Respect other people's choices and beliefs!

This is one of the top keys to succeed with your tantric quest.

Respect and tolerance!

Religious and spiritual intolerance are self destructive for the planet and humankind. It is one of the big spiritual traps you can fall into.

When you develop mastery over your sexual energy through tantra, this gives you a newly gained sense of power.

It is easy to take a fanatical stand and be pushy, demanding, disrespectful or intolerant with your partner or with others.

The goal of tantric sex is certainly not to build up power to attack or control others! Love is always the core of what you practice.

There is a larger vision at play here: it is the well being of the totality of the planet and humankind.

Humankind is composed of a vast diversity of cultures and beliefs. This is what makes its richness!

It is your job as an awakened tantrika to walk towards that direction of total love, respect and harmony.

What does it mean practically?

Simply watch out what you say.

Never force or push anyone to follow you.

If you hear about other people's belief systems, develop constructive dialogue based on respect.

How do you do that?

You can say things like:

"I totally respect your beliefs. You are free!"

"I respect the fact that now is not a good time for you. I have far too much respect and love for you to push you into doing anything you don't want to."

"I totally understand the fact that this path is not for you. I fully respect that."

You get the picture, right?

Apply this type of strategy any time you feel conflict rising.

Sometimes, you need as well to teach others how to respect you as well.

If someone challenges you on your tantric practices, you can say:

"I am free, right? I don't remember giving you the right to tell me what to do. I respect your choice and you know how to respect mine."

Basically, you do have the right to control what is yours but you have no right to control someone else's actions, beliefs or choices.

If you feel that your tantric practices could benefit someone, offer them an open invitation to learn something in whatever way you feel is suitable.

The key word here is "open invitation".

Anyone always stays free to follow up on that or not.

Never use coercive threat.

Always use love and respect.

That's it! :)

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Here is a mantra you can use to invoke on the idea, mind sets and actions of perfect sexual union through tantra:




Maithuna Tantra

Maithuna = Sexual union


You can write this calligraphy down whenever you feel the desire to connect with tantric sex.

Write down this calligraphy as many times as you want and keep what you write in your "tantric temple". This will polarize the energy towards that goal and give you focus as well.

You can as well engrave it on a stone and keep it in your tantric temple.

You can as well repeat this word together with your partner when you practice tantric sex. You simply repeat this mantra with the rhythm of your body's movements. Simply sing the words out loud or whisper them in a rhythmic way.

You can as well meditate on this mantra. This will call this energy reality into your life.

Remember that it can take 1 to 3 months of practice for this mantra and energy reality to be part of you. If you use the mantra in a calligraphic form, this means that you will write down sets of mantras (3x is a good choice) every day in the evening before you go to rest or when you wake up in the morning for instance.

Same if you meditate on this mantra. Use for instance short 5 minutes meditation sets.

So, Don't give up after one try, ok? :)

This mantra is a gate way. It is an energy reality which starts embodying itself through you.

You become an agent of that reality.

Now, what you will experience might not be spectacular. In fact you might feel absolutely nothing except for a progressive build up of your tantric power.

One day, you will wake up and realize that you are actually there!

You feel that you now express that energy at 80%-100%.

It is really like a muscle you build up at the gym. This energy becomes stronger and stronger in you as you focus on this type of mantras. You simply build up your Tantric Power.

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Maithuna is a Sanskrit term used in Tantra most often translated as sexual union in a ritual context.

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When you build up tantric energy, the main challenge is to keep it active in you.

You are confronted with practicalities and business realities every day.

Your mind gets filled with information which tends to clutter your life force.

So, the main challenge is for your tantric power to be strong enough to stand by itself without being wiped out by all that.

This is why you need a solid strategic approach which does really work within a modern environment.

Now, there is a way to get this right!

You do need to understand the power dynamics involved though.

See your mind and your life as a territory.

Energies compete to manifest themselves in and through you.

These can be the energies of nature, a city, your family, friends, a business idea, a marketing message, a spiritual discipline, a personal ambition, etc.

These are all "plans" with a specific sponsoring force.

When you decide to engage into tantric sex, you need to create space in your mind and life for that.

Again, you will manifest what you focus on.

If your mind is busy with a business concept for most of your day, this is what you will reflect energy wise.

Your thoughts and emotions will reflect that specific business energy.

You will be filled with marketing ideas, dreams of wealth and business success, practicalities, research activities, etc.

If you focus on tantric sex, you will manifest delight and sensual pleasure. You will focus on postures, techniques and tantric skills. You will expand your awareness and your level of life force, etc.

What makes the difference between let's say a business target and the tantric sex target is simply action, vision and sponsoring energy.

Now, one of the key challenges is that certain energies are over present in your life while the tantric sex energy is only rarely invoked or mentioned to the average person.

You will for instance be bombarded with marketing messages and demands from a modern life style, while you can spend a whole life time without ever coming across a message which reminds you of your tantric potential.

The way to tackle this challenge is quite simple actually: focus!

If your goal is to build up tantric sex energy, you simply need to focus on it regularly and give more space to that stream than to other aspects of your life you consider unimportant.

Technically, if you take 10 steps/day geared towards building up tantric energy, your tantric power will expand very fast.

On the other hand, if you simply wait for the tantric energy to come to you by chance, you could be waiting for a long time.

The way to reach your goals is to take conscious action consistently so that your tantric power increases.

It is that simple, really!

Now, the good news is that you do have sexual instincts already. Together with spiritual aspirations, these are the fuels which feed your tantric action.

In other terms, when you do feel sexual desire, need for intimate connection or a call for total unity, all you have to do is manifest this internal drive within a tantric sex context.

You have the fire. Tantric sex gives you a path or a system to get there.

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Somehow, the evening/night seems to be more conductive for tantric sex energy.

It is not exclusive of course.

It seems that during the day, the mind is naturally geared towards more practical tasks.

The evening tends to bring more mystery, refinement, beauty and tantric excitement

Experiment yourself with this and let me know what you discover, ok?

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If you go through a typical shopping mal, you won't see many elements reminding you of a tantric temple.

Now, when you master the tantric sex energy, you take it wherever you go.

That's the power which is given to you.

It is so strongly in you that you reflect it in your being and towards others.

Being in a state of Tantra means being alive and feeling connected energy wise with what surrounds you.

It is a state of awareness and high level of flowing energy.

You simply feel that your life force is awake and flowing.

What if you feel challenged by your environment?

What if you have to work in a cubicle and can't get fresh air for a day?

Are you still able to maintain that fresh energy in your system?

How?

Well, you need to regenerate and go back to nature regularly.

Practice tantric sex with your partner.

If you can, simply step out of a limiting environment and simply choose for spaces which reflect your internal state.

What about your house and personal environment?

Can you create a space which reflects tantric power?

Of course you can.

Ask yourself this simple question:

On a scale of 0% to 100%, how alive is your personal space?

If your personal space does not "breathe" it is your job to make it alive!

Yes, you can!

These are probably some of the most empowering steps you can take!

Here are some tips:

• Ad nature, flowers, fresh fruits, etc.
• Ad streaming water, ponds, fountains.
• Choose the right location, peaceful and refreshing.
• Ad pictures, mantras, sculputures, calligraphies. Some of my favorites are pictures of khajuraho and some calligraphies I write myself.
• Create beauty. This is one of your key guiding forces: the quest to reflect beauty in you and in your personal space.
• Sing and dance. It clears the air.
• Clean your space and get rid of clutter. Ad freshness.
• Create space!
• Marble, crystals, incense, candels.
• Etc.

Okay, these are some of the basics!

Remember that this is more than decorating your personal space.

Any object or element reflects a message.

Think about the objects you choose.

What is their story?

What do they tell you?

When you practice that path, you quickly notice that you develop a "tantric" taste for the way you create your personal space.

One aspect of an object is its esthetical value.

Another aspect is its energy content.

When you engage into tantra, your personal space is your tantric temple.

It is your tantric temple and reflects the tantric energy exactly according to what you put in it.

Don't think that you need to go to some remote tropical forest in India to experience a tantric environment.

You can create and manifest a tantric temple right where you are!

There is more to say on how to consciously recondition a neutral environment. More on this coming soon :)

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Master your sexual energy

This is one of the key goals of tantric sex.

The second goal is to use your sexual energy to reach a state of absolute unity.

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Tantric sex dance!

This is one of the most amazing ways to build up tantric energy between you and your partner.

Choose a nice music, ethnic, mysterious and vibrant.

Get naked and dance, improvise on these beats.

You can touch yourself or touch your partner but in a subtle way.

Don't let passion and excitement take over.

Instead, focus on the beauty of your movements and the play between the two of you.

Play with each other's bodies!

Explore each other's sensuality!

Use your breathing.

Take postures.

Use smiles and a vast diversity of looks towards each other.

This in itself is an amazing tantric sex build up.

The proximity of your bodies will of course trigger sexual tension.

Use kisses and subtle touches. Caress each other's yoni and lingam in very subtle ways.

Let the music and dance take you like a wakeful trance.

If you practiced that with your partner and feel ready for it, you can always invite another experienced couple to your tantric sex dance.

Stay subtle and let the flow of your sensual expression and delight build up in waves of magical fire.

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Don't make him come - This one is for women :)

I know that if you are a woman, his loss of semen and orgasm might feel gratifying.

Some women experience that, others don't.

Now, your role as his Shakti or tantric sex partner is to help him reach this energy build up.

It won't happen if he loses semen.

Now, the heights you will reach in terms of love, union, complicity, spiritual connection are much higher if he does not lose semen and orgasm.

So, my advice is quite simple: help him.

For a guy it might be challenging to practice tantric sex if you try to push him to orgasm.

Instead, give him space. Don't focus on him coming.

Step back and let him relax when you feel he is about to reach his orgasm threshold.

Focus on energy build up instead.

There is no reason for him to come except for an instinctual response.

It is this response he wants to tame.

Help him! And get him to help you achieve the same!

You will be amazed of what happens when you do.

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What about energy orgasms?

Even with energy orgasms (without loss of semen for the men), there is still loss of energy and some time to recharge your stamina.

This means that when you engage into tantric sex, it is still better not to go all the way to even an energy orgasm.

You keep on building energy without releasing it.

You will feel the sexual energy building up and opening gates in your being.

You will feel activation of the chakras especially heart and third eye.

Now, if you release energy when building up, you will actually lose precious life force in the process.

Even with an energy orgasm, it can take a few days to rebuild sexual tension.

On the other hand, if you don't release your energy but let it build up, you will put it to much better use.

After a couple of weeks to a month of tantric sex practice, you eventually reach a point where the effects of your practice become extremely present.

Your awareness starts expanding. This is due to the activation of the third eye.

At the same time, you might get this stable feeling of intense joy.

That's the clarification of the solar plexus and the opening of the heart chakra.

Once you reach this energy plateau and break through, having an energy orgasm is somehow much less of a loss of energy.

You maintain that state of sexual tension more easily.

This is as long as you don't orgasm a few times in a row in which case you will loose most of your stamina and get back to your starting point.

The good news is that even if you orgasm and lose energy in the process, you will be able to rebuild energy easily.

Simply give yourself time and be patient as your sexual tension builds up again.

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Pleasure is such a thrilling sensation in your being.

Pleasure is only the visible part of a much vaster happening in your being.

Pleasure means that life force streams in you.

It is that simple!

Pleasure is only a wave your mind perceives on the surface.

The real deeper experience is a flow of energy, an opening of life force, a clearing of old emotions and patterns, a new connection established with a reality which is much vaster than yourself.

Don't loose touch with reality!

You are still physically awake on this planet, able to do whatever you are supposed to and at the same time, experience this fire with your whole being.

You master the tantric energy when you know you have some form of control over what happens in you.

You can stimulate the flow of tantric fire at will, direct it or stop it if your want to.

This is the moment you reach a total state of synergy with that force.

Tantric fire is instinctual and your role as a human being is to tame that fire and play with this force.

Taming is very different than controlling.

You can tame this force without limiting its freedom!

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When your tantric power is awake, that's exactly how it works!

Sensuality streams out of your being and wakes up the same type of sensation in those who are in contact with you.

If you engaged in waking up your tantric energy with your partner, you will feel the tantric aura of desire, sensuality and pleasure all over you for days.

It does not go away! It stays!

It activates your senses and offers you this flow of magical bliss!

This internal feeling simply does not go away for days at a time.

A look or touch from your partner radiates through your whole being.

These waves of fire are pure delight and overpower any other sensual experience.

You feel complete and fulfilled!

You might be longing for more but it is a desire you master and play with.

You can let it go or activate it at will whenever you feel enclined to.

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When the sexual energy conquers your whole being, your level of delight and internal joy immensely expands.

There is no limit to it.

You can feel it first in waves of sensual love and connection with the planet, people and especially your tantric sex partner.

This corresponds with the opening of the heart chakra.

This natural activation happens because your sexual energy expands from the sex chakra into other parts of your energy body.

You can see it as a rising of energy.

Together with this opening of the heart chakra, you can as well go through flows of realizations.

You see the dynamics of life clearly.

You perceive the forces at play in you and in others.

This sudden understanding of life's dynamics is connected with the opening of the third eye chakra.

Third eye stands for inner vision, right?

This is exactly what you reach. You see beyond the veil of physical existence.

You see the forces at play behind that veil.

As you can see, tantric sex might be very different than what you imagined.

Or maybe it is exactly what you imagined :)

What I can tell you for sure is that when this process of internal clarification happens, it goes beyond your wildest expectations.

The sense of unity is so overwhelming that it sets you up on a total new life course.

Sexual energy is simply one of the forces you can use on your spiritual path.

It is one of the techniques. It is one of the approaches.

Because sexual energy is such an intense fire force, the impact it has on your body and mind when expanding is extremely powerful.

Focus on it. You will be amzed of what happens when you do!

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When you just met someone, this is what it takes to get familiar with each other's body.

Don't rush into having intercourse.

Instead, focus on play!

Explore physical sensations and let the tantric tension build up until the simplest of your partner's touch wakes up waves of sensual delight.

Imagine how it feels to have all your senses open and awake.

The force waking up these senses and making them super alert is your sexual energy.

If you have intercourse or orgasm before you reach this point of tantric build up, you simply release the flow of energy before it expands in your whole body.

Make it flow and expand in your being by taking time to nurture it with freshness and openess.

Yes! You can stay in these foreplay stages for very long.

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Of course you can.

However the impact might be lower than if you are both engaged in it.

When you meet or exchange energy, you end up creating a unified field of energy which is the result of your two inputs.

It is like having a chat with someone. The energy of your conversation will be reflection of what you both put into it.

If your partner engages into sex with a very different idea than yours, you will end up creating something which is more a mixture of sexual attitudes than a pure tantric line.

That's ok of course!

Why? Because sex in itself has already a great potential.

When you practice tantric sex, you simply ad a new dimension to this natural potential.

Now, imagine that you go sailing with someone who has no clue about it.

How does that feel? You probably end up doing most of the moves, right?

With Tantra, it is the same. It is obviously more fun if you both know how to play.

If your partner is not into tantra at all, there is something you can do though:

Multiply your level of tantric power and overpower their energy.

If you are really good at it, you can guide them in a subtle way.

They will let you take the lead if they can feel you are extremely skilled at what you do.

You need to be directive and gentle at the same time.

It is not control. It is more like mastering and taming the sexual power in both of you.

This could be an entrance door. If your partner feels the impact of your tantric approach, they will want to know more about it and give you space to educate them.

Your tantric skills and tantric power need to be solid though.

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Well, the first step is definitely to make sure you own that energy yourself.

What does it mean?

That you know how to generate, delight, beauty or pleasure any time in your existence if you want to.

See tantric sex energy as a flow of fire you can master and play with.

So, the training is first with yourself alone.

You need at least a few techniques to freely connect with and master that energy.

Sometimes, this energy will of course spontaneously wake up in you and you will wonder "why now?".

There is always a reason.

Energies follow their own set of laws and balance of forces.

It does not come out of nowhere.

There is always a cause or a source.

Sometimes, it is simply the right time for you and the waking up of the tantric fire is this sudden break through of energy.

Tantric fire is always in you.

Sometimes, it is visible. Sometimes, it is simply overpowered by other forces at play.

Now, back to the question.

Suppose that you have already a high level of mastery of the tantric sex energy.

You see someone and feel this tantric potential with that person.

You feel waves of desire and sensuality.

What do you do? How do you connect?

It is simple: the person you are attracted to will respond if they are touched by the same energy.

This energy is intelligent.

It is a force at play which has its own agenda.

We, as agents are part of this agenda.

Why?

Because we are creators.

It is the role of the energy to instruct us and guide us on how to use that force and play with it.

It is always a trilogy or triangle, never simply the play of two persons.

There is always a third entity or intelligence involved.

You can call this force the tantric sex spirit.

Now, this spirit has its own set of forces and balance.

To create a perfect energetic reaction, you need to find the right posture.

You find this posture on various levels:

• The right mind set, thoughts and emotions.
• The right attitude, vision or plan.
• The right action.

Okay! :)

This is not simply an incoherent action line.

There is a clear plan or vision behind this force.

The goal is to reach a total and absolute state of unity.

Of course, the play of sensuality is like a flirt you have with this force.

It takes you in its arms. It nurtures you and activates the fire channels in your being.

You can have a simple glimpse of that energy or a deep break through after days of sensual play.

Once you feel this potential waking up, it magnetizes you totally.

It is one of the big successes you can achieve in this life time:

A total, overwhelming, clear and energizing mystical union or opening.

A simple touch of this experience changes your life forever.

It frees your total being and repositions you as a free universal spirit rather than just someone trying to cope with society's demands.

The goal is not to escape creation.

It is to ad this quality of fire which does free your being forever.

Sex without this connection can have the same type of effect.

However, in my experience, the sponsorship of this tantric force multiplies the power and extent of a sexual experience.

Keep in mind that right now, we talk about tantric sex, but you can have similar type of experiences without sex being involved.

You can find yourself for instance naked playing in wild ocean waves under the sun and having this incredible feeling of joy. This experience can remove all fears or worries out of your mind and open new doors of total clear awareness.

It is the same type of experience. You simply use another type of action to get there. The energies and experiences can be very similar.

But let's get back to tantric sex.

We now know that there is:

• A plan.
• A third entity (besides you and your potential partner) you can call the tantric spirit.
• A target you can reach.

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Sometimes, you will just feel these intense waves of desire feeling up your being.

You feel internal fire burning with passion.

It is a feeling of joy when it flows.

It is on the edge of pain when it can't be shared or feesl constricted.

The next step is to free that force.

This is the challenge!

Why?

Because forces are always at play which tedn to constrict or limit that fire.

The qualities of joy, delight and pleasure are not usually valued to what they really are!

So, it is our job as Tantrikas to empower them and offer them channels of expression in our own lifes.

It is more than just letting it flow!

It is about offering these energies a body and line of action and expression!

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