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Sunday, July 19, 2009How to rebuild sexual attraction when your relationship is in trouble - ARTICLE
Suppose you are a guy and feel your girlfriend or wife losing interest... What do you do?
Understand that sexual attraction is about power and confidence. The more power and confidence you express, the more she gets attracted to you. That's the simple way to go and you have dozens of ways to reconnect with your inner sources of power: Start with career and ambitions. Follow up with body power and energizing your being. Next step, activate your social life. There si more on that topic all over this site. (You realize that the key goal of this site is to empower you in one way or another, right?) What if you are a woman? Most of the times, it has to do with getting too "comfortable" within your relationship. You stop doing what made you attractive to him in the first place. Ask yourself: How sexy are you right now? Now, give yourself a mark between 0-100%. 0 = not sexy at all 100 = totally sexy If your partner is no longer attracted to you, it usually means that you are losing this sexy edge. Work on it! Get it back and you will feel his desire for you waking up again. Enjoy! Key challenges facing couples today - ARTICLE
95% of women affirm they are stressed.
What happens when they get home? Does that stress go away or do they meet a partner who will pressure them even more. What do you want to experience when you get home? Peace or fights? Of course both men and women are very stressed. I mentioned the 95% of women because that's an example I read in a recent survey. This stress that people feel is usually transfered on the couple when the evening comes. For instance, you might face tensions at work with a colleague and project these tensions on your partner when you get home. See how it works? It might be pressure from a boss or customer. It might be coming from in laws, an ex or a close friend. It might simply be the pressure from society in general or an inner perfectionist drive inside of you. The point is that all this pressure is usually still there when you interact with your partner. Go back and check the wake up your power channel: You will discover dozens of techniques aimed at helping you master your life. Enjoy! Why micromanaging your partner will destroy your relationship - ARTICLE
Imagine having a boss watching over your shoulder and correcting your every move.
How does that feel? Do you like it? Of course not! When you micromanage your partner the exact same thing happens! You kill their power, creativity and initiative. You tell them in a subtle way that you don't trust them. You might be surprised to see them withdrawing emotionally and not be too keen for sex after that. It is logical. People don't like it when you rob away their power. What's the right balance? Well, even if your boss corrects you one time, it can already feel VERY draining, right? Same with relationships. Here is a simple golden rule you can apply: If you want to educate your partner, focus on telling them what they do right rather than what they do wrong. Got that? This is a key to create complicity and get rid of tensions. To your couple! How to ad spice to your sex life - ARTICLE
The first key is to take time for sex.
So many couples are trapped in a daily stressful routine! When the evening comes, you are often too tired to engage in any form intimacy. So, that's the first strategy: create time for it. Second strategy: explore new territories and take some risks. If your sex life became dull, it means that you are bored because nothing new comes in. There is plenty to try and everything your try will require at least some risk taking. Third strategy: dialogue! Talk about sex and find out about each other what you like and what turns you off. Learn more about tantric sex! That's a whole new world of possibilities! How to shift gears when you feel tension rising - ARTICLE
Here are some strategies to quickly shift gears when you feel tension rising:
Remember that tensions rising is the reflexion of an energy overload. If you redirect that energy in constructive ways, you release that tension because you start using your power in a differnet way. To your couple! What triggers fights - ARTICLE
Fight are the result of competitive attitudes.
It is about about who is in charge. Who is in control. When you fight, it is usually about either you or your partner trying to control a part of each other's lives. It can be an opinion, an action, a belief, a core life choice, a priority, an attitude, etc. If you are the one wanting to control an aspect of your partner's life, the way to bring back harmony is to drop it. Let go! If you are the one defending yourself, the way to bring back harmony is to force your partner in respecting your space, choice or actions. Enjoy! "Tell me more..." - A simple expression that triggers harmony and open communication - ARTICLE
Now, let's check this simple expression which will trigger harmony and dialogue:
I am interested in hearing what you have to say - I respect your opinion - What you say matters to me. --------------------- Again, when you say this, you naturally create harmony and complicity - Instead of attacking your partner's opinion, you invite them to sterngthen it. You step out of the conflicting or competitive patterns and create synergy instantly. Of course, you might have a different opinion on what they say but now is THEIR time to share. In other articles and tips, I share some more of the core communication tactics to create dialogue. To your couple! If you want to trigger fights, here are simple expressions to use A LOT! - They will drive your partner crazy! - ARTICLE
I am being a bit sarcastic here... No one wants to trigger fights in their relationship, right?
No one wants to and still so many people make the mistake of using some of these expressions:
You see... I was right all along and you were wrong!
I don't trust you! - I doubt! - I don't believe what you said - I don't think you meant this and I'll give you another opportunity to change your opinion.
I am not interested in having a discussion with you - I don't want to listen to what you have to say. ----------------------- These are only isolated examples of the patterns that trigger fights and guess what? Every time you use such phrases it will create tension. Creating harmony in your couple is like a recipe! You put the right ingredients, harmony follows - Yes! It is that simple! Enjoy! Relationship power - The core qualities you need to express to build up harmony in your relationship - ARTICLE
Here are some of the core qualities to keep in mind:
This is only a fraction of the possible qualities you can have in a relationship. You can ad more qualities you feel are important for you. Next step? You can give your couple a mark (0-100%) in those various areas. You might for instance score 100% in sex but 30% in household sharing. If you quantify the quality of your relationship, it will quickly show you the areas you can work on. It's a good excercise to do if you feel something frustrates you but you don't know exactly what it is. Enjoy! Monday, July 6, 2009Missed the party? - GENEVA GOES WILD! - Lake Parade 2009 - Follow me...This one is JUST for fun ;) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=03l9_MqDRzs Enjoy and take care! Francisco PS: remember that you can connect and subsrcibe on my channels: http://youtube.com/vitalcoaching http://facebook.com/vitalcoaching vitalcoaching.com Artisans, 6 Crans 1299 Switzerland You may unsubscribe or change your contact details at any time. ArchivesMay 2007 June 2007 July 2007 September 2007 October 2007 November 2007 December 2007 January 2008 February 2008 March 2008 April 2008 May 2008 June 2008 July 2008 August 2008 October 2008 November 2008 December 2008 January 2009 February 2009 March 2009 May 2009 June 2009 July 2009 October 2009 November 2009 December 2009
How to rebuild sexual attraction when your relationship is in trouble - ARTICLE
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