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A boss gives you space to be creative at your job.
A mother watches her child playing in the park.
You let a dog run freely while keeping an eye on what it does.
We redirect the flow of a river so that a village doesn't get hit with the next storm.
Etc.

In all these expressions, people are STILL using their power!

It is not control.

It is protection!

You don't limit the employee's creativity.
You don't hold the child by the hand.
You don't keep the dog on the leash.
You don't stop the river from flowing.

What's the result?

LIFE FLOWS!

It's not being stopped or limited!

That's one of the most subtle distinctions you can make when using your power in life.

How much control is REALLY needed to keep you safe.

Do you need 5 locks or just one?

Do you really need a high fence?

See the point?

In life, controlling power is a joy killer!

It destroys spontaneity and complicity because what partners, friends or family members really tell each other when they use it is:

"I don't trust you! I don't think you are grown up enough to make your own decisions!"

Using control on your someone else usually means SERIOUS TROUBLE!

What's the alternative if you don't want to lose your power?

Well, you still can use your power but in a different way.

Your open space around someone.

You sponsor their freedom.

You let go of trying to control their actions, beliefs or time!

You have very specific language patterns stimulating freedom and respect in other people.

We'll check some in another post.

To your power!

Power transfers - ARTICLE

noreply@blogger.com (vitalcoach) — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 08:15:00 +0000

In a previous post we said:

You are born with the right for self determination. You have the right to control your thoughts, actions, emotions, beliefs, time, personal space, etc.
If someone tries to control these for you they steal one of your most basic human rights.
Respect someone else's freedom and right for self determination.

These are the basic mind sets which already solve 80% of the conflicts you might face.

Now in some situations, you will function with slightly different mind sets.

We call these exceptions "agreed power transfers".

This means that there are some "exceptions" in society where a conscious transfer of power and autonomy is performed.

Here are 3 examples:

Children --> Parents

Because parents need to educate their children, nature and society perform a power transfer from the child to its parents. This means that parents are legally responsible for what the child does. They take the role of educating and directing a child's behavior until it reaches maturity and autonomy.

Individual --> Organization

When you work for an organization, you give up part of your freedom (time) in exchange of a financial reward. In other terms, you accept that a boss will sometimes tell you what to or not to do.

Individual --> Society

When you are born in a country, you adhere to a set of laws. These laws are there to protect society's peace and make sure that individuals can function harmoniously with each other

Etc.

These are only 3 examples. There are more of them of course.

Now, we call these "exceptions" because the default position of an individual is a state of freedom.

The key to resolve conflicts - ARTICLE

noreply@blogger.com (vitalcoach) — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 08:11:00 +0000

Conflicts happen because of the way power is being used.

You tend to have conflicts when one person tries to control someone else's life, actions, time frame, beliefs, thoughts or emotions.

Check any conflict in or around you: it is always the clash between two energy realities.

To solve conflicts you need to go back to a place of freedom and respect.

There is only one thing you have the right to control: your own life.

Everyone has the power for self determination.

This is the basic reality you can start from.

It is one of the key human rights: the freedom of thoughts and beliefs.

Now, if someone forces you to do or think what you don't want to, this creates conflict, right?

Same the other way round. You will create conflict if you force or try to control someone else's life.

You can get rid of 80% of the tension in you simply by letting go of what you can't control:

What goes on on the other side of the planet.
Government choices.
Your neighbour's beliefs.
Your partner's choices.
Your parent's or friend's attitudes.
Etc.

Trouble arises when you try to control what is not yours.

Someone else's thoughts are not yours.

They were born with the right to decide for themselves what they want to think.

Investing your energy into trying to change them is usually a waste of time.

Of course, in some isolated cases, they want to change and are open for what you have to say.

However in most situations, judging or trying to control someone else's actions will simply create conflict.

Again, the dynamics are very simple.

You just have to let go.

Don't take responsibility for someone else's actions.

This is the base from which you can function.

Functioning from that mind set already clears 80% of the conflicts you might face:

Respect someone else's actions beliefs or thoughts.
Don't take responsibility for someone else's actions.
Use your power to control your own life, not someone else's.
You own the right to control you own actions, time, beliefs, emotions, personal space, etc. If someone tries to steal these from you, they are violating one of your most basic human rights.
Etc.

These mind sets can already solve many of the conflicts you might be facing.

In other words: refocus your power on yourself!

It is essential to master the way you use your "controlling power".

There are some exceptions in society where a conscious transfer of power and autonomy is performed.

We'll cover that in another post.

To your power!

Why it is essential to harmonize your mind - ARTICLE

noreply@blogger.com (vitalcoach) — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 08:08:00 +0000

When you increase your inner level of energy, you need your mind and body vehicle to be functioning harmoniously.

What does it mean? It means that tensions or inner conflicts have been cleared.

Imagine that your mind is tense or angry for instance.

When you increase the flow of life force or energy in your system, the tensions or negative emotions are multiplied.

Everything is fed by the new flowing energy, not just positive patterns.

Clearing the channels in your mind allow for fresh energy to flow naturally in your being without creating tensions.

Now of course, the new flowing energy is itself very harmonizing.

However, you might have thoughts, beliefs or emotions which can become destructive for you or others when stimulated.

The whole point of harmonizing your mind and body is for your system to be able to take a stronger flow of power and energy.

Sometimes your personal progress will simply stop until you shift some key thoughts, beliefs or action lines and create new mind sets which are aligned with humankind's long term purpose.

Simple, right? :)

To your power!

What would be the impact on humankind if millions of people were doing what I am doing right now? - ARTICLE

noreply@blogger.com (vitalcoach) — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 08:05:00 +0000

Imagine what happens when for instance:

You tend to be emotionally abusive with your wife .
Or in ongoing conflict with your neighbour.
Or extremely intolerant to other religious systems.
Etc.

If you are trapped in these "power abuse" mind sets and receive extra power, conflicts and tensions will naturally increase in your life.

You heard that before:

With greater power comes greater responsibility

This means that you need to be aligned with mind sets which really work for humankind on the long term.

Again, ask yourself:

What would be the impact on humankind if millions of people were doing what I am doing right now?

If the answer is "increased peace and harmony, respect and freedom...", it means that you are on the right track and are already expressing mind sets which are "sustainable" for humankind on the long term.

If the answer is "conflicts, tensions, wars...", it means that the patterns you express now don't work for humankind on the long term.

Keep in mind this long term perspective for humankind and the planet. It gives you direction and focus.

Do you believe that the forces behind your actions sponsor a harmonious line of evolution for the planet and humankind?

If yes, it is your role to express life patterns, actions and mind sets which stimulate vibrant harmony, peace and freedom on the long term

The key is in how you use your power and more specifically your "controlling power".

Makes sense, right?

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Remember your sport's coach? - ARTICLE

noreply@blogger.com (vitalcoach) — Mon, 28 Dec 2009 10:24:00 +0000

Have you been competing in your young age? I don’t know about you, but I have a clear memory of one of my soccer coaches at that time…

We would get ready in the club’s changing rooms, putting on our freshly washed red T shirts.

Before going on the field, our coach would drill us! He would first explain today’s tactics, moving little magnets on a black board designed like a mini soccer field.

He would then build up the team’s spirit and confidence by a powerful motivation speech… That’s the emotional fuel, the very essence of a great performance.

Once the game would start, his voice would shake the game and bring out the best of each player’s potential. See last soccer’s world cup for some colorful examples…

Today’s life coaching functions with the same basic ingredients: designing life tactics and visions, building up the emotional fuel, encouraging the action, and celebrating victories!

The fiery motivational style has been replaced by more diplomatic and respectful approaches. But that’s not the main difference: In today’s life coaching, the coach partners with the client. It’s this alliance which creates magic, bringing out the best and most powerful results.

I am excited and looking forward to create one day such sacred alliance with you. I would be truly honored to be a catalyst in your life’s present and future success.

Enjoy!