It is very simple!

You take decisions together when it concerns both of you.

If you plan a trip or activity together, don't book anything or take a final decision before you double check with your partner.

This makes sure you both agree!

If you don't, your partner will feel left out!

Remember that in what concerns your couple you two are the ones making the decisions, not your in laws, friends, exes, boss or business colleagues.

You two are the center of your relationship and the activities you share.

If you rob your partner from the right to decide, you'll get them very frustrated.

Don't go that way!

Respect and validate their opinion. If you feel their opinion or view is not valid or would not work, discuss it openly and give some reasons why.

It is okay to disagree and plan events separately if you feel your two visions don't match.

Most couples see this as a defeat but in fact, it's a victory!

It is okay to visit friends or plan some activities separately even if you are fully committed and even married.

The fact that you are a couple does not mean you need to do everything together, so be flexible with that.

You apply the "Shared decision making" strategy when the trip or activity involves you both!

Respect this guideline to strengthen you partnership!

http://vitalcoaching.com/vitalcouples.htm

Enjoy!

vitalcoach

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How many times did you try to organize something with your partner and felts that you did not get your message through?

You have a great idea and the end result simply does not reflect at all the original potential of your idea.

A pity, right?

The first step is timing!

You need to speak with him or her the moment they are ready to listen, not before they leave to work, or just after they come back home, or just before they fall asleep.

Ask if it's a good time!

Make sure that you partner has at least 5 minutes of free space!

Next, share what you have in mind, without being too fixed or directive.

Be specific though!

What exactly do you have in mind?

Give time frame details as well and say when and for how long you see that specific event happening.

We are talking about trips or outings for instance.

Once you shared your ideas, give them space to respond and ad their own thoughts

Be flexible with your plan.

You don't need to take a decision now.

Simply write down ideas and give each other space to think about it for a couple of days before you come back to it.

Next: shared decision making!

If the trip or activity does involve your partner, don't book anything before you double check with your partner, otherwise they will feel left out.

What if you disagree?

You can lead one time and let them lead the following event or activity.

Simple, right?

A few keywords to remember:

• Be specific
• Flexibility
• Respect and openness
• Shared decision making
• Fun + excitement

Makes sense, right?

http://vitalcoaching.com/vitalcouples.htm

Enjoy!

vitalcoach

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