?

• First reaction is: I am not sure a girl is ready to talk about her intimate pleasures with a perfect stranger. Are you sure you want to start with this?
• Girls want to relax online, not go into some form of profound and sensitive exploration of their senses, especially if they don’t know where they are going.
• This means that someone must know where all this is going and it is you!
• Don’t just take them there and then abandon them in the middle of know where with no access to what you subjectively promised.

You’ve got this huge sensual smile. When I say your profile, I got it straight away. I thought, gosh! You look like you are having fun in life!!!

• This is general an could apply to any girl
  
  
  
  

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Why does sexual communication work?

It works because there is a taboo force around sex, senses and pleasure.

Everyone wants to be freed from these limits. Only few people know how to do this and remove the barriers around sex and pleasure.

Sexual communication means that you open doors in a girl and attract her in that territory.

There is the thrill of the forbidden. There is the excitement of the pleasure memories.

The senses wake up.

This is a fight because most of what surrounds her daily has nothing to do with that. In fact, work, practicalities etc, take her away from these pleasures and excitement.

You, as a guy want to bring her to feel like a woman again. Free her senses and wake up her pleasure.

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So, what is sexual communication?

Here is an example of sexual communication.

What does the taste of this spice remind you of?

Imagine for a second that this evening something will happen that will bring you back to the most enjoyable moment of your life.

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I love this feeling, imagining what an evening with you would be. The first reaction I woman might feel when she gets a message like this one is easily mistrust.

Not sure why actually.

“The man must be a player or desperate. It won’t work anyway. He is too far away. I can’t feel butterflies in my stomach”

Are you feeling one of these thoughts in you or just thinking “Not interested”

Today, I decided to be very sincere with you. I decided to tell you directly that I feel this intense desire to look deep into your eyes.

Yes! It is a love letter.

Yes! It’s authentic and totally sincere.

Yes! I would jump in it if there was an occasion to spend an hour or more with you.

I find you very sweet, love your smile. I think you are charming.

Now, true, I am in a place where I see a spark and I love that feeling.

I know it’s sentimentalism and yes, my head is totally steady on my shoulders. I love this dream. I love this experience. I love diving in it without worrying about what tomorrow will be.

What I love as well is the freedom in it. I love the fact that I contemplate your being in a glimpse of eternity. It’s the eye of the storm. Like a vibrant silence.

It’s this very subtle sensual pleasure waking up in my skin and rising through my whole body.

I do wish you will answer this message but at the same time expect nothing.

You might be with a lover tonight, letting your lips breathe with intensity while you touch this warm skin with your finger.

A pity that in moments like this one, we don’t have the physical capacity to fly and meet. Without fears or questions. Without expectations, without power games. Without anything but the link between two spirits.

Answering to me is in no way a commitment.

I am not in a position where I am desperate. I do worship your beauty for an hour, maybe more.
Maybe the sensation will go away after a while. I don’t care. It does not matter.

You are a shining being full of inner joy and immense clarity and I love what I see in you.

Enjoy your life and get back to me to open this circle and pure romantic dance.

Maybe you’ll be more than a fantasy or a dream. Would love to connect one day.

Claro que si! Que Viva La Vida.

Escribeme guapa!

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This is a new experiment. I would not call it light way. Let’s sensual or sexual communication.

It’s based this time on respect love and hopefully humour and some good teasing or challenging as well.

The goal is simple: get responses and get to the point.

Imagine that it’s something that you would do for years. Is this a communication style that you could use easily any time anywhere?

That’s it

Ciao Bella,

You speak Italian right? I say this because you are looking for romance and Italy is definitely the place for that.

I did not say much in profile because I actually prefer sending this to only you…

• It becomes already sensual, quite close, no humour, sentimental, not really good for so many reasons

Good spark but you’re too young of course. Anyway. I thought you would like to know that you touched a nice string. It’s a pleasure to see a girl who is having fun and looks pretty outgoing. You’ll find the guy you look for soon. I am sure.

• That’s pretty coachy and does not open an avenue for anything between you and her. You put yourself aside and in the best friend role which is not what you want.

Hi,

Like your profile and description. Sounds authentic and very close to who you are, I think. Go and check my profile… Saw it? Yep! There’s hardly anything on it.

Guess I had to wait to meet you so that you can inspire me with a starting point.

Here is what we can do: ask me a couple of personal questions. This will get me started and then, I’ll post my answers on my profile (or keep them for you only if you prefer…)

Can you do that?

• That’s a good start… It’s spontaneous and free open. I think it’s kind and original as a request. Basically call for help, and offers her a way of participating into your life. Sounds a possible way to go which can lead to a new opening later.

Hi,

I’ll be honest with you. We are as different as day and night. I can hardly relate to any of the traits you want from a man.

Now, my dilemma is this one: there are a couple of things I would like to tell you which have nothing to do with what you say you want… Is it okay for me to share this with you?

• What? What do you mean? It’s soft no challenge… You give her a cosy space but you are apologizing before you even speak to her.

Pretty busy studying aye?

Okay! You have the most subjective picture I saw so far on this site. Well done. I mean however took did a perfect job and brought that this sensual sexy seducer in you.

Now, about you? It’s amazing what happens when we just trapped into the daily routine. Do you still stay in touch with this deep sensual part of your life. Is it easy? Or does it get challenged by all this things that should be done in life? I really like this hint and that magic which comes through when the moment is right.

My profile does not have much… Coming soon. I’ll gladly answer any question you have though.
Advice: don’t look or think too far. This is just some light chatting. I’m no jerk.

• Nice, sincere. The first question is: would it work? The second question is: Is this what you are looking for? Just chatting and being kind? Is this being wussy?

Kids come first?

Fair enough. I have a busy life too. No kids though but business, travels, friends, staying in good shape, etc.

• Little or no chemistry!!! Of course, it can be built. Force or step back?

Ciao!

When I see your profile, I see so many different girls! Gosh, you truly know how to change your personality. Must be fun. I like that. Where are you heading next?

• It’s okay but this is just chit chat with little depth. It’s okay though. No need to head for some form of tantric supernatural experience. This might indeed be the way to go. You can keep it very light and natural, just as it flows

Sweet and cute picture. Glad for all the men out here (especially me – well… I think you might need someone younger actually) that you decided it’s time to experience with the opposite sex.

Guys are so much easier to deal with than women… You’ll love it, I am sure!

Now, if you don’t have much experience with guys, this is definitely where I can help you with. I can guide you through the male mind and show you around… Would you like that? You can start with my brain…

Want to play the game?

First question?

• All this is very sweet again… It’s actually lots of fun to go that way.

You look like a sweet girl. So, where is your next trip to?

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Communication style

Right now, two directions have been tried:

The challenging, teasing one

This one did bring great results in terms of response. More than anything I tried before. Humor, style. It matched. With som great breakthroughs in some unexpected situations

The light, fun tone

This one was not experienced too much yet. But is another communication style avenue.

The energy behind that one is nice. Potential results? Unknown

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What is still missing

What is still missing is a some form of plan on what to do next.

After a few positive steps, what d’you do next.

The traditional directions are about:

• Sex
• Building a steady relationship
• Simply chatting online
• Tantra
• Simply having fun
• Energy exchange

There are many situations where this energy exchange just happened positively:

• Music
• Outdoor
• Coaching

Sex and love – with women

Now, in this specific context, a new sponsoring force is missing.

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In that space, right now, there is this strong feeling of having broken through, I am not sure of what the next move is.

What does life tell you right now?

That once this target can be reached it no longer really matters.

Once it is easy, it’s simply part of life and no longer needs to be persued.

On the other hand, what I would really like is to be able to establish this deep and profound sense of joy and maybe tantric flow via these connections.

This is the next stage and once confidence is achieved, I am not sure how to do that.

What you feel now very strongly is that the women you did write to and who answer in a challenging way, miss you initiative and you connecting with them.

It’s their job to insult you and abuse you when you contact them but at the same time, they immensely miss it when you don’t give them the occasion to play that role.

This means that there is now a gap.

This gap is a natural call. This energy is asking for more.

There is definitely a new sense or feeling of love waking up which feels quite different than the original state.

Anyway. The question is how to communicate next? What to say next? Where to go next?

What is pretty clear is that activating this tool to the max is like playing an instrument.

It wants to flow and find its own melody.

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Shifting strategy half way

Okay, it seems now pretty clear that shifting strategies half way and trying to establish sexual communication before the funny challenging mode was establsihsed was a mistake.

In fact I feel side tracked and suddenly nowhere with no road and no direction.

It’s like holding a string in the dark and then trying to find it back.

There is a way of doing this. Here we go:

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Focus or diversify styles?

Focus on just challenging style for a week of month and then shift to learning about another style?

Or is it better to dive into sexual communication already after a few days of training and discovering the challenging style?

Should I focus on one style until it is totally mastered or should I already shift to this other style and other stage (?) of the dating process?

This is an open question

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First date starters

Hi, good to see you

So, what’s the plan for today?

So, you have a boy friend?

Tell me about the last time you had sex

Is there a way to get you to come back to my room with me?

Love the stunning dress. Tell me what you were thinking when you decided to wear it.

• We start walking there… This is the wake up

I believe you are bored and I will lighten up your day

• No… Still no teasing or challenge. Space invading. Not really good. A bit challenging though which is better than just: “what do you do”

Tell me about the last time you had sex. What was really good about it

• Not sure you want her to share a potentially negative experience

Tell me about the best sex experience you ever had

• Are you sure you want her to recall the best sex experience with an ex. You might end up feeding memories and becoming a best friend

What does sensuality mean for you?

• Good direction but quite general

I believe that most people waste too much time talking about what does not matter at all because they don’t dare to come to the point and talk truly about what matters the most.

The reason they do that is because they are afraid to open and connect.

Do you want to waste your afternoon or do you want to enter into secret rooms together?

• That’s very nice and much better. You are becoming directive. You know what you want. It is intriguing and wakes up some for of desire to explore further. Now, the person has to feel safe and be sure that where you want to go is a place she can follow you to.
• The risk could be to turn all this into a therapy session. That’s not what you want at all
• You don’t want either to create some form of emotional commitment which ends up saying that you two are soul mates… Another dead end.
• There is more

Would love to see you naked in nature… Are you comfortable with your own naked body? Do you enjoy watching yourself in the mirror naked?

That’s a tricky question… What if she says “No”? The naked body is a good direction though if you can associate it with sensuality.

I had this experiences on the beach always. Just naked. Keeping a couple of pieces of jewellery on me and simply feeling the warm sand on my skin. Such an incredible feeling. Loved it.

• Now, we are talking about sensuality but you are talking about yourself. This is self centered and she would rather you talk about her. Have you ever heard someone trying to describe this experience they felt one day. It can be nice but you are giving. Most people would rather talk about what they feel. And you want to make sure that she gets in that space.

Next:

Where would you rather have sex?

On a deserted beach?

On the kitchen table?

In a Florentine hotel?

Feeling the fresh breeze of the wind on your skin while laying on the white sheets. The house is open with

At a party in a dark corner of the garden when no one is watching

Next to another couple

With a two men

With a woman and a man

With a couple (a few) other men or women watching

While you are recorded

In an Indian palace, surrounded by deities, candles and burning incenses

What does the word tantra invoke for you?

Next? Sexual communication directions

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First results

Are impressive!

70% of messages answered with a few ongoing discussions.

Here are some conclusions about what happened so far:

• “You look sad” does not work and was deleted – probably hit a sensitive topic. Teasing does not work when what you say is actually true and the person can’t take it. It’s not an emotion she wanted to recall
• The humour side of the messages is not obvious enough. Right now, when they read messages, the challenging is obvious. The funny no so much. This must be worked on deeper so that the emotion generated is not just a defence mechanism but a desire to engage.
• The next step is to speed up the discussion rhythm. While the content, essence and energy is good, it still need to become more natural, like and ongoing thinking and emotional pattern.
• Compared with the original communication style: being kind and compliments and romantic (which got close to 0 responses… well 2 out of 10 messages with no follow up possibility) this communication style works of course much better. The shift in responses and the way it makes you feel is impressive!!!
  
  
  
  

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Aggressive is different from funny and challenging

The last few messages have been okay in the style and good thing to be sent.

This in itself is already a great victory.

Now, if I had received such messages, I am not sure I would have answered. The general tone is okay but need to show more humour in them. Right now the humour side is not obvious, almost missing actually

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Once you come up with some lines, the next step is to fully detach yourself from the outcome.

This is where most people fail to create what they want socially.

That’s one of the key skills to develop next.

It might be the number one dating skill.

It is the ability to actually takes steps without being high or worrying about what others will think.

Your lines are now okay.

The goal is now to remove doubts and do start dialogue and connections.

The energy which is now between you and success is a useless emotion.

It is one of those guarding barriers which have nothing to do in your mind.

The moment you remove it, your level of happiness jumps 5 points straight away.

Same for social satisfaction.

Let’s track a bit deeper the cause and build up of this social limit and how to overcome it.

It’s very simple!!! It’s a social build up which tends to kill and separate you from others.

Now, what you want is a linking force which is strong enough to break that limit.

This linking force is your new emotional ground. Your natural state is active communication in the way you approached so far.

It’s not exceptional communication and then back to separation; it is ongoing communication in whatever means and then every now and then back to temporary separation if you need or want to. Better even not to go back to separation at all!!!

See how it works?

Contact is your natural state. Complicity, linking connecting.

The next step is to shift and establish this new state of mind as the natural way of being.

Effortless.

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Possible directions:

Right now, there is already a possible deviation happening because my imagination or inspiration see what would be if focusing on forum activity.

This would lead to success to simply be honest and direct.

Forum impact.

That’s a good one.

Why not, right?

On the other hand, it is like missing the dating and open communication link to shift back to a field I am more used to.

Choice. What direction to go.

Both work

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How to train and develop your dating skills

Send emails to girls who are active online

If you don’t know what to say to a girl when you meet her, here is a powerful way to train your skills.

Go do a dating site.

(Plentyoffish.com is a good place to start and it’s free)

Select a 10 girls profile and keep all these windows open on your computer.

Choose one girl. Look at her profile for 10 seconds and imagine what you would tell her if you were emailing her right now.

Don’t worry if what you come up with sounds stupid or cheesy.

The first step is to activate this connecting skill.

Next, take the lines you wrote and give yourself a mark for that specific line.

0% is totally bad – 100% is excellent

The question you want to ask yourself is:

“How effective is that line when wanting to connect with her?”

In other words:

Will that line trigger her interest and make you want to know you?

Will this trigger attraction towards you?

Once you give yourself a mark for that specific line and if your mark is not that high, describe why you think this line is good or not good.

Next: if the line you wrote was not that effective, try to come up with a line that you feel would work best.

Within an hour, you should have ten good lines for these ten girls or profiles.

Should you send these girls these messages.

Well no need to right now.

The best is to practice this technique for a week.

Try lines and understand why certain line work and other don’t.

Imagine being in her shoes.

Would you respond or not?

The goal of this technique is simply to activate your dating skills and as well understand how a woman’s psyche functions.

It is a little bit like going to the gym. It takes a few weeks to build up your dating muscle and become really good at it.

The next step is to go live and start actually connecting with girls.

If you feel that the dating environment is artificial, get over it. It’s not! It is the perfect training ground to develop these skills

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Do they need to know for sure that you are teasing them?

Yes! Definitely yes!

In person, it’s easy to show via smile and body language.

Now, online and via the internet, the best way to show that you tease her is by adding a last line which makes sure that she understands you tease or challenge her.

If it’s not funny, it’s simply aggressive or challenging without reason.

The funny component must be there, otherwise you’ll totally miss the point and the humour side of it.

What you want is to generate a certain emotion in her.

This is the emotion you build up on.

The words you use are simply a way of stimulating that emotion.

The reason she enjoys your words is because of the emotions (and the biochemicals released in her body when she feels that emotion) that wake up in her.

It does work because this reaction is not a choice.

It is like drinking water when you are thirsty. You can try to reason it but you’ll still drink the water when you are thirsty.

These lines trigger something in a woman she wants more off. It is totally irrational and she simply can’t help it.

It’s a sensation she wants to experience over and over again and she wants to spend time with men who can trigger that specific emotion in her.

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What to do if the girl looks like and easy pray?

What if she appears to be naïve and inexperienced.

Do you stick with the challenging, teasing mode or do you shift to a new style?

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You see a woman’s profile

What do you say?

How come that for me, 95% of what comes seems useless and does not do the trick.

If I was a woman and a guy would contact me that, I would see no reason to respond.

Most of what naturally comes to mind is flat and boring.

Does this mean that I am a boring guy?

No, it’s simply a lack of skills.

To connect, you need a common spirit. You need something that links you and gets you both excited.

This is the missing link you look for.

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Okay!

Basically even if she wants to meet guys, it’s very rare for a woman to simply open up and respond to your invitation for a chat.

Why is that?

Because they believe there must be something wrong.

Here is a list of potential rejections they come up with:

• He must be desperate

Not true!!!

Women won’t object if you are actually confident and interesting.

There must be a high level of excitement and as well a ….

Not the way to go…

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The best way to find out is to try.

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It’s essential for it to be focused on the person, not just some vague question you could send to anyone.

Talk about her, not about you!

Don’t be a smart ass and come up with a line she needs to digest for a minute before she understands it.

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Lines that don’t work:

When you finish communication with this line up of wuzzes of just want to kiss your ass, send me a mail and we’ll talk seriously about our next date.

• Aggressive – pretend to be better than others – enter into a competitive attitude – not focused – vague – not accurate – aggressive

I’m new to plenty of fish. Want to be my tour guide?

• Boring – flat – non challenging – uninteresting

I wanted to ask you a couple of question but not sure if you are sober today. Is this the right time?

• Better – 70% – 80% - Focused – Good teasing –
• Could be better with what is said around – are you sober today? Is good
  Are you sober today? Is this the right time?

That’s much better! Better than a longer sentence

The “separated” thing freaks me out. What you mean is that he slept on the couch last night and he is of course perfectly cool with you dating other guys?

• It’s good but touches on a sensitive topic – separation might be a fresh wound – not really the kind of feelings you want to invoke if you want to create attraction – On the other hand the tone is 100% right – it invokes an ex - overall 70 – 80%

Tell your Siamese sister to give me some space

Were you born like that, or did you decide to unite your life forever with your Siamese twin?

You know there are pretty good surgeons who can split you if you want…

• Better – a bit long – Not sure why this one does not click – not too subtle in the wording
  What I noticed now is that I am almost conditioned to believe these type of lines would not work.

In fact, this could be the next conditioning stage.

Are you terrified?

• Disconnected – too general – not specific enough

Okay, you’re definitely too young and inexperienced for me – I can’t see how we could possibly connect

• You are asking her to do all the work

Okay, you’re definitely too young and inexperienced – Have you ever been with a guy before?

• That’s much better because

Okay, you look pretty young and inexperienced – Have you ever been with a guy before?

• Still better – But she could almost think I am serious – It’s good and challenging
  Okay, you look pretty young and inexperienced – Have you ever been with a guy before? You heard about the opposite sex, right?

That’s pretty good – 90%

When you say a woman like me, do you mean that you are after rich, old and grumpy men only? You have absolutely no brain? You work for the Columbian mob? Your mother took the picture? Anything else I should know?

• Much better

So, Susan, This tattoo above your breast, does it carry your husband’s name or is it the mark of an even older romance?

• Too general and maybe inaccurate – not very sharp

So Susan, why did you decide to hide your breast behind a tattoo?

• Is it actually okay to talk about breasts?

So, Are you sober today or still recovering from last night’s hangover?

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What does not create attraction:

• Money
• Material security
• Books
• Knowledge
• rationality
• politics
• looks and fitness only
• neurotic behaviours
• being nice
• compliments
• dirty talk
• aggressive talk

What does create attraction is:

• Total confidence
• Challenging
• Sexual communication

Basically, you focus on her but in a different way.

The love and attraction triggers are very clear for her.

You just have to find them and activate them.

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