Sometimes your partner will do something that really stimulates a whole new flow of sensations all over your body!

At another moment they might touch you in a way which is not exactly nice.

What do you do?

Do you share your feelings on the spot?

If it's something nice you can of course!

Now, when they are engaged into tantric play, partners might not be open to be educated on something they could do differently.

The best time to give your partner any feed back is the following day or even a couple of days later.

You can say things like:

"It really works for me when you touch me that way"

or

"That created some pain..."

or

"There is something I would like you to try next time if you are open for it..."

Your words will tell them exactly what works for you and what doesn't.

Sometimes, your partner might believe they are touching you in a way you like when in fact you can't stand it!

So to avoid confusion, tell them, share, offer feed back and be open to receive it as well.

It is one of the essential keys to keep on progressing together.

The key is to give feed back when your partner is open for it.

If what you have to say is challenging, warn them and ask them if it is a good moment.

Timing!

Positive feed back is of course much easier to give :)

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An exciting success story I just received:

"Thanks very much -

I found your 'keep it simple' video really helpful and have been totally following your advice: not making demands, not being possessive, giving him plenty of space, and not expecting anything of him.

It works!!

The relationship is going from strength to strength, and we see each other 4 nights a week. The nights he doesn't see me he rings up saying how much he misses me, and saying how much he loves being with me and spending time with me. We have so much fun together, and never stop laughing, but we care very deeply for each other too.

I realise it's early days, so I'm not rushing anything and am still taking one day at a time, but at the moment everything's brilliant.

I really hope other people follow your advice because, take it from me, it really does work!! I've never been happier and am having the best relationship of my life!

Thanks again!!

SC

Whaou! I'm impressed! Well done!

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To your dating success!

vitalcoach

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This one is about the "Break up - For women - E-book + MP3 audios":

"I received the ebook and audios, and read and started to listen, they are truly excellent, exactly what I needed right now. Best!"

LR

Glad it matches your needs!

How to get your power back after he breaks up - For women - E-book + MP3 audios

To your power!

vitalcoach

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Got this one this morning!

"Hii! I found your website through youtube!

Oh my goodness you actually deserve an mba or something, you're amazing!

I've just come out of a really bad relationship with a guy, and I couldn't see before, but after listening to your free mp3's I realised how possessive I was, I phoned him ALL the time, got jealous!

And now that I listened to your advice I really think we rushed into things before I knew him so he just ended up annoying me when we were going out.

I feel so much more confident and I'm seeing a new guy tomorrow and now I know not to get too involved, what to do/say not to do.

You're amazing. I love youuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu -xx-"

Pretty cool success story, don't you think!

So glad you woke up to your true free nature!

Well done!

Listen to your "Dating success - For women" MP3/Podcast

To your dating power!

vitalcoach

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Alex from http://www.podcastjunky.co.uk/ just offereed my podcasts this great review!

I am honored by his words and delighted he found value in the hundreds of power kicks I recorded so far.

Here are his words:

"In need of some motivation lately I found www.vitalcoaching.com together with its podcasts and plethora of downloadable MP3s.

Presented by Francisco Bujan the founder and director of Vital Coaching, these podcasts bring a refreshing air of encouragement and motivation to anyone in need of an emotional boost.

Francisco’s bright and bouncy presentation gives these podcasts a nice welcome edge and you can’t help feel inspired and motivated by what he says.

Check out Vital Coaching at www.vitalcoaching.com with its numerous MP3 files or simply subscribe to Vital Coaching’s podcasts via iTunes here."

Thanks again Alex!

I appreciate your words and feed back!

vitalcoach

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If you face jealousy issues in your relationship, here is a forum discussion you absolutely need to check!

I am serious! The strategies you will discover could change forever the way you interact with your partner.

Here is how it started:

" My wife has a very close friend at work for the past 6 months. She has also gone out with his wife and spent the night after a night out at the bar. My wife talks to him everyday on the phone throughout the day. She also talks to his wife occasionally.

She has been geeting mad at me for the past few months because i continually check her phone text messages etc. This is of course how i've found out how they talk to each other from time to time.

I believe that it is strictly a good friendship, because I see no evidence of them spending time with each other outside of work and the occasional night out with the work gang.
Yesterday I decided to check her phone and I found some very sexual messages including a text picture from her to him of her vagina. She took the picture at work with her camera phone.

Of course this upset me and i confronted her. She admitted it was wrong for her to do, but the big argument was again that I checked her phone and don't trust her.

Help, what should I do? 90% of the time everthing is great. I love her.

What should I do?"

jpalm1986


Read the full story + detailed answers

Take care

vitalcoach

PS: If you are a man trapped in controlling attitudes you no longer want, the jealousy e-book + MP3 audios for men is the power kick you are looking for. It is available here

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This one is especially for guys who tend to be controlling, possesive or jealous.

If you feel that these attitudes ruin your relationship and love life, get this e-book!

http://vitalcoaching.com/jealousyformen.htm

It will save you lots or trouble! and set you up on a new course of trust with your girlfriend or wife.

It's powerful stuff!

Enjoy!

vitalcoach

PS: if you are a woman, get it for your partner http://malejealousy.com/

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This one is from Cassandra in the US:

"Hi, I just order your e-book about jealousy and let me tell you it is bringing some things to light for me. I really appreciate it"

Cassandra - US

You're welcome Cassandra!

You are on the right track!

Wish you lots of success and happiness with your relationship

vitalcoach

Get your copy of "Jealousy - How to deal with it - For women"

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Anothere success story from the jealousy e-book for women:

"Just purchased your e-book concerning obsessive jealousy. It appears to be just what I needed.

I am 54 and in a new relationship that looks like it might end up in a permanent commitment.

I have always been jealous and I am sincerely trying to overcome this even at the late time in my life. I have been jealous and have been married in the past to someone who was obsessively jealous.

Thank you for writing this book and I can't wait to finish it and apply it to my life. I hope to be married in the next year and I want it to be wonderful."

Jackie Nunn - US

You're welcome Jackie. Now is the time to enjoy your couple and be truly happy together.

That's what I wish you!

Enjoy!

vitalcoach

PS: get your copy of this e-book here

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Here is another success story I got from the "Jealousy - how to deal with it" e-book - for women.

"Dear Francisco, I must tell you that when I downloaded your book, I absolutely knew it was something that I was going to need.

Call it divine intervention, call it karma... Whatever! But if I hadn't read your insights before this last week, I'd be making a real ass of myself right now"

Barbara - US

It's a pleasure to help you Barbara. I hope that these strategies do empower your couple.

When it comes to jealousy, most women tend to feel guilty about using it. In fact jealousy is one of the key empowering tools for your relationship.

You simply need to know how to master it!

This is one of the key topics covered in this e-book: How to master your "jealousy weapon".

There is much more of course.

get your copy here

Take care

vitalcoach

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"Fights happen because there is conflict for power.

You have two mind sets: yours and your partner’s one.

When these two mind sets do not match, they clash...."

Read the full article

If you feel that this article is not enough, visit this link to access live help for you and your relationship. I’ll be happy to help you further.

To access all resources on Vital Relationships, check this link

Take care

vitalcoach

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"The fact that you are married or committed to each other does not mean that you have to spend all your time together.

This is such a common misunderstanding in many couples.

They tend to believe that the fact that you spend a week holidays apart or that you have a night out with your friends are signs that something is wrong with your relationship..."

Read the full article

If you feel that this article is not enough, visit this link to access live help for you and your relationship. I’ll be happy to help you further.

To access all resources on Vital Relationships, check this link

Take care

vitalcoach

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"If dialogue does not happen in a spontaneous and instinctual way, the idea is to “formalize” it.

Don't be scared!

This is a good thing! :-)

You want to have a meeting with your partner..."

Read the full article

If you feel that this article is not enough, visit this link to access live help for you and your relationship. I’ll be happy to help you further.

To access all resources on Vital Relationships, check this link

Take care

vitalcoach

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"Many relationship misunderstandings have to do with “catching” your partner at the wrong moment.

Right timing is essential when you want to reach each other..."

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If you feel that this article is not enough, visit this link to access live help for you and your relationship. I’ll be happy to help you further.

To access all resources on Vital Relationships, check this link

Take care

vitalcoach

PS: This is a PDF file. If the file does not open, it's super easy to fix. Check this link for help

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This one was posted in the forum and is on the topic of trust in relationships:

"I know her password for her mail and check it constantly. She has that guy who studies in an University abroad and few days ago wrote to him that she met a guy and went out 3 times with him but didn't want to meet him anymore. When I asked her if she is cheating /not directly of course/ she answers that she is not. But I don't trust her of course. See, I don't make any illusions that this is not true. She went out with him; that's for sure. The problem is... How do I act now? What to do? Should I dump her before she dumps me? I really like her and don't want this to happen. Pls Help!"

Read the full story + the answer

More on empowering your relationship

Take care

vitalcoach

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"Relationship feed back is a powerful way to stay tuned on each other.

It is the perfect way to share ideas on what works and what doesn't in you relationship.

You can give feed back to your partner.

He can give you feed back.

You can as well give him feed back on your own attitudes and behaviors and tell him about what you believe works or does not work for you..."

Read the full article

If you feel that this article is not enough, visit this link to access live help for you and your relationship. I’ll be happy to help you further.

To access all resources on Vital Relationships, check this link

Take care

vitalcoach

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Another success story. This one comes from Vicky in New Orleans:

"Francisco,

This week I have implemented what we discussed the other day about my girlfriend. Well, I have learned to change my communication style (no demands...).

I have been going to therapy for a while about this very thing and this helped a lot more. Thank you.

I will contact you again when I need help. You made me see something different about love; many people especially in therapy don't concentrate on love, they concentrate on disorder and behaviour with relationship to the disorder instead of love.

Honestly, that is key: understanding what love really is.

So, thank you for pointing that out to me. Hope you are well."

Vicki Stanwycks - US

Well done Vicky!

And thank you for your feed back

More success stories

vitalcoach

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Here is an essential story from the forum

"I read your book on Jealous women and EVERYTHING applies.

She believes I am checking out girls ALL the time - when I'm really not.

She's accused me of things that I'm not even doing; she believes I'm going back to my ex when I am ABSOLUTELY NOT.

It's gotten so crazy lately that she has told me that I cannot initiate ANY conversation with a girl. Period.

And if they come up to me, I have to be rude and walk away. I have not spoken to platonic female friends for several months at her request (I know). Otherwise that is flirting and by her definition "flirting is cheating".

I am in sales and of course I meet women (and men) every day and I have to make friendly conversation; she takes this as flirting. We can't go 1 week without fighting - and it's ALWAYS my fault. My question is this: she refuses to go to counseling; we just had another big fight because I refuse to follow this "don't talk to ANY girl" rule.

How do I get her to see that she has the problem and not me?
Should I send her a copy of your book?

I am so tired of the drama and the fighting that I'm ready to let her go.

But I do love her and am willing to try to avoid this, so any help would be appreciated.

Thank you."

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Take care

vitalcoach

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What to do if you are young and inexperienced?

"I am 21 and I haven't dated since I was 17. I just met this girl and she talked to me on the phone for 2 hours..."

Here are some essential tips to get you started

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vitalcoach

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This is a common situation:

You have this friend and you start liking him or her as more than a friend.

What can you do next? Open your feelings? Would this work?

Get the answer

Take care

vitalcoach

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Insecurity and jealousy are relationship breakers.

If this is the challenge you face with your partner, have a look at this post.


"He says we don't have a problem AT ALL, only the ones that I create in my mind..."


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These are the strategies you want

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vitalcoach

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" One night he saw me out with this guy and he asked me to go outside, he didn't even give me a chance to say anything and he hit me and broke my nose. I was a mess and I totally shutdown and became a recluse, i was a terrible mess. "

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" ... problem is, he turns me down for sex all the time; I only get it once a week.

It's always he's too tired, not in the mood, etc.

He says he's not in the mood because I don't wear tight enough clothes that show off my body.

But he used to approach me for sex a lot more often & I dress the same as I did when we first went out & have even lost some weight.

That makes me think there may be another issue here..."


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Yes! You can leave together for many years and still get this feeling that you grow apart.

Here is how to shift this trend and reconnect with each other

Listen to dozens of strategies in MP3 audio format.

Wake up the spark!


Empower your relationship – 11 min
Where to start – 13 min
Make it your top priority – 14 min
Identify your key challenges – 10 min
Find effective strategies – 10 min
How to manifest freedom in your relationship - 12 min
How to wake up passion - 11 min
More romance! - 11 min
Dare to seduce him again - 14 min
Sacred couple - 16 min
Wake up the fun - 10 min
Shift priorities - 14 min
Say what you want - 14 min
What if he has no time for you - 18 min
What if he refuses to change - 13 min
How to reconnect with your partner - 7 min
Ask for help - 11 min
What if your relationship is flat lining - 9 min
Sex life - 10 min
Flirt with him - 5 min
High expectations – 8 min
3 key strategies to empower your relationship - 9 min
How to renew your relationship - 8 min
How to use power in your relationship - 8 min
The long distance challenge - 22 min

Access instantly all these MP3 audios + your E-book

Enjoy

Francisco

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Synergy! I love this word!

It contains everything you need in a relationship. I know it has a slight business connotation but it does apply to your relationship wonderfuly!

Synergy is exactly what you want to achieve with your partner!

When you think of your relationship, I bet that what you feel is the most draining are conflicts!

Simple, right?

When you fight you are unhappy!

You can of course have "high energy exchanges" but this feeling of being worlds apart from your partner is so incredibly draining!!!

Synergy is the answer because it synchronizes you with your partner.

You realize that your relationship is your common ground and you discover key ways to manifest this daily!

Synergy is one of the key topics treated in your "how to empower your relationship" e-book:

Here are the chapters realted with synergy in your e-book:

Relationship synergy
Channel of love
How to establish dialogue
Relationships and synergy
Create a forum space
How to implement change in the relationship
Individual integrity
What is exclusivity?
How to build up trust
How to build up complicity

Start investing in your relationship today! If you reached a place where you are not getting full satisfaction with what you share with your partner, do something about it!

It starts now!

Warmly

Francisco

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after that go and get your e-book, here

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Your "How to empower your relationship" e-book comes now with more than 90 min of extra MP3 audios.

Here are topics covered

Empower your relationship - 11 min

Where to start - 13 min

Make it your top priority - 14 min

Identify your key challenges - 10 min

Find effective strategies - 10 min

High expectations - 8 min

3 key strategies to empower your relationship - 9 min

How to renew your relationship - 8 min

How to use power in your relationship MP3 - 8 min

This is really a great way to immerse yourself in the relationship empowerment spirit.

All these audios are instant access. They are available in the form of links in the last chapter of your e-book.

Simply get your e-book - all these audios are included

Enjoy!

vitalcoach

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Okay,

It is always nice to focus on the bright side of relationships but what about challenges?

Here is an example: what do you do if your partner cheats on you?

This e-book is designed for women ( a male version might be available soon :-)) so let's focus on possible strategies specially for you.

Many women are ready to quit when their partner cheats.

This is certainly a healthy response. He breaks the rules? You're done with him, right?

The truth is that the first priority is not so much your relationship. When he cheats, you are the one who has to find a solid way of standing in this to empower yourself on the spot.

Relationship choices come after.

Basically, you need to shift gears and go from a base of harmony to battle mode.

Why battle?

Because the base on which your life relies is under attack.

The emotional security you are used to is being challenged.

You want solid strategies to react in the best possible way to that.

The goal of this e-book is to fill a gap and give you this extra power kick, ideas and strategies you might need to make the right choices.

For any battle you need a solid set of strategies + the energy kick to face this challenge!

You need to wake up fast and respond to this new situation with a solid vision of what to do next!

If you face this challenge, get this e-book:

How to get your power back

after he cheats on you

It will save you time and trouble!

Warmly

Francisco

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What does it truly take to make it work?

There are two simple qualities you need to manifest if you want to stay together on the long term.

The first one is freedom and space.

The second one is renewal and change.

The key reason for couples breaking up is simply "feeling limited in their relationship".

When you fight, argue or are unhappy in your relationship, the key issue is power and control.

You want it your way.

He wants it his way.

The two visions clash.

If you clash one time, you fight.

If you clash all the time, you end up with a break up or divorce.

If you realize this early, you can shift this basic dynamic and establish a whole new mind set:

Give each other space, always!

Control is a relationship killer.

I don't know who decided one day that control in relationships was okay. It is never okay.

So, this is the first winning mind set: space and freedom.

The second mind set is change and renewal.

Why is it so important?

Because your being and spirit need to keep on evolving, always.

If you feel crystallized in a situation which stops moving forward, evolution forces will always find a way of “reaching you”.

This means that your couple will be challenged until "fresh energies manage to get in".

If you embrace change, you keep on evolving and challenging established patterns.

There is a basic conflict of interests involved in this:

A part of your being is calling for emotional and material security, while another aspect of your being calls for thrill, excitement, risk and passion.

These two visions or two plans can clash.

If you want to bring in renewal, passion, fun and excitement in your couple, you need to focus a bit less on security and practicalities and take more risks, challenge yourself and each other and basically step beyond the limits of what you already know.

The moment you embrace the new, you invite fresh energies in your couple.

This is what couples need the most: freshness and renewal.

This e-book on relationship empowerment shows you exactly how to invite renewal in the core of your love life; it shows you what steps you can take to make sure that freshness and excitement keep flowing in the core of your being.

Check it here:

http://vitalcoaching.com/vitalcouples.htm

Take care and enjoy your love life!

Francisco

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