Have you ever gone out to a social event, meet this person who might look interesting at first but everything in their body language and tone of voice reflects insecurity!

A pity, right?

Have you noticed the impact this has on you?

Most of the times, it is a total turn off.

Their insecurity reflects on you and you start feeling really bad for them.

When you speak with someone, around 90% of your message is transmitted through these two!

This means that people assess you much more through how you stand and the way you say it than through what you actually say!

Here is what you can do:

• Assess yourself now: between 0% and 100% how high do you score on those two specific points (Tone of voice + Body language)
• Speak louder - That's a simple way to boost your confidence
• Next time you go out, before you enter the room, take a minute to concentrate on those two! - Think "confidence" and assume that posture!

Easy, right? ;)

Enjoy!

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Don't take action to prove them anything - You simply recognize their possible negative reaction and follow up with what you were planning to do.

You don't do it for them, you do it for yourself.

For instance, if you arrive at a social event and you notice a few people staring at you or judging you, make it your point to connect with as many women/people as you can, being super friendly and approachable.

The key is to not let these people's doubts or judgements stop you ever!

makes sense right?

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When you face other people's judgements or feel insecure, it is always a power battle between you and them.

The only way to win is to increase your power base and not let these attacks stop you.

People attack you if they feel an opening, the moment you are strong, they stop bothering you.

So, when you feel a negative thought rising, you simply don't let it grow!

You don't let it expand!

You tackle it with the opposite mind set.

A negative thought is:

"You can't do it"

The opposite is

"I can do it"

You are the center of your life and if you don't let your own doubts crawl in your mind, you win the battle.

Any time you recognize fear or doubts and you know you could step back if you negatively respond to this fear, move forward instead and don't let doubts stop you.

Your winning strategy is forward action.

People will know they can't stop you when they see you systematically moving forward when they project their doubts on you.

The more you hesitate or doubt, the more you let them stop you.

The more you take proactive action the more you prove anyone that you have no fear.

You can apply this is any situation: job, dating, social life, etc.

So, how can you use any objection to make you stronger?

You use that challenge as an opportunity to grow.

The more proactive action you take, the stronger you become.

You can't build muscle if there is no resistance, right?

With mind power it is the same.

You don't build character if you face no challenge.

Does that make sense?

What is your conclusion?

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In my experience it takes one month of practice to get familiar with a new mindset and 3 months to totally intergrate it.

The best way to go faster is to practice a lot without being too attached to the immediate result.

It is a bit like going to the gym. You get results by building skills and power on that level.

If you focus on it and make it your top priority, you will have no problem being at 90% to 100% of your true potential.

Don't ever let rejection, doubts or hesitations stop you, ok?

You now know what the target is and all it takes is focus, consistency and some determination

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• Smile + Be friendly!
• Be 100% rejection proof! - Don't let rejection put you down ever!
• Be super confident, not arrogant! - this one is for not putting yourself above others - Behave more like an equal rather than being superior - You can as well do that by validating and complimenting people very easily
• Be ougoing! - Engage! - Connect!
• Be more social and caring!

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Here are 5 strategies you could apply:

• Keep trying until; you eventually break through to these persons
• Give them a reason to let you in
• Give up and focus on those who do vlaue you
• Lower your expectations - Don't expect anything!
• Change your social circle or ad a new one!

The goal now is to identify which of these strategies would work best in your unique situation.

that's the battle plan! That's the strategy!

That's the "S" in the "ASA" steps we mentioned earlier

If you feels challenged within specific social situations, you can apply these 3 steps to solve that challenge:

• Identify the power dynamics - Understand - get a grip of what is truly going on an energy level
• Design a strategy to deal with that challenge
• Apply these strategies - practice!

In other terms:

• Answers
• Strategy
• Action

ASA

Most of social anxiety is not phobia!

Many people will simply face some type of discomfort when comfronted with specific social situations.

here are some examples that can be challenging:

• Being in a crowd - for instance a game or concert
• Social event where you don't know anyone
• You know people but you feel they don't like you or recognize you
• Public speaking or presentation
• Etc

All these situations have something in common:

You are confronted with othere people's energy or judgement.

The reason you might feel anxiety is because your level of power is not high enough.

If you are comfronted with these situations but your level of inner power is at 100%, you feel fearless, right?

other person's judgements or looks don't touch you becasue you feel confident and trut your own value.

When you feel anxiety it is because your level of power is lower.

the psychic impact of other people on your mind overwers you to a certain extent.

The emotion which is triggered is anxiety which is simply an expression of fear.

anxiety happens because you feel insecure.

So the way to taclke anxiety is to increase your level of power.

You do that by getting power and energy from other sources. You work on your power base and stop trying to get validation from sources you know you won't get it from.

All that happens within the context of life or mind mastery.

Anxiety is irrational. It is a useless emotional reaction that you no longer need.

You can kick that emotion out of your system first by realizing that it's not you and no longer needed.

Then, by increasing your level of personal power as well.

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Another type of validation gap happens when you are having a conversation one on one with someone and that person keeps brininging the attention back to them.

Every time you mention something that concerns you, they bring back the attention to them saying something like "Yes! reminds me of what happened to me last summer..." totally forgetting about your story!

Yes! Frustrating! ;)

This is a lack of social skills from that person and as well lack of interest.

Now, again, it is stupid to want validation from a specific person when you know you won't get it from them.

It takes much more time and energy to educate that specific person rather than finding someone else who is more skills socially and will be able to to validate your story with a keen interest.

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