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Jun 19, 2009Don't take responsibility for someone else's actions - 5 min
Don't take responsibility for someone else's actions - 5 min
vitalcoaching.com - Artisans, 6 - 1299 Crans - Switzerland You may unsubscribe or change your contact details at any time. Jun 18, 2009How to deal with emotional harassment - ARTICLEThat's a key skill in life: How to set up boundaries when others are systematically invading your space or even abusing you emotionally. This can happen in relationships or with exes. It can happen in social circles, at work or with family members. It takes the form of over emotional reaction to things you do. You end up feeling like you walk on egg shells all the time, afraid of making mistakes that will call for emotional retaliation from those who abuse you. This emotional retaliation can take many forms. Sometimes it is expressed in the form of projected emotional anger. It can be physical abuse. Other times it might simply be silent treatment. You feel there is tension build up but nothing is being said. These patterns are called cohercive power. They are an expression of threat. The principle is the same as any form of threat. When someone expresses cohercive power, their goal is to conquer, dominate and get things their way. People use threat all the time against each other. If you start observing it in daily life, you will see dozens of examples popping up all around you. Any time a person uses threat either against you or someone else, observe what happens. On one side, you have an angry person wanting to have control or power. On the other side, you have another person wanting to avoid emotional pain. If you take this to a wider scale, you will see that nations use the same dynamics against each other. They use military threat. This is still cohercion, simply expressed on a larger scale. Now, that we defined emotional threat or harassment, the next question is: What do you do with it, especially if you are the victim of it? Well... Suppose that you are the victim of some bullying form, the reason why it happens is because part of you lets it happen. In probably 80% of the cases, the person who is victim from this harassment forgets to stand up for themselves. Suppose that an ex bothers you for instance. They keep calling and invade your space. You can say something like: "Look, I don't have time for that - I hear you and wish I could do something about it but I can't - Let's talk about this another time - I have to go..." DONE! I know, it takes courage and power to do that. You can practice this with anyone who steps on your toes. The moment they no longer can reach you, they usually start looking for another victim. If you are strong and put strategic walls to protect yourself from them, it literally takes you 5 min to shift a negative pattern that might have been there for years! What if someone else is the victim of this emotional harassment and you want to help? That's like a whole new skill. We'll cover that one another time, ok? To your power! http://vitalcoaching.com/wakeupyourpower.htm How to deal with emotional harassment - SOCIAL POWER
That's a key skill in life:
How to set up boundaries when others are systematically invading your space or even abusing you emotionally. This can happen in relationships or with exes. It can happen in social circles, at work or with family members. It takes the form of over emotional reaction to things you do. You end up feeling like you walk on egg shells all the time, afraid of making mistakes that will call for emotional retaliation from those who abuse you. This emotional retaliation can take many forms. Sometimes it is expressed in the form of projected emotional anger. It can be physical abuse. Other times it might simply be silent treatment. You feel there is tension build up but nothing is being said. These patterns are called cohercive power. They are an expression of threat. The principle is the same as any form of threat. When someone expresses cohercive power, their goal is to conquer, dominate and get things their way. People use threat all the time against each other. If you start observing it in daily life, you will see dozens of examples popping up all around you. Any time a person uses threat either against you or someone else, observe what happens. On one side, you have an angry person wanting to have control or power. On the other side, you have another person wanting to avoid emotional pain. If you take this to a wider scale, you will see that nations use the same dynamics against each other. They use military threat. This is still cohercion, simply expressed on a larger scale. Now, that we defined emotional threat or harassment, the next question is: What do you do with it, especially if you are the victim of it? Well... Suppose that you are the victim of some bullying form, the reason why it happens is because part of you lets it happen. In probably 80% of the cases, the person who is victim from this harassment forgets to stand up for themselves. Suppose that an ex bothers you for instance. They keep calling and invade your space. You can say something like: "Look, I don't have time for that - I hear you and wish I could do something about it but I can't - Let's talk about this another time - I have to go..." DONE! I know, it takes courage and power to do that. You can practice this with anyone who steps on your toes. The moment they no longer can reach you, they usually start looking for another victim. If you are strong and put strategic walls to protect yourself from them, it literally takes you 5 min to shift a negative pattern that might have been there for years! What if someone else is the victim of this emotional harassment and you want to help? That's like a whole new skill. We'll cover that one another time, ok? To your power! Labels: social power Jun 17, 2009You get more of what you focus on + 4 more tips
Some quick tips on life mastery and the art of manifesting!
Choose life mastery as your life target - TIP Your wish is my command! - TIP Choose life mastery as your life target - TIP
Life mastery is a REALLY cool life target because it puts everything into perspective and gives you a long term goal to thrive for!
Instead of seeing challenges as isolated events, you start realizing that these hurdles are interconnected and that the lerger purpose of all that is for you to become and better, more powerful human being. You know you reached a high degree of life mastery when you feel this sense of ownership over your life! Events are no longer “happening” to you! You start consciously creating and designing them! To your power! Why choose life mastery as your life target - 6 min - VIDEOWhy choose life mastery as your life target - 6 min Life mastery is a REALLY cool life target because it puts everything into perspective and gives you a long term goal to thrive for! Instead of seeing challenges as isolated events, you start realizing that these hurdles are interconnected and that the lerger purpose of all that is for you to become and better, more powerful human being. You know you reached a high degree of life mastery when you feel this sense of ownership over your life! Events are no longer “happening” to you! You start consciously creating and designing them! To your power! ————————— More vids to check –->> Use your power wisely! - 6 min Find the right mind posture! - 6 min I want time to do everything! - 6 min Find out what you want! - 5 min What YOU want! - 5 min How to use your mind wisely - Life mastery - 5 min Joy wins! ALWAYS! - FIGHT for your happiness! - 5 min - VIDEOJoy wins! ALWAYS! - FIGHT for your happiness! - 5 min This video is about happiness and how to CONQUER it! Your happiness is VERY precious and once you realize it is a quality you can REALLY fight for, the whole game changes! It is your right to do whatever it takes to get it! To your power! ————————- PS: more vids on the same topic: Shift your mood at will! - How to change your emotions - 5 min Simplify your life! - Lower your stress level instantly! - 5 min Stop finding excuses! - It's time for change! - 5 min Take risks! - Step out of your comfort zone! - 6 min Happiness is a skill you can train! - 6 min Connect with those who value and energize you! - 5 min ————————- Check the latest videos...These are short 6 min power kicks that tackle a specific life challenge! These are keys to boost your personal power and gain a greater sense of ownership over your life CARPE DIEM! - Seize the day! - 6 min Want results? - Focus on your top target for 30 days! - 6 min Train your mind! - Mind Fitness - Mind Gym - 6 min Why choose life mastery as your life target - 6 min Life is YOUR game! - Here is how you win! - 6 min Destroy your limitations! - Persevere! - Fight! - 6 min Conscious PEACE building! - 6 min This last one explain a simple technique to erradicate conflity out of your life! You can use with relationships, friends, colleagues at work. You can practice it and once you are very good idea, you can diplomatically bring back peace where there was potential for tension. To your power! Enjoy! > Keys to happiness - WATCH THIS...Keys to happinesshttp://vitalcoaching.com/wakeupyourpower.htm http://vitalcoaching.com/coaching.htm ———————————————- Keys to happiness Here is what is discussed in this video
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———————————————- Jun 16, 2009>>>> How to set goals - WATCH THIS...How to set goalshttp://vitalcoaching.com/wakeupyourpower.htm http://vitalcoaching.com/coaching.htm ———————————————- How to set goals Here is what is discussed in this video
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———————————————- CLARIFY YOUR OBJECTIVES - Find out first what you want! - 4 min - VIDEOhttp://vitalcoaching.com/wakeupyourpower.htm http://vitalcoaching.com/coaching.htm CLARIFY YOUR OBJECTIVES - Find out first what you want! - Vision - Plan - Action path Let go of what you can't control - 5 min
Let go of what you can't control - 5 min
vitalcoaching.com - Artisans, 6 - 1299 Crans - Switzerland You may unsubscribe or change your contact details at any time. The easiest way to overcome an addiction is to replace it by a positive one - TIP
If you feel there is an addiction you no longer want in your life, the best way to go is to replace this negative addiction by a postive one.
Your mind needs that focus and almost fanatical focus. That's the energy sustaining the negative addiction. This energy needs to find a new channel of expression when you get rid of a negative addictive behavior. How does it look like? You shift from overeating to being totally fanatical about your nutrition habits. You shift from a masturbation addiction to being totally dedicated to your tantric sex practices. You destroy a smoking addiction and turn this energy into super healthy life style choices. The point is that you don't want to suppress that source of energy and power which creates the addiction, you want to redirect it and use it positively for a new purpose! http://vitalcoaching.com/wakeupyourpower.htm MUSIC! - Harmonic connections between human beings - TIP
Music is a way of communicating.
It touches more the intuition and the emotions than the rational mind. It has this inherent power to bring together and synchronize crowds. Now, sending a vibe out has the same type of impact. The language you use is both rational and intuitive, right? When you communicate, remember that the "commentary" to your message is as important or even more than what you physically say. This unspoken message is all the non verbal part of what you say. It can be your tone or voice or body language but there is more than that of course: There is the radiance as well. What you transmit in a pure energy form. Yes! This vibration is like music! http://vitalcoaching.com/wakeupyourpower.htm Your wish is my command! - TIP
Yes, many forces at play are ready to respond to your orders and directions.
This is what you can understand right now. Energies respond instinctually to directions and this is the essence of manifesting reality. http://vitalcoaching.com/wakeupyourpower.htm So many of the problems you can face come from a lack of clarity in regard to objectives and goals - TIP
ABSOLUTELY!
The moment your objectives are clearer, it opens the path to success and manifestation. When your objectives are not clear you can be trapped in conflicting interests and distractions. http://vitalcoaching.com/wakeupyourpower.htm You get more of what you focus on - TIP
Yes!
When your mind is focused on negative possible outcomes, it is negative outcomes you tend to attract. When you envision success it is succes your tend to attract. Positiveness attracts positive experiences. That's the essence of the law of attraction. I agree! It is not the only element playing a role in manifesting the reality you want but it is one that plays a super important role. If it is success you want, focus more on success. http://vitalcoaching.com/wakeupyourpower.htm How do you help someone who expresses unhappy self defeating mind sets? - ARTICLE
When you try to help someone who is in a self defeating attitude, they will usually resist the change you propose.
Why because a negative mind set is still a comfort zone. People will often say they want to change but when the change process starts taking place, they will often resist it, step back and try to avoid the catalytic forces you use to stimulate that change. Yes! This emotional reaction is logical - It is a reaction of fear to the unknown. The question is "How do you handle that resistance as a friend, family member or coach?" What do you do every time someone withdraws their energy or input just when you are about to break through? Basically, they retreat in their well known self defeating mind sets. What do you do when this happens without feeling like you need to carry them energy wise. Ok! An important shift needs to happen at that moment! The reason they shift their mind or withdraw is because energy wise, they will get more energy from you if they resist. The partnership you create when they start moving forward is based on the combination of your two energies. When they slow down or resist, it would usually force you to put up a higher level of power to keep that ship going. If they complain, say it is not working, it is simply their way of offering resistance so that you feed that partnership more. It is a power game! It is a battle between your mind set and their mind set! Once you understand that, you need a new posture to stand in so that their emotional reaction does not touch you. You need an instinctual instant response so that specific moment. Here are the options:
The thing that you need to understand is that they don't actually want you to succeed! It is your mind set against their mind set. Your energy reality (positive, outgoing, fresh, etc) against their energy reality(depressed, unhappy, moody, self defeating, etc) When these two energy realities enter in conflict within a discusion or coaching session for instance, they will do anything they can to stick to their mind set and defend their position. It is a battle for securing their mind set. Yes! It is a contradiction because this mind set makes them unhappy but it is logical because they are "comfortable" with that mind set. If someone has been living in a swamp for their whole life, the idea of moving to a sunny beach location is threatening! It means change. It is the same type of change process people face when they shift from unhappy to happy. It's a profound transformation of their inner beliefs and emotional base. This is why they are afraid to step out of that unhappy comfort zone: it is because unhappiness has become their base. They are familiar with it. When you bombard them with positiveness, it challenges that base. This is why all the resistance builds up! Yes! There is a perfect response to that. ------------------------------------ Obsviously, challenging or attacking could strongly reinforce the conflicting attitudes. Instead, you need to give them the control seat and let them realize that they are in charge! If they want to stop, you stop on the spot! Why? Because you have other friends or clients and if they can't go faster, you will go faster with someone else. This stays their agenda, always. Even if they feed their agenda with negative self limiting beliefs and target changes. It is their right to stand still if they want to. You get addicted to the chemicals associated with the emotions you express the most - ARTICLE
Mind objects are everything that goes on in your mind, not just thoughts.
They are emotions and feelings as well. A mind object has a life on its own. In your neuronet, it represents a very specific set of connections with the whole stream of biochemical reactions associated with it. This life of thought forms, emotions and feelings is REAL! Every time you experience an emotion, this emotion is translated into a very specific boost of certain chemicals in your brain and body. You have the chemicals of happiness, fear, joy, pleasure, etc. Here is the key element to understand: you get addicted to the chemicals associated with the specific emotional reactions you are used to. Why addiction? Because the moment you stop having that specific emotion you are used to, our body misses it! The part of our body that fed itself from that specific chemical no longer gets its "food". So, you will often recreate that emotion simply to have a new boost in the specific biochemical associated with that emotions. I know... I immensely simplified this whole neuroscience concept, but basically this is it! You are chemically addicted to the emotions you are used to have. Here is the next key: This addiction happens not only for positive emotions but for negative ones as well. This means that when you try to change a negative self belief into a positive one, your body sends out chemical signals calling for the old negative pattern. This happens until you consciously create new positive mind sets after retraining your brain into positive mind patterns. This is essential to understand because it is one of the reasons you might keep reproducing negative minds sets even though you no longer want them! It is literally because your body is addicted to these negative mind sets. If you are aware of this phenomenon, you can consciously shift patterns and observe the chemical "call" without responding to it. You see it! You don't let it trigger you. Understand that negative mind patterns still feed your body and mind. Even if they are not perfect, they are still an invisible architecture that sustains your life. When you are used to negative thinking, these mind sets are your vehicle. You know everything about how they work. You are familiar with them. The idea os shifting to a new shiny positive beliefs set can be challenging because you still don't own that new vehicle. You have to make it yours! This is why so many people retreat in negative mind sets! It is because they are used to them! This process of transformation from negative to positive is a transition period in which you shift patterns one at a time. Understanding better the dynamics that could hold you back is one of the key ingredients to your success! Enjoy! I feel I missed the boat - ARTICLE
This is a self limiting belief like any other.
It is regret + Feeling sorry for yourself. The boat is still there by the harbour ready to take you anywhere you want. The key is to learn from life experiences and not repeat mistakes. Suppose, there was an opportunity at a given moment in your life and you didn't take it. What would you do if that opportunity was there today? Would you take it? If the answer is yes, then you learned from your experience and you can move on to new opportunities. The truth is that opportunities are right there ready to be grabbed, today! They might be different opportunities than the ones you had last year or 20 years ago but they are still chances to jump on the success wagon, try something new and take new risks. Here is what happens when you dwell in what could have been: you are just looking for an excuse not to take action today! It is that simple! This mind set is just an excuse not to take risks today and retreat in self limiting beliefs. Why do you retreat in these self limiting beliefs? Because they are familiar to you. You say you don't like them but still they magnetize you back to very specific mind frames and emotional states. The reason why you keep falling back into these patterns is really because you know them well. They come in conversations with friends. You journal about them. You go into self talk mode and revisit all these specific moments. Who is feeding these patterns? You! What happens the moment you stop feeding them? They DIE! That's right! A negative mind set can't survive if you stop feeding it. Thought forms are mind objects! They are "alive" and they feed from your life force! The moment you reject them, they have no place to go and die out naturally! They are replaced by new positive energy patterns you consciously create! Got that? Your mind is your territory and you have the power to design EVERYTHING that goes on in it. All you have to do is stop the victimization cycle and start gaining back control! Of course, you might have to wrestle with some negative beliefs but you know that the moment you stop feeding them, they disappear. So, how do you turn a negative pattern like "I feel I missed the boat" into an empowering one? You identify the exact mind sets you want to have instead! Here are some examples of positive mind sets that work better than the negative one you started with:
See how it works? You CREATE new mind sets and start consciously feeding those. Jun 15, 2009You are the designer of your life - You are in charge! - 5 min - VIDEOInstinctual powers - 8 min - VIDEORisk taking - 4 min - VIDEOPositive anger - 7 min - VIDEOBreak your limits - 5 min - VIDEOFocus on your top priority - 4 min - VIDEOWhat is psychic self defence? - 6 min - VIDEOMy life experience + Why I help you - 6 min - VIDEOHow to use your mind wisely - Life mastery - 5 min - VIDEO>>> CARPE DIEM! - Seize the day! - WATCH THIS...CARPE DIEM! - Seize the day!http://vitalcoaching.com/wakeupyourpower.htm http://vitalcoaching.com/coaching.htm ———————————————- CARPE DIEM! - Seize the day! Here is what is discussed in this video
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———————————————- >> Goal setting - WATCH THIS SHORT VID...Goal settinghttp://vitalcoaching.com/wakeupyourpower.htm http://vitalcoaching.com/coaching.htm ———————————————- Goal setting Here is what is discussed in this video
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———————————————- >>> Reaching your goals - WATCH THIS 5 MIN VIDEO...Reaching your goalshttp://vitalcoaching.com/wakeupyourpower.htm http://vitalcoaching.com/coaching.htm ———————————————- Reaching your goals Here is what is discussed in this video
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———————————————- Jun 14, 2009Want results? - Focus on your top target for 30 days! - 6 min - VIDEOhttp://vitalcoaching.com/wakeupyourpower.htm http://vitalcoaching.com/coaching.htm Want results? - Focus on your top target for 30 days! - You get more of what you focus on - Distractions - Concentraing your energy - Mind focus Action - Life coaching with Francisco Bujan Jun 13, 2009I want to totally enjoy my life! - 5 min
I want to totally enjoy my life! - 5 min
vitalcoaching.com - Artisans, 6 - 1299 Crans - Switzerland You may unsubscribe or change your contact details at any time. Jun 11, 2009How to tackle social anxiety - SOCIAL POWER
Social anxiety means that when you are in social situations you feel a high level of emotional discomfort.
You feel people's judgements, looks, etc. You respond to them by feeling anxiety. You can feel this anxiety when being in the situation or before it even happens. you can compare this to publisg speaking anxiety. It is the idea of being bomababrded by psychic pressure and not being able to manage that pressure. This happens for one simple reason; lack of power, psychic power. You feel that your energy space is invaded and you don't have the emotional resources to protect yourself. You feel vulnerable. Anxiety is simply a mild version of fear. But because of its permanent or recurrring nature, it can create quite a discomfort. The key is to ad a new level of power to your mind, a few new minds sets and train these new behaviors. Again, these types of fears are along the same line as stage fright or public speaking anxiety, except that social anxiety refers to a pressure which is usually smaller. More coming soon Labels: social power Jun 10, 2009I want to trust people more! - 5 min
I want to trust people more! - 5 min
vitalcoaching.com - Artisans, 6 - 1299 Crans - Switzerland You may unsubscribe or change your contact details at any time. Respect each other's truth! - SOCIAL POWER
That's called tolerance, right?
We live in a world of diversity and people experience existence in many different ways. This diversity is natural and when you want to force others into your belief system, you are betraying one of their most basic human rights: Their right for self determination. It is ok to disagree! Really! Mature relationships between human beings allow space for differences of opinions. Here is a simple way to tame any conflict and bring back peace: "It looks like we have a different opinion on this topic and that's ok! - The fact that you have different belief than mine does not stop me from fully respecting you!" Wahou! We just created a whole new wave of world peace! Imagine for second what happens if this attitude is systematically adopted when conflicts arise. Can you see the impact? Start with a small step: YOU! Once you fully master your own conflicting patterns, take your sword and start positively influencing others! To your power! Labels: social power How to deal with bullies - SOCIAL POWER
This is a big one!
People who harass you can really make your life miserable. It can happen at work, between family members or friends. The reason why it happens is because that's simply how some people spend their lives. They feed from offensive behaviors and take pleausre in putting other people down. You have to realize that this gives them energy! That's why they do it. It is a strategy in competitive behaviors and they simply want to win over you. This is a vast topic and I won't cover everything here. Simply know for now that the reason they harass you or anyone else is because they can. If you are their target, it is because your level of power is not high enough. To step out of this role, you need extra power. This is what I encourage you to do. How do you get extra power? Well you have a few possible sources:
If this is an issue in your life, the moment you focus on it, strategies and lines of action show up. The next step is of course to implement action. It takes focus and consistency to build up extra power but it is ABSOLUTELY within your range. To your power! Labels: social power Jun 8, 2009You get addicted to the chemicals associated with the specific emotional reactions you are used to - ARTICLE
Mind objects are everything that goes on in your mind, not just thoughts.
They are emotions and feelings as well. A mind object has a life on its own. In your neuronet, it represents a very specific set of connections with the whole stream of biochemical reactions associated with it. This life of thought forms, emotions and feelings is REAL! Every time you experience an emotion, this emotion is translated into a very specific boost of certain chemicals in your brain and body. You have the chemicals of happiness, fear, joy, pleasure, etc. Here is the key element to understand: you get addicted to the chemicals associated with the specific emotional reactions you are used to. Why addiction? Because the moment you stop having that specific emotion you are used to, our body misses it! The part of our body that fed itself from that specific chemical no longer gets its "food". So, you will often recreate that emotion simply to have a new boost in the specific biochemical associated with that emotions. I know... I immensely simplified this whole neuroscience concept, but basically this is it! You are chemically addicted to the emotions you are used to have. Here is the next key: This addiction happens not only for positive emotions but for negative ones as well. This means that when you try to change a negative self belief into a positive one, your body sends out chemical signals calling for the old negative pattern. This happens until you consciously create new positive mind sets after retraining your brain into positive mind patterns. This is essential to understand because it is one of the reasons you might keep reproducing negative minds sets even though you no longer want them! It is literally because your body is addicted to these negative mind sets. If you are aware of this phenomenon, you can consciously shift patterns and observe the chemical "call" without responding to it. You see it! You don't let it trigger you. Understand that negative mind patterns still feed your body and mind. Even if they are not perfect, they are still an invisible architecture that sustains your life. When you are used to negative thinking, these mind sets are your vehicle. You know everything about how they work. You are familiar with them. The idea os shifting to a new shiny positive beliefs set can be challenging because you still don't own that new vehicle. You have to make it yours! This is why so many people retreat in negative mind sets! It is because they are used to them! This process of transformation from negative to positive is a transition period in which you shift patterns one at a time. Understanding better the dynamics that could hold you back is one of the key ingredients to your success! Enjoy! I feel I missed the boat - ARTICLE
This is a self limiting belief like any other.
It is regret + Feeling sorry for yourself. The boat is still there by the harbour ready to take you anywhere you want. The key is to learn from life experiences and not repeat mistakes. Suppose, there was an opportunity at a given moment in your life and you didn't take it. What would you do if that opportunity was there today? Would you take it? If the answer is yes, then you learned from your experience and you can move on to new opportunities. The truth is that opportunities are right there ready to be grabbed, today! They might be different opportunities than the ones you had last year or 20 years ago but they are still chances to jump on the success wagon, try something new and take new risks. Here is what happens when you dwell in what could have been: you are just looking for an excuse not to take action today! It is that simple! This mind set is just an excuse not to take risks today and retreat in self limiting beliefs. Why do you retreat in these self limiting beliefs? Because they are familiar to you. You say you don't like them but still they magnetize you back to very specific mind frames and emotional states. The reason why you keep falling back into these patterns is really because you know them well. They come in conversations with friends. You journal about them. You go into self talk mode and revisit all these specific moments. Who is feeding these patterns? You! What happens the moment you stop feeding them? They DIE! That's right! A negative mind set can't survive if you stop feeding it. Thought forms are mind objects! They are "alive" and they feed from your life force! The moment you reject them, they have no place to go and die out naturally! They are replaced by new positive energy patterns you consciously create! Got that? Your mind is your territory and you have the power to design EVERYTHING that goes on in it. All you have to do is stop the victimization cycle and start gaining back control! Of course, you might have to wrestle with some negative beliefs but you know that the moment you stop feeding them, they disappear. So, how do you turn a negative pattern like "I feel I missed the boat" into an empowering one? You identify the exact mind sets you want to have instead! Here are some examples of positive mind sets that work better than the negative one you started with:
See how it works? You CREATE new mind sets and start consciously feeding those. Jun 7, 2009Be superconductive to life - 5 min
Be superconductive to life - 5 min
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Focus on your top priority - 5 min
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If you don't know where you are going you'll end somewhere else - 5 min
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