Here are a few ideas to introduce you to tantric sex.

This is by far not all there is but it will give you a starting point.

In the tantric world, a penis becomes a lingam. A vagina is a yoni.

Both lingam and yoni are divine attributes and gateways for profound pleasure and realizations.

Orgasm is never the goal.

The real tantric goal is transmutation of energies into higher forms.

By transmutation we mean no suppression, it is rather the gentle flow of energy from the lower chakras into the higher ones.

Stimulate your sexual energy through tantric sex and rather than reaching climax keep on building sexual tension in your body.

After a while (like a couple of weeks), you start experimenting opening in all chakras. It is like the creation of an inner space and clarity.

This happens on an energy level.

It is a blissful experience because it clears the mind.

This is the true meaning of sexual freedom.

For most people, sexual freedom means having sex with whoever you want.

Within tantric sex, sexual freedom would rather be the true freeing of sexual energy in your body.

Most of the times, sexual energy is simply constricted or limited within the lower chakras.

When you feel excited and engage into sex, your sexual energy tends to still be polarized in the usual energy channel.

The natural purpose of this energy channel is simply to concentrate the sexual energy to release semen and eventually give birth to a child.

Now, with tantric sex, you dissolve this channel and create a whole new use of your sexual energy in your body.

You give it a new expression.

To do so, as a man you “retrain” your instincts so that ejaculation and traditional orgasm does not happen.

This makes a total difference because for a man all the seeds of energy contained in the semen are concentrated and used in a different way.

A spermatozoid is filled with a life potential. It is a seed of energy and if you keep this seed inside, it will simply expand in very different ways.

Nature did not create this tantric pathway as its main expression.

Nature needed to be focused on procreation first; otherwise, the human race would not have survived.

The tantric sex way is a new development in human sexual behaviour which opens new doors in our consciousness.

The best way to go is to experience how it works in your body.

This retraining of the body is really why it can be challenging at first to engage into tantric sex.

Many people simply don’t have time and energy to retrain their instinctual sexual response.

Most men with who I talk, always loose semen in the sexual act.

This means that a sexually active male will easily loose semen a few times in a week.

Now, this usually creates an energy gap in the body and a significant loss of stamina.

Imagine what would happen if this stamina was kept inside rather than lost through ejaculation.

What about women?

We talk about loss of semen but what happens to women when they orgasm?

Do they loose stamina and tantric potential as well?

I am still actively investigating that question.

My preliminary conclusions show that women do as well loose a significant amount of stamina when they orgasm.

They might not loose semen (even though we talk about female ejaculation in some cases), but they do release sexual energy when they orgasm.

For a woman, sexual energy builds up in the body.

You engage into sex.

Eventually, you have and orgasm.

Now, what happens after orgasm or multiple orgasm?

In most cases, you loose this sexual tension feeling.

The energy that was built to create this inner tension is released and you fall asleep or engage into other activities.

You can as well simply lay there enjoying the after effects of the orgasm.

The release of energy is obvious.

Even though this release might not be as significant as for a man it is still there.

Now, imagine what happens when both partners keep on building sexual energy endlessly without having an orgasm.

This sexual energy eventually expands and breaks through to find new channels through the body.

Now, when this happens, you break through into a totally new life dimension.

Your mind feels brighter.

You feel happier.

Love and harmony keep expanding.

Your level of desire stays very high.

You connect with your lover in new very subtle ways.

You feel bright and extremely awake.

There is only way to go: experience it.

After a few weeks of active tantric sex practice (without orgasm or loss of semen), you enter literally in a new state of consciousness.

You might go through a whole series of mystical experiences where for instance your heart chakra starts boosting rhythmically in local and blissful energy explosions.

You feel intense brightness in your third eye.

Your solar plexus feels empowered and cleared from negative emotions.

This is not the end of course. It is only a sample of what you can experience.

So much more can happen and these are only the original stages of tantric experiences.

These experiences can easily start appearing in the first 3 months of your practices.

Of course, you need to combine tantric sex with active energizing of the body.

The best is to do some yoga or exercise in nature and eat very light and super healthy. This will speed up these tantric opening and harmonize your body.

Sexual tantric energy is like raw fire. You need to train that fire and help it find its purpose in your being.

Tantra goes far beyond the limits of India.

The principles or ideas behind tantra are universal.

This means that they don’t even belong to a certain system or religion.

You can readapt these principles freely to your own life and rename them in whatever way you want.

The keyword here is “freedom”.

You are free to redesign any of these ideas according to your own needs.

You are free, yes!

The goal of this e-book and ideas is not limit you within a rigid set of rules and ideas.

The goal is to free your mind and offer you a protected space where you can expand your own beliefs, feelings and desires.

I trust you!

I trust that there is a guiding instinct in you which knows the answer to any question.

This is why everything you read here is totally open for being rewritten, changed or modified according to what you feel.

If you don’t like something which is said in these pages, erase it, change it or rewrite it according to what you feel.

It is your right to do it.

There is no such thing as absolute truth in this e-book.

These are only some ideas, concepts or guidelines which might help you take the next step.

If any of these next steps do not suit you, create another step which will fit better your unique needs.

Amongst the most useless emotions you can develop in your mind, you find guilt.

The root of guilt is a conflict between what you experience in life and what you believe to be right or wrong.

One of the key guilt areas is sex.

When you have sex, there is a potential for a totally fulfilling experience.

It is a fire which wakes up in your body with a powerful stream of love.

This stream can take you to ecstasy.

If you stimulate this force even more, you reach a point of stillness and total bliss.

If you did experience this before, you probably wonder how such a magnificent experience can turn into a negative emotion like guilt, right?

This has of course to do with western and eastern mentalities, education, old beliefs and so much more.

A lot of this guilt is initiated in various religious fields.

Where does it come from?

Well, when you want to dedicate your life to the highest, the worldly pleasures can be a side track.

Many monastic traditions put renunciation in the core of their beliefs.

This means that they renounce many worldly quests like money, sex or other “superficial” and “non fulfilling” pathways.

Now, these beliefs have been so embedded for thousands of years that you might have forgotten why they even existed in the first place.

The emotion of guilt is simply a left over mind set which reminds you to walk in a certain direction.

It says that if you step aside and invite deep sensual ecstasy into your life, you will doomed and end up in the darkest areas of the human mind.

This is not true of course.

The path of spiritual evolution through sexual union does exist. It has been practiced by millions of people around the world for centuries.

It did lead many to very profound realizations about human life.

It created joy, intense love, a sense of unification in millions of lives.

Any pathway you take is a choice.

You are free to decide for yourself what suits you best.

What matters is that you feel fulfilled as a human being.

If you are thirsty, you can try to suppress this thirst or simply drink some water and enjoy the freshness of this simple experience.

A naked body is very pure.

Sexual union is a divine act if this is where you want to see it.

Like with any natural forces the goal is of course to master these energies, not to be a slave of them.

This is the context in which you can explore the quest for pleasure and ecstasy.

Sure, you can get side tracked.

Sure, you can wake up sources of fire in you which might be challenging to tame.

But guess what?

That’s the kind of learning process you go through in life when you engage yourself in any human activity.

Any exploration requires skills and sex tantra is an exploration.

You can use some guidance and existing ideas. No need to reinvent the wheel.

At the same time, with every step you take, you penetrate deeper and deeper into a virgin territory.

The laws directing the balance in these spheres might be slightly different than other life fields.

However, engaging into this quest can be intensely rewarding. A world of wonders is ready to be discovered.

Imagine an inner reality which contains all the tantric sex teachings and practices.

The goal is very simple:

When you start developing this tantric line in your life, no need to retreat to some tropical getaway to experience tantra.

You want to manifest the tantric temple in your own house, wherever you live.

The tantric essence is not some distant reality you can exceptionally connect with.

It is part of your daily essence.

It is part of your daily thoughts, feelings, impressions or desires.

It is with you all the time.

This means that you are the tantric temple.

Your being and your life are divine essences and all you have to do to manifest this reality is give it more space in your life.

You do that through your actions, choices and thoughts.

You do that in the way you design your personal space, through the connections you have with people or the way you interact with them.

Tantric sex is only a small fraction of the energy exchanges you can have in your life.

Sex is the perfect area to experiment with this but you quickly realize that what you discover through tantric sex is something you apply all day long.

You feel more sensually awake, enjoying natural daily pleasures.

You feel more deeply connected with those around you.

You discover a new dimension of joy no matter what you engage into.

Your level of awareness increases naturally.

You are clearer about what you want from your life.

And so much more of course.

You discover a new inner sense of freedom and space.

Your life is more blissful.

You feel wonderful when you spend time in nature.

Your senses are awake.

Do you want me to go on?

Tantra is a very vast field and the tantric sex doorway gives you access to an energy connection which expands to all aspects of your life.

Sex is an infinite source of energy in you.

If the way you use your sexual energy is unfulfilling for you or those around you, it is essential to do something about it.

This is a path of life mastery.

The goal is to master the tools that were given to you.

If your sexual energy feels like a snake you can’t tame or partner with, then obviously something is missing.

If you let it go and simply forget about it, I am sure you might still lead a very happy life.

Now, somewhere down the line, your mind might be triggered by the desire to know more about your sexual life force.

This is the moment it might be helpful you to have some basic system to support you in take some steps.

I am convinced that if you take the time, you might rediscover such a system.

It will simply take you longer.

This e-book is a shortcut.

It offers you some ideas that you might recognize as already awaken in you.

It might simply be a confirmation of what you already know and help you take your next step along your sexual development line.

Gaining some form of understanding of your sexual energy is very rewarding.

Being able to use this sexual energy to multiply the awareness, inner power and satisfaction you get from being alive is even more thrilling.

Imagine having this river flowing through your property and realizing that you can turn this streaming water into a source of infinite and empowering energy.

This is exactly what sex tantra is about.

Your sexual energy is this river you can learn to tame and use.

Once you do, your whole perspective on life might be immensely expanded.

If you came across the idea of tantric sex before, you might have read that sex and desire are just tests.

You might have heard that in fact, the goal is to transcend desire and be able to move beyond it.

In that sense the sculptures of Khajuraho would be the external expression of your sex drive and once you enter the tantric temple, all desires become still and you enter into peace and total bliss.

Is this true?

In my experience, desire is not a force to be suppressed.

It is a force to be tamed and mastered.

Imagine again the waves of the sea.

You can fear them and stay away from them or you can surf them and master the immense energy they convey.

Desire, pleasure and sex are powerful energies which can take you to total bliss.

They are like an elevator force which offers you a shortcut to the most incredible mystical experiences.

These forces where given to you by nature.

They are divine in essence like any other aspect of your life.

Rather than taking the “suppression” path which is suggested by many spiritual traditions, you can embrace desire and all dimensions of your emotions and use this force as a catalyst for what you are looking for.

Tantra is a fire and like with any fire, you need to develop the skills to master it and tame it.

Yes! In a way, it is a test.

The test is not to suppress your desires, rather use them.

Once you dive into these various dimensions of pleasure and delight, you gently dive into this inner core of stillness where even desire disappears.

It is like being in the eye of the hurricane in which absolute bliss is manifested.

Tantric sex is much more than a test: it is a vehicle.

It has the power to add a new dimension to your existence which radically shifts the way you stand in life.

Imagine that around this temple you have gardens and other smaller buildings.

Imagine that once you enter the temple, you touch on a new dimension which establishes bliss as your key state of being.

In the core of the tantric temple, you find this total sense of union with everything which lives on this planet.

This is why tantric sex is a gateway or a vehicle.

Once you establish yourself firmly in that core, you discover a whole new set of life potentials.

You perceive your life from a new fresh and empowered perspective.

The key quality is clarity, awareness and peace.

It really feels like being home at last.

Now, this is an experience or a space you want to protect.

With the experience of bliss itself, you access as well new fire skills which give you the power to protect what you just discovered.

Have you ever had a mystical experience and felt very vulnerable afterwards?

This is why in the core of this inner experience you will discover as well new resources of power which give you all the skills you need to protect this “access” path in you.

This essence in you is very precious.

Wake up all the skills you need to “secure” and protect that experience in you.

No one will ever take it away from you.

Once you experience it, it is yours forever.

Imagine an inner school or system that you can intuitively access.

Imagine that through your meditation, you can envision exactly what tantric sex is about without ever reading about it.

Imagine that the tantric sex system is sponsored by a powerful and intelligent force which empowers your actions.

This inner school of tantric sex is an inner reality you can tune into.

Many books have never been written.

Many mantras have never been spoken.

Many techniques have never been transmitted.

They stay invisibly suspended in the inner worlds.

By accessing this inner school, you can tune into that reality.

Every time you have an idea or a vision of something you want to do, where do you feel this idea comes from?

Was it initiated right there in your mind out of nowhere or is it the result of an interaction between your mind and a specific profound spiritual reality?

There are many “inner systems” or “inner teachings” which are never transcribed or transmitted in the form of a manifested message.

The inner school of tantric sex is simply one of these streams.

Life force is an essential aspect of your being.

There are many ways you can activate it:

• Eating healthy
• Exercising
• Focusing on exciting targets in your life
• Activating your social life
• Caring for nature
• Being creative
• Loving your children
• Sex
• And so much more

Sex is one avenue.

If you had great sex in the past, you know how this gives you an energy boost.

You feel happy, fulfilled and immensely energized.

Your life force is a substance you can learn to master.

Tantric sex is one amongst many lines of activity which can activate your life power.

Any of the streams or activities we mentioned above have the potential to be a mystical or spiritual experience.

Tantric sex is simply one of them.

Energy exchange is what you look for with tantric sex.

This energy exchange can happen between you and another being.

It can happen as well internally as an energy circulation pattern.

You can for instance focus on energy exchange with the absolute.

This is the universal dimension of your being.

You simply realize that you are united at all times with the life force which surrounds you and you find ways of activating this connection.

You can have a similar type of energy exchange with nature for instance.

You can jump in the fresh waves of the sea and get this intense feeling of union with the elements.

We don’t usually call this sex, right?

It is still some form of energy exchange.

You don’t have to call it tantra either.

This experience did exist long before the term or concept of tantra was created.

So, yes! It is obvious that energy exchange escapes any form of definition.

Tantra is simply a way of calling it.

It is simply to give it a name and a place within a vaster dynamics of things.

You can call this energy exchange whatever you want or whatever you feel comfortable with.

If you don’t have a word or expression coming to mind, you can always use the terms “tantric exchange” or “energy exchange” to describe these experiences.

Of course not.

You do exchange energy with every single living form on this planet and the universe.

When you touch a tree, there is an instant harmonizing connection established.

This happens on an etheric level or energy level.

We are just starting to understand and unveil the dynamics of these energy exchanges.

For those of you who read or saw the Celestine prophecy, this is the type of energy exchange we talk about.

You can call it universal sex if you want.

Sex simply involves a specific type of energy exchange.

If you are straight, you’ll feel this with the opposite sex.

If you are gay, you’ll tend to establish this connection with the same sex.

See the world in and around you as a vast and complex network of energy exchanges.

When we talk about tantric sex, we focus on one specific type of energy exchange.

What if you are in city?

Well, the same type of energy exchange applies.

This time you function within what we could call a civilized environment.

You exchange energy with people, places, tools or activities.

For instance, if you go for a drink in a café, you will establish a very specific set of energy exchange with this specific environment.

You might have this very nice feeling of happiness and fun just by being there.

You’ll chat, laugh, taste a delicious cocktail and spent the rest of the night dancing or singing.

Now, you might feel great in that context.

Someone else might not like it at all.

They might feel awkward and out of place.

There are hundreds of ways of relating to a specific environment.

Again, you can see what happens in this café as a vast network of energy exchange.

You’ll feel really good if energy does flow.

You’ll feel bad if you can’t connect or don’t know how to.

Now, expand this idea or concept to anything you do in a city: business, shopping, social life, gym, etc.

If you feel good, it usually means that you do “master” that environment to a certain point.

You know how to “activate it”.

This is what I call “city tantra”: it is this vast network of activities and energy exchanges you can consciously practice and wake up in a civilized environment.

I call it tantra but could call it anything else of course.

This is just a word which reminds me of the energy exchange aspect.

The moment you connect with nature, you can call this nature tantra.

If you go to nature and feel this harmonizing force waking up in you, it is the sign that energy is flowing between you and nature around you.

This can happen with trees and flowers, with the sea, with mountains…

With anything!

It happens all the time!

It happens whether you are aware of it or not.

Your body is never isolated.

On an etheric or energy level you exchange energy with your environment all the time.

The moment you are in nature, you feel a certain type of energy exchange.

Now, you can consciously activate this energy exchange.

Suppose you go for a walk on the beach.

You can walk with your hands in your pockets, lost in deep thoughts or you can stop, look at the sea, breathe deeply, make some movements, take off your clothes and jump in the water.

Of course when you take all these activation steps, something “more” will happen because you will activate your link with the elements around you.

The four walls of your house act as a protection but as well as an isolating force.

The moment you step out of this protection, you start dynamically exchanging with nature around you.

You have plenty of ways of activating this exchange of life force.

As this is not really the topic of this e-book, we won’t go into it.

Remember that there is more than simply the traditional sexual exchange between human beings.

Exchange of life force with nature around you offers a whole avenue of development as well.

It might even be much easier to start with that one if you don’t know where to begin.

Food is an energy form.

Raw food is of course closer to nature and its original form.

When foods are heavily processed, they loose this energy content.

Imagine for instance that you can choose between fresh fruit and tined one, which one would you go for?

Which one do you feel would be the most beneficial for you?

You can apply the same approach to anything you eat.

Eating healthy is your choice of course.

You stay free at all times to eat whatever is suitable for you.

Within the tantric tradition, I don’t remember ever coming across a book or article, mentioning what tantric food was.

If you think “Tantric food” I am sure you will come up with a few guidelines which are suitable for you.

Two elements seem to be essential:

• How much life force does this food contain?
• How much pleasure will I get when I eat it?

These are two simple questions you can ask yourself when selecting your next meal or preparing it.

My choice:

• I tend to go now for raw food
• Lots of fruit and vegetables
• Lots of dried fruits
• Fresh juices
• Some milk products in the form of yoghurt or cheese
• Some tofu like products
• Some grains in the form of muesli
• Little or no meat or fish

It takes me maximum 5 minutes to prepare a meal: usually a fresh salad with a few different vegetables and sauce.

My favorite for breakfast and lunch: muesli with fresh fruit, yoghurt and juice.

For snacks: dried fruit.

That’s it for now on this topic.

The beauty dimension of tantra is omnipresent.

It is expressed through art, sculptures, clothes, singing, music, poetry, oils, presence of nature and so much more.

This refinement offers a dimension of delight to this tantric stream.

It makes the whole tantric experience more enjoyable for the senses.

When you engage into tantric sex, activate as well this dimension of beauty and refinement.

It will simply multiply the pleasure you get from any practice

You know that Hatha Yoga is a way of preparing the body to receive “higher” energies.

Having a healthy and harmonious body is essential for the practice of sex tantra.

Any form of exercise is okay.

If you feel unhealthy, start with anything.

It can be gym, jogging, dancing, yoga, martial arts, biking, etc.

Anything!

The first step is to move your body.

Why is it that essential to be in good shape?

Your body is your first and most essential asset.

If you don’t feel good in your body, it impacts on your mind, emotions and thought patterns.

You can make really good progress on the sex tantra line and have huge draw backs related with disharmony on the body or mind level.

This is why energizing your body is so essential.

If you don’t know where to start, yoga or martial art classes are definitely my favorites.

The social support you get when you join a class makes it easier to exercise.

If you don’t want to join a class, take off in nature or to the beach and do some exercise there.

The goal is to harmonize and energize your body.

Of course you can apply the same guideline for mind preparation.

Preparing your mind means getting rid of undigested emotions, extra stress or limiting beliefs.

You learn to relax, can practice some simple meditation techniques or simply take some time to distress in nature.

All these harmonizing activities are powerful.

The goal is to make sure that your mind is truly your best ally.

If you walk around with negative self limiting beliefs, this becomes a permanent burden which drains your energy.

This is the last thing you want.

Harmonizing and empowering the mind is again a vast topic.

Check this link for more resources on this:

http://vitalcoaching.com/wakeupyourpower.htm

This is one of the top challenges tantra faces.

Success with tantra has nothing to do with money or organizations.

The commercial system existing anywhere around the world is just a way of exchanging goods.

Now, when we enter into spiritual oriented fields, commercialization can create this disturbing background sound, especially when you are looking for total and mystical purity.

It happens to yoga as well. It happens to meditation schools and organizations.

It is the risk of loosing track with what you intended to do at first.

For instance, when a tantric teacher sets up an organization and starts selling products online, there is a high risk of getting side tracked.

The commercial aspect of this teacher’s activities can totally overlap the original tantric quest.

This means that students wanting to get in touch with the tantric system might feel first the marketing structure of what is offered.

Everyone is learning of course.

Tantric teachers are good people and simply want to strengthen a message or a teaching.

I know they are doing their best.

Now, what we see today might not be the end of the story.

New systems and teachings might be emerging, which will be based on a different set of priorities: open and free transmission might come before money.

This means that words like “copyright”, “membership”, “price” are all words which could be disappearing from the tantric environment.

When you start thinking of the greater good and the free transmission of tantra, the dynamics needed to achieve this are very clear: freedom, space, trust, love, respect and so much more.

These are the qualities we’ll try to set up in the centre of our activities.

As we do so, we’ll try to keep the commercial or marketing aspects aside and put back the absolute essence of tantra in the core of our message.

Code of ethics?

Yes! This is essential.

Tantra is a form of fire and energy.

The moment you wake it up in you, you are given a whole new set of powers in your existence.

There is always a risk for these powers to be abused.

They can turn against you or those you love.

They can hurt your life and the life of others.

This is why it is essential to strengthen your values and decide before you even start about what is okay and what is not.

Everyone is of course responsible for their own actions.

When you buy a car, you know that you have to respect the speed limits and traffic lights for instance.

Same goes for tantric sex.

Many of the potential pitfalls are described in the coming pages.

It is essential that before you take challenging steps, you simply think twice and check for yourself if your choice is the wisest direction to go.

Yes! Be wise!

One of the key values you want to strengthen is: respect.

Respect for yourself, for others and other belief systems.

For now, I don’t have a fixed code of ethics I can transmit.

At this stage, I think it’s everyone’s responsibility to choose their own.

In the coming pages, we’ll check deeper some of the pitfalls with key solutions.

As far as I know, you do have sex tantra schools in India as well.

However, these streams are marginal in India as they are in the West.

The main tantric stream in India has little to do with sex.

It is based on worship, rituals and devotion.

Many people in the East will be shocked by sex tantra practices. They might see it as a dangerous direction to engage into.

Now, there are other streams which do encourage the mystical sexual arts.

The whole stream of Kama Sutra or what you find in the temples of Khajuraho are all tantric sex jewels you find nowhere else.

This means that India is probably as divided as the West concerning the idea of tantric sex.

Did you know for instance that Gandy wanted to have the temples of Khajuraho destroyed?

This is where these well know erotic sculptures come from.

Apparently, there was something in that tantric stream that he did not like.

The tantric community and a few well known eastern figures opposed this destruction and the temples were saved.

In the East as in the West, there are many different opinions, some of them very extreme.

In terms of exactly how many people in India would embrace the sex tantra stream, I definitely have no clear idea.

My guess is that it is probably similar to what you find in the West.

If you want to reduce the risk of contracting an STD, you need to stick to one or a very limited number of sexual partners.

If you go around having sex with just anyone, the risk of catching an unwanted STD gets of course much higher.

If you do have sex with many partners, you need to apply simple safe sex techniques.

There is plenty of documentation on this topic, so we won’t explore it here.

Some of these techniques can feel limiting.

Suppose that you have oral sex for instance, using a condom might not always be the most exciting perspective for a couple.

The real alternative is to be faithful and explore the tantric sex avenue with one partner.

If you choose for multiple partners, you can as well succeed of course, but you’ll need to be more cautious of course.

Listen to warning signs as well: you need to use your instinct with this and realize that certain population groups are more at risk.

If you are a male and visit a prostitute in the streets of Bangkok, Kolkata or an African capital, you have of course many more chances to put your health and life at risk.

If you visit a city, you’ll often avoid certain streets and neighborhoods because you know that crime might be high over there.

You simply use your common sense and listen to warning signs.

These warning signs are often there.

Listen to them when exploring your sexuality as well.

For instance, if you meet a potential sex partner who talks about a heroin addiction past for instance, you need of course to be extremely cautious.

Another rule is not to engage into active high risk sexual exchanges after one or two dates.

You can delay the moment of intercourse.

You can be lightly intimate and give each other time to build complicity and confidence.

Passion is a very positive force.

Now, if this is the only guiding force you use, you might get yourself in trouble.

You need to be smart when you explore the tantric sex realm.

If you listen carefully, at least 95% of the “health hazards” you could face can easily be avoided.

For the other 5% you can use extra skills like safe sex practices and not engaging into active intercourse and high risk practices if something feels not right.

Even then, take steps cautiously and protect yourself.

You do that not only for yourself but for those you love as well.

This is the main reason tantric sex used to have a bad reputation in the last couple of decades in the West: it was abused.

Basically a few well known masters rushed in the West and thought they could wipe out the existing beliefs and practices.

They broke fundamental rules and often betrayed the trust of their followers.

The existing sex tantra schools in the west have learned from these mistakes.

Most of them are now well integrated and do respect and encourage the established laws and beliefs.

Go online and make a search for tantra.

You will see dozens of workshops, classes and books on this topic.

Most of the organizations or persons promoting these teachings and systems are totally respectful and will take you in the right direction with developing tantra.

This means that they will usually be respectful and mature in their approach.

Of course, like with any teaching or courses, some might be fit for you and some might not.

This happens for anything you want to study and explore.

You simply need to be wise and discriminative.

Listen to and trust your instinct with that.

This is a key issue in the tantric sex world.

Sex can have many different uses and purposes.

On one side you have the natural procreation drive.

On the other side you have the use of sex as a path of inner transformation and regeneration.

These two uses or directions can enter in conflict.

You will often hear a woman saying she just got pregnant without really having planned it: “It just happened”, “We did not try to stop it”

This is such a huge contradiction in today’s world because you do have at least some amount of control over having children or not.

You can use various contraceptive methods which are all aimed at deciding if and when you want to have children.

Now, it’s as if sometimes the mind gets veiled to allow nature and destiny to follow its course.

It’s as if the rational decision of not being sure about having children is overpowered by an invisible natural force.

Within the tantric sex context, it is essential to understand how this works and realize that you do have the power to decide whether you want children or not.

You are not merely a victim of it.

You are actually the architect of it.

Within the tantric sex experience, the main mean of contraception is simply semen retention.

As a man, you simply don’t ejaculate.

You preserve your energies internally and simply don’t loose semen.

It is pretty obvious that if you practice this fully, it is simply impossible to conceive a child…

Unless of course we dive into the idea of Immaculate Conception, but that’s another debate, right?

When you practice tantric sex, conception is not the goal.

In other terms, the focus is on spiritual and mystical experience rather than procreation.

If you are luck warm about this and are not sure, there are good chances that you or your partner might get pregnant along the way.

Pregnancy will “just” happen.

It does not need to be that way. You can be firm about what you want and consciously decide whether you want children or not.

Then, act accordingly.

You can as well leave it up to the cosmos to decide for you. That’s fair enough as well.

Now, if you want to practice and explore tantric sex, observe strictly contraceptive behaviors to avoid any surprises.

Again, if you want to be firmly on the tantric sex ground, you’ll need this extra awareness and conscious action.

You will need to reinforce this boundary and make sure that if one day you conceive a child, it was your decision, not just some form of natural mistake.

Remember, if you don’t want to make a child right now and would rather explore the tantric sex path, you’ll need to be firm with this.

Of course, when you think about sex, you might have porn images appearing in your mind.

Sometimes, sex tantra is totally mixed or confused with porn.

These two are radically different in the intention.

Porn is a raw commercialization of sex.

Sex tantra is a mystical and energy exploration of sex.

Their purpose is totally different.

It is a key difference in intention and desire.

If you see a picture of a couple making love, it might be difficult to know if it’s tantra or porn sometimes.

The theme “Kama Sutra” is often used within a porn context.

Some tantric sex activity leans as well strongly towards the porn side.

You might enter a tantric sex site and be presented with a whole line of sex toys which look exactly like those you might see in sex shops or porn sites.

This is true.

At this stage, the most important part is: don’t confuse the two in your mind.

Tantric sex is a protected and ancient sexual exploration path.

When you engage in it, you are confronted with sensations and experiences which are quite different from the ones you might experience within the porn context.

Now, I am not here to judge.

I am not saying that one is better than the other.

They are simply different approaches using the same original sexual energy and drive.

Porn does play a role in society. It is simply a different role than the one played by tantric sex.

Stay in charge of your life.

Sex can enslave you.

It can be like alcohol or any form of addictive behaviors.

The goal is to stay on top of these energies.

Imagine these big waves on a Hawaiian beach.

Learning to play with your tantric fire is like learning to surf these waves.

This fire is energy and your goal is to use and tame that energy, not to be enslaved.

Obsessive attitudes lead to intolerance and extreme behaviors.

You might force sex tantra on yourself or on others.

This is a mistake you must not commit.

You must maintain respect for yourself and others at all times.

You must respect as well other aspects of your life and feed them accordingly.

Tantric sex brings in a new energy in your life.

Learn to balance it up with other aspects of your existence.

Fanatical attitudes do not serve you on the long term because they isolate you and often lead you to dead ends.

Learn the exact balance and feed all aspects of your life like profession, social life and health.

The goal is to find a balance you can easily maintain on the long term.

These tools can be used within a tantric sex context.

Most of the times, of course, the tantric dimension is not present in what you will find online.

It’s up to you to introduce it if you want to.

You can for instance record some tantric sex videos with your partner and discover a new dimension of beauty and excitement through that.

You can connect with someone online and use your webcam as a medium to experience tantric sex with them.

All potentials are there.

A webcam, video or chat room is simply a tool. You can use this tool in whatever way you want.

This is essential.

The western and eastern worlds function with very specific laws concerning sex and youth.

These laws are there for a reason: protecting young children and teenagers.

The moment you engage in tantric sex, you need to respect these laws and make sure that you don’t break them.

Children need your protection. They need to know that they can trust you.

This means that you must not engage in any form of sexual activity with someone under 18.

This might be different depending on the country you are in.

Whatever the law, respect it!

This is the general rule to be applied.

You must never break it or you will suffer the consequences of it.

These laws have been created for a reason: it is because abuse happens almost instantly when children are not respected.

The psychological damage that can happen for children and teenagers can stay with them for a life time.

This is why a boundary exists right there that you must never cross.

Not at all!

This is one of the great misunderstandings around tantra.

Practicing tantra does not mean that you will go around sleeping with anyone.

It does not mean either that you don’t respect family values.

Tantric sex is simply a way of enhancing your sex life.

When you engage into these practices, you can function within certain limits.

Yes! You can practice tantra and be 100% faithful to your partner.

It is a conscious decision you take.

The forces of tantra can literally overtake you. That’s true.

Now, part of what you have to learn is to tame this fire.

Imagine having suddenly thousands of dollars.

You can go and spend it in the most stupid ways if you don’t have a clue on how to tame that energy, right?

Same with sexual energy.

You can stimulate your sex life and do this within certain specific boundaries.

Is it possible?

Of course it is.

You are the one who decides how to express this sexual force.

You are the one who chooses the type of activity you want to engage into.

Sex has this dimension of mystery in it.

You can feel threatened by what you don’t understand.

No need to be.

By taking small steps and understanding the dynamics involved, you can break through any limiting belief you have on this topic.

Sex is a vast source of fire in you.

Not using it is like missing on one of the purest source of power and energy available in your being.

One of the key tantric sex strategies is to preserve your energies and make them grow.

When you have sex, usually the final goal is to reach an orgasm.

Forget about this picture and imagine what happens if you don’t go for the orgasm.

Imagine that there is no loss of semen for the man and that all the sexual excitement build up stays within.

Now, imagine that you don’t come for months and that every time you have sex, you keep on building energy and increasing your level of inner sexual tension.

As you can imagine, this might lead to some intense energy build up.

The only way to find out what happens is to try and practice it.

Now, this is probably one of the most challenging trainings you can go for in life.

Everything in your instinctual nature encourages you to let go of your semen and have an orgasm.

So, it takes focus and determination to shift this pattern and simply hold back before you reach the “no return” point.

What about women?

As a woman, you can practice the same.

You can simply come to the limit of your orgasm and then, simply keep this potential inside.

In tantric sex, we talk a lot about transmutation of energies.

The sexual energy rises through your chakras and activates them.

It eventually reaches the heart chakra and creates a whole new sexual experience.

What happens?

I guess every one will experience this differently but generally, you will enter into an expansion of the heart area.

This means that your level of love for your partner and anything else in the universe will suddenly grow immensely.

Those who experienced it talk about a profound and transforming mystical experience.

This experience does not stop there.

The rising of sexual energies can expand into the third eye and crown chakra as well and create this immense sense of clarity and understanding.

All these experiences are mystical or spiritual experiences.

You can experience them through meditation or other practices.

In that case, you use sexual union and awakening as the vehicle to manifest these blissful states.

So, you have two directions you can go:

· The first one is to approach sex the traditional way. You have sex. You orgasm or ejaculate. You enter into an after sex state. This means usually that the sexual tension and build up is released.

· The second one is to practice tantric sex and energy build up. You use sexual energy as an inner force which will create a series of mystical experiences in you.

How long does it take to reach a state of inner bliss and fulfillment with your partner?

I would say one to three months of very focused tantric sex practice.

If you are already familiar with these techniques and have been meditating a lot before, these experiences might appear much faster.

Does it mean that you need to have sex 10 hours a day for a month?

In a way, yes! But you don’t need to go that far of course.

The goal is to ingrate tantric sex practices in your daily life until it becomes totally natural for you and your partner.

The next step would be to be in an ideal protected setting.

It can be a holiday place, resort, nature location or spiritual retreat situation.

In these contexts, you can use all your resources and energy to focus on this inner transformation process.

What if you can’t step out of your routine and need to stay at home, work and focus on all your daily tasks?

You will of course still practice tantric sex in that context.

The benefits and experiences you will get are very intense no matter what.

It simply means that you might tend to get more distracted by other daily practicalities and will need to focus on lots of other things, not just your tantric practices.

The results are still there!

Practicing tantric sex from exactly where you are is definitely the best way to go.

In a way, there is no need to go anywhere. You can create your own tantric temple at home and design a very harmonious and healthy life style conductive for profound changes.

The tantric sex path can be practiced anywhere.

All you need is to start moving.

We decide to focus a lot on sex because this is where harmony needs to be built.

Other tantric practices like rituals or physical postures, mudras, mantras, don’t generate as much controversy as sex.

Why is that?

To tell you the truth, I don’t know.

Maybe because this is an area where the battle of ideas and beliefs is the strongest.

Maybe what we call sexual energy is such a pure nectar that everyone tries to have some form of control over it and decide for others what they must do with it.

It is funny to realize that maybe, sexual ecstasy is so much more precious than money for instance.

The naturally competing human spirit creates some deep conflict around this topic.

Maybe your next door neighbor does not actually want you to find this secret.

Why? Again, because of the competing spirit.

This competition is accepted in the business world.

People compete to get more and more money. The richest is often at the highest power position.

It is a social status thing.

This means that you won’t always help someone earn more because a part of you simply competes with them.

You think: “I want to earn more!”

With sexual energy, the same can happen.

Pleasure generates happiness, love or beauty.

These qualities have nothing to do with money but they are still energies.

People can compete for these energies. They do that all the time.

When you say how happy you are, some people will be glad for you but some others will actually feel left out.

They will think: “How come I don’t have all this happiness in my life and they do?”

You see the dynamics.

This is why the tantric field might generate this type of conflicting emotional reaction: maybe because everyone feels there is some form of very profound secret hidden there.

Many things used to be taboo and we did grow beyond that.

Sex is still somehow slightly on the taboo side.

In the coming centuries, we might grow to a place where all negative or uneasy emotions surrounding this topic will be cleared.

In the mean time, let’s explore this area a bit more.

It is everything it has always been.

Sex without tantra is bliss and excitement.

Many people will have tantric like experiences and never call it tantra.

Millions of people on this planet practice sex and find it very fulfilling in itself.

They can gain great satisfaction and have children as well.

The way your instinctual sexual nature was created is perfect in itself.

Now, when you practice sex within a tantric context, you might touch on levels of awareness and pleasure you did not discover before.

The reason this happens is because you are surrounded by a sponsoring force or energy which encourages a very specific set of emotions, feelings, impressions and energy flow.

Sex without tantra might simply miss this mystical or absolute dimension.

You might as well miss the full pleasure experience of sex.

However, these experiences do not belong to tantra only. They are simply enhanced and facilitated within the tantric mind set.

When you reach sexual bliss the idea of orgasm is totally gone.

This “explosive” orgasmic experience is transmuted into a continuous state of bliss which can last for hours, days or even longer.

If you are very experienced with tantric sex, you might even enter into a permanent state of bliss.

At that stage, even the need for sex can disappear.

This is the moment when your sexual desire and energy fully bursts into the other chakras and creates a whole new state of consciousness and awareness.

It can take long to fully master these states of bliss.

Mastering them means being able to create them and intensify them at will.

Again, the most important element is that sex is no longer used as a mean for procreation or short term orgasmic gratification.

It is consciously used as a source of infinite energy.

The inner transformations associated with tantric sex take some harmonizing time to integrate.

The ideal is to practice yoga, exercise and eat healthy at the same time.

These side practices allow you to integrate these new energies much faster and harmonize them within your being.

This is an essential part of your tantric experience.

The build up of sexual energy will often be associated with a fertile sexual imagination.

Your sexual energy simply feeds your mind and activates your fantasy world.

It is normal.

You might see yourself having sex with other women or men.

You might have visions or desires you did not have before.

All this is healthy and normal.

Most of these fantasies are not meant to be manifested.

They are simply the mind reflection of your sexual awakening.

In the beginning, some of these images can almost be shocking because you envision scenes you can feel ashamed of.

No worries again.

All this is normal and is a simple “clarification” of your mind.

Enjoy these visions and fantasies.

Don’t focus too much on them as if it was something meant to happen.

Simply observe them as if you were watching a movie on a screen.

Every now and then, see if you can influence these fantasies.

Remove those you don’t like and stimulate those which do thrill and excite you.

When you think of tantric sex, you might get the feeling that it’s all about complicated positions.

This is very far away from the truth.

The first posture is not a physical one; it is a mental or emotional one.

The physical aspects of tantra are quite simple. In fact you don’t need complicated sexual positions.

All you need is the understanding and vision of how your sexual energy will be transmuted.

Of course, it can be fun to try some complex positions.

Yes! They might ad a new dimension to your tantric sex experience.

However, you can achieve all this inner growth even if you keep your tantric sex approaches very simple.

The key idea is open communication.

You need to share not only on the sexual level but on the verbal level as well.

The goal is to create synergy and complicity.

You need to understand and respect the limits of your partner.

You need to listen and share.

The best way to do this is to set time aside to talk about what you experience.

Be open minded.

The next step is to protect your tantric sex space.

Not all times are suitable for practicing.

Sometimes, your partner won’t be in the mood or simply too tired.

Respect is truly the key word for your couple.

Don’t ever push or force. You will generate the exact opposite result to what you expected if you do.

One of the key challenges for modern couples is to find space and time for intimacy.

When you are rushing the whole week with practicalities it can be very challenging to find a romantic moment for you and your partner.

Focus on it and start creating time.

Find out if tantric sex is an exploration you both want to invest into.

Again, dialogue, respect and love are the key values you must remember at all times

Being faithful or sexually exclusive with one partner is a decision.

The best way to stay faithful when your tantric sex desire wakes up is to have the best and most fulfilling sex with your partner.

Dialogue is again a key ingredient to understand the dynamics you face.

You might have fantasies involving other persons that your partner.

These fantasies are okay.

You don’t have to act on them.

This is the key issue.

If you feel a desire waking up, see what happens when you express it directly with your partner.

Now, if you want your partner to stay faithful, you need as well to offer him or her an avenue of expression for their desires.

If you tend to block, suppress or judge what comes up, you might stimulate him or her to go and look somewhere else.

Of course, never engage into something you really don’t like.

Talk about differences or tensions if they arise.

You will discover that having a protected space to share all this is often all you need to understand your next step.

Big taboo!

The path of self pleasure means that you discover tantric sex without a physical partner being present.

This offers you a space to train your tantric skills, experience your limits and understand how pleasure manifests in your body.

Because you are by yourself, it offers you the perfect setting to explore an aspect of your sexuality in depth.

We talked earlier about mystical experiences arising as a result of tantric sex activity, right?

In a way, you can achieve the same type of results through solo tantric sex.

You can wake up your sexual energy to the point of feeling it opening your heart area and the other upper chakras.

Even with solo tantric sex, you are never alone.

The tantric energy which sponsors your experiences is still there of course.

See it an intelligent angelic or spiritual force activating these energies in you.

The world of your fantasies is there as well of course.

In esoteric terms, this world of fantasies is the astral reality. It is the world of emotions, dreams and desires.

You can meet people on the astral. You can actually have sex on the astral.

You can feel a person’s presence without this person ever being there physically.

In a way, this solo tantric sex exploration gives you lots of space and freedom.

You notice that when you have tantric sex with a partner, you need to sometimes process emotions, digest, be careful with what you say or do.

This can be quite demanding in some cases.

Solo tantric sex has the advantage of giving you space and freedom; which are very essential qualities to explore the tantric sex path.

Another way of using solo tantric sex is simply as a form of training.

Suppose that you are a man and you want to train your lingam in order to preserve your energy.

When you are with a girl, you might get too excited to actually dive into training that skill.

Solo tantric sex will give you the ideal setting to explore this avenue without risk.

For men, energy orgasms or full body orgasms are powerful explosions of energy without the loss of semen.

For women, they are deeper orgasmic experiences which touch deeper layers of the body.

Because of their depth, energy orgasms can be much more fulfilling than traditional orgasms.

They are especially important for men because they allow them to have an orgasmic experience without the loss semen and therefore without much loss of energy either.

There will still be an energy dip after the orgasm but this dip will be much smaller than if the man had ejaculated.

When you practice tantric sex, energy orgasms are a good first stage to head for.

They allow you to train your tantric skills and build up your sexual energy without fully containing it.

It is essential to realize though that it’s only an intermediary stage.

After a while, you will notice that even energy orgasms are no longer needed.

You can reach much higher states of maintained pleasure by fully and totally holding your energy.

In the Tao of love, you find very similar ideas to those you find in tantric sex.

These two streams are definitely connected and when we track them back, I am sure that we could find a common source.

Tao of Love and Tantric sex are like parallel lines of evolution which aim at the same goal.

I am convinced that some ancient medieval rituals were very similar in concept as what you have in tantric sex.

If we dive into native traditions, I am sure we would as well unveil similar ideas.

One idea, many streams leading to the same place.

Eroticism can intimately be associated with tantric sex.

When you observe the sculptures of Khajuraho, you see a powerful erotic expression.

This is an artistic expression.

It is the manifestation of sexual beauty and can be immensely stimulating for tantric sex.

Suppose for instance that you are a women and you wear refined tantric jewelry or refined silk scarves or a turban while perfuming yourself with mysterious oils, you will of course enhance the sensual pleasure you and your partner get from tantric sex.

You can touch all of his sense and be a master in waking them up.

Natural fire light and incenses, a touch mystery, expression of beauty and exotic tastes are all elements which wake up the tantric sensual experience.

Delight!

Imagine that you are creating a living piece of art.

Imagine that your tantric sexual union is a mystical dance in which you can express all dimension of your beauty.

Pleasure for all the senses!

For most people sexual freedom means sleeping with whoever you want whenever you want.

Within the tantric experience, sexual freedom can take a much deeper meaning: freeing the sexual energy in your being.

Sex is simply a source of energy and vitality in your being.

It is a form of life force.

When you free it, you naturally expand its reach and impact.

By doing so, you clarify your mind and reach all the benefits I mentioned earlier.

I really like thinking of sexual freedom as the expansion and free flow of sexual energy in your body and mind.

Rather than constricting it within a limited mind frame, you give it more space and allow it to flow.

There is a dimension of mastery in this as well.

If you feel like a slave of your sexual desire, it obviously limits you in live.

The ultimate goal is to play with the sexual energy at will: wake it up if you want to; tame it if you need to.

If you feel that sex is an unsolved issue, sexual freedom is really the ultimate goal on that level.

Sexual freedom means precisely that sex is no longer an issue.

You own your sexual energy and are able to play with that force at will.

This is the way to go.

No need for profound revolutions.

Start by applying the simple techniques described in this e-book and MP3 audios.

The goal is simple: reconquer your sexual territory.

If you want to put romance, love and passion back in the center of your life, you need a sponsoring force to help you do so.

This is what tantric sex does.

It is a fire which supports these sacred qualities in your being.

As soon as you start expressing this stream in your life and connect with simple tantric sex techniques, you wake up the qualities of love and passion.

Focus on manifesting and mastering this stream fully within a period of 3 months.

It does not happen overnight.

You simply reconquer your sexual and romantic territory by clearing the relationship space with this tantric fire.

The results are amazing.

It takes a very short period of time to renew your sexual space and bring a total sense of freshness between you and your partner.

This is probably one of the greatest benefits of tantric sex: the potential to strengthen your couple and reunite it when you feel passion and excitement are gone.

Tantric sex is a binding force.

It is a unifying fire which brings a new quality of love and refinement into your couple’s life.

It can take 1 to 3 months to shift around a situation which looks sexually desperate for two partners.

We are not talking about therapy here.

This is simply the awakening of a source of fire which is infinite and acts like a binding force in a relationship.

This is one of the key tantric sex gold mines.

This is a new sexual expression which fits a modern need.

If you are a couple, you tend to focus a lot on life’s practicalities.

It is not always easy to reconnect with your sexual drive, desire or passion.

This is where the tantric sexual energy comes in.

Imagine connecting with a force which reawakens these qualities in you and your partner.

Imagine that your relationship and sex life suddenly wakes up from its sleep.

Imagine this romantic dimension suddenly appearing again in the core of your being.

This is exactly what tantric sex can do for you.

It goes far beyond sex of course.

This tantric energy is a fire which stimulates and energizes every aspect of your relationship.

It wakes up delightful feelings and bliss naturally because these qualities are the essence of tantra.

Imagine having an infinite source of fire and power in you.

This is your sexual energy.

Now, when you give it an avenue and empowered channel of expression, it simply flows naturally and opens new doors in your being.

Your sexual energy is a catalyzing force which brings you to a new energy base.

As you can imagine, tantric sex is about love.

What you establish with your partner goes far beyond sex.

It touches all aspects of your connection with your lover and partner.

You feel a sense of profound union any time, not just when you are actively engaged in tantric sex.

This means as well that what you do beyond your tantric sex activities matters immensely.

Tantric sex does not start the moment you sleep together or ends up when you let go of your sexual embrace.

Imagine seeing someone as your own essence.

Imagine that everything you do to your partner is what you would love having it done to you.

It’s that simple.

When you engage into sharing tantric sex with your partner, you start functioning much more as a unit.

This is never a limitation.

The idea of control of your lover’s actions, behaviors or thoughts must be totally gone and replaced by a sense of total freedom.

This freedom you want to establish in the core of your couple is the key to the expansion of your tantric essence.

This is what multiplies the effect of tantric sex.

It happens of course.

You feel like you don’t have time to focus on it right now and your partner is full of burning desire for instance.

What do you do?

How do you solve differences?

It is very simple: dialogue, respect and freedom.

Tantra is a passionate fire.

It is a fire you must learn to tame.

The fact that you feel very inspired to share sex at a given moment does not mean that it must happen.

You can dialogue with the tantric spirit.

You can play with the tantric forces and tame them as well.

You can stimulate them or excite them when you want to and give them some rest if you feel the timing is not right.

What matters is that you are the designer of your tantric sex experience.

Tantric sex is not a set of forms which are imposed on you by force.

It’s actually the total opposite.

You have total freedom to design your tantric experience is whatever way you want.

And so does your tantric sex partner.

As soon as this ecstatic joy is unleashed in you, you want to understand how you got there in the first place.

Bliss can be a sudden gift coming out of nowhere.

Now, sometimes, bliss and joy are consciously generated in you.

They wake up in a very clear way and gain space in your whole being.

Tantric sex is the art of manifesting this inner state at will.

When you break through and find yourself in this blissful fiery space, you want to do a few things.

First, you want to protect this experience.

Let’s say that you have a fire burning. If you throw water on it, you will extinguish it of course.

With tantric fire, the same can happen: you can engage into activities which will kill that fire.

You can end up in certain situations which will suppress your joy.

You can take inappropriate action and betray the spirit of joy you did build up.

Imagine tantric bliss as an infinite resource of energy.

It is a form of power.

You can for instance use that power in a negative way.

You can engage into self destructive activities.

You can forget to feed that fire.

There are many ways you can loose what you just gained.

Therefore you need to know the dynamics to keep that fire alive and be able to stimulate it whenever you want.

The first awakening often seems like a coincidence.

You might still not fully know how to give space to that experience and enhance the state of bliss you just found.

The next stage is really to master that energy and use it to create something even bigger or better.

It is a path.

The resources of bliss and joy you just found are a source of energy you can invest in all sorts of activities.

You can multiply their power and impact by aligning your actions with something vaster than yourself.

This stream of fire that just opened in you is part of a larger stream of fire.

You are one line of energy amongst a much vaster field of life force.

This fire is a flame belonging to a much vaster stream of fire.

Altogether, all these individual flames represent the global stream of bliss and joy on this planet.

If you don’t want to call it tantra, you can call it something else.

You can call it joy, bliss or whatever suits you.

Now, when you are part of this stream, you access as well a subtle energy connection with these other flames and the overall stream.

To a certain extent, you learn to manipulate the fire to create what needs to be created.

This is why qualities like love, respect or synergy are essential when you reach that level.

Your actions need to be aligned with what is best for the planet’s and humankind’s long term evolution.

This attunement with a vast plan of evolution represents the magical synchronization which allows you to maintain and use this blissful fire on the long term.

This fire is a substance. It is an energy form.

It is a spirit which connects you with the world around you.

The first step was to find this energy and maintain it in your being.

The second step is to master that fire and perceive its natural shape, direction and focus.

There is a moment when you realize that what you reach via tantric sex is a state of mind, energy and flow of fire that can be maintained and expressed in any life context.

Once this energy is established in your being, it flows in you all the time and gives you this emotional base of joy, bliss, delight and pleasure.

On that level, these emotions have not much to do with the original idea of sex.

You still perceive energy flow and exchange but it happens on a different octave.

When you experience this, you realize that the whole idea of sex has been transposed or transcended.

Desire is fulfilled and you reach this place where there is only joy and excitement in your being.

It is a well established fire which flows in you and energizes every aspect of your life.

It vitalizes you and connects you as well more excitingly to others.

When you reach that point, the traditional sexual needs might still be there but you feel this new energy fully grounded in your system.

Joy is now part of your life’s substance.

It stays there streaming.

This is the kind of emotion you might feel when you are in love and have a great sexual experience with someone.

Remember this feeling staying with you all day as if a new stream of energy had been liberated in you.

This sense of inner freedom is the special bliss accompanying the tantric opening in you.

This is the next step.

Imagine that this tantric fire is not just an inert substance.

Imagine for a second that this fire is actually an intelligent force which has a plan and a natural purpose.

This means that you can intelligently communicate with this fire and merge with it in a synergic way.

You are not alone in that.

This fire is here to sponsor your actions and life.

It is here to offer you support and empower your actions.

It exists to nurture your being and manifest joy in all levels of your life.

When this fire wakes up with you, your potential is multiplied.

The next stage in your evolution is to fully attune and synchronize yourself with that energy.

If you resist this force or go against it via incoherent actions, of course, you will tend to dissipate the fire and will need to build it up again.

Now, if you encourage its flow through synchronized action, attitudes and mind sets, you give that fire an extra boost and it keeps on growing exponentially.

This is the true magic of tantra.

Sex is just one of the vehicles you can use to access and multiply that fire in you.

Imagine that sex is a seed of fire.

You can feed it until it grows and fills your whole being.

Once this happens, you are ready for your next octave which is the mastery of this fire in your being.

This mastery is an alignment of your being into that fire.

It is a synergic merge between you and this fiery intelligence.

There are many forms of intelligences on this planet.

The human type of intelligence with thought forms, ideas, emotion and actions is only a small fraction of what actually exists.

In the realm of spirits or angels, we enter into a vast new reality that humans still can’t fully comprehend.

Imagine an angel which is not in a human like form.

Imagine this being or spiritual being as a vast network of energies, connecting millions of human beings on this planet.

This “entity” is naturally and instinctively connected with the vaster flow of evolution on this planet.

It is naturally synchronized with other forces of creation and responds in an organic like way to impulsions and cosmic directions.

We are part of it and it is part of us.

You can actually see anything happening on this planet as the expression of a vast spiritual intelligence.

You can have for instance the spirit of a country or a city. The spirit of a family.

You can have the spirit of love or the spirit of competition.

All these “spirits” can be seen as angelic forces which “supervise” and support any form of activity on this planet.

You can see that when we describe existence in that way, we truly enter into a sphere which goes far beyond tantra.

If you can’t relate to this model or concept, no problem.

Simply find another model or ways of describing this which suits you.

Maybe the idea of an invisible intelligence disturbs you.

It’s no problem, discard the concept and find another concept which fits better what you feel.

On the other hand, if you feel that you just touched on something essential, dive into it and imagine that the spirit of tantra is actually alive, intelligent and connecting in us all the time.

This means that we are part of a sea of fire and that we are all linked through this universal intelligent fire.

The goal of the tantric fire is to bring a refreshing stream of energy in your life.

Imagine your mind as a vast network of connections, thoughts, memories and emotions.

This network expands in time and space. It expands in the past present and future.

It connects you with other persons, lines of actions and places.

Once this tantric fire takes root in your being and starts expanding it will meet old energy patterns like undigested emotions, old mind sets or old attitudes you no longer need.

This fire is a clearing fire and will simply destroy and clear what you no longer need.

You need to realize again that this is an intelligent life force which is in tune with a long term evolution plan for yourself, humankind and the planet.

This intelligent fire has the power to recognize old patterns which will never be needed again.

This clearing process activates what you can call your renewal power.

This power is your ability to change and evolve.

It allows you to let go of what you no longer need and create space for your future.

When your mind space is saturated, you stop moving and evolving.

To create freshly in the here and now, you need a certain amount of mind space or mind freedom.

If all space and energy you have is already used to sustain what already exists, you have no energy or space left to create something new.

This is why the role of this type of clarifying fire is so essential.

All this happens by itself of course.

It is not like you need to consciously do it yourself.

Most of these evolutionary processes simply happen by themselves without anyone ever noticing them.

Take a moment to think about what a human mind was like 100 years ago.

Now, imagine what it has become in terms of potential, content and activity.

This type of fire is what allows this transition and evolution to happen.

Without this renewal power, you would be simply stacked within a crystallized set of inner patterns which would stop you from evolving further.

Sometimes, when this fire wakes up and brings change in your life, you might resist it or try to keep it away from you. This happens especially if you don’t understand the role of this fire.

This means that because of fear or doubts, you will simply resist evolution from taking place and by doing so, create tension and inner conflict.

Have you ever seen yourself resisting change at a given moment in your life to realize a few months later that this change was the best thing that could happen to you?

This change can touch any aspect of your life, like profession, relationship or the place where you live.

It can be more specifically directed to your mind and inspire you to shift key thoughts, emotions or attitudes.

When this transformation process is happening, you might not know where these steps are taking you and still, you feel you need to trust that something knows what comes next.

When you gain awareness, you quickly recognize these transformation forces and partner with them.

Instead of resisting them, you make space for transformation to happen.

You go with the flow and truly master this transformation process through clear awareness and conscious action.

This is where you can have an essential impact.

When you understand and clearly see how transformation happens, you are always one step ahead, recognizing this renewal fire waking up. You have a wise perception of the new future potentials and set up structures to welcome these new steps.

All this is a very magical transformation process and as I said earlier, it happens in your life all the time.

This transformation is instinctual in nature.

Now, back to the tantric fire.

This fire calls for renewal.

This means that it will sometimes stop in some area of your mind or attitudes and dissolve some old patterns simply to create new space.

You will see yourself thinking about some past event or going through a specific emotion.

You might think: “Why am I feeling that right now?”

It is simple: it happens because when this fire targets these old mind sets, it wakes them up before dissolving them.

It is a bit like digging in the ground of your memories and unveiling old structures.

After that, the tantric fire goes through and dissolves or burns these outdated mind frames.

The process is immensely thrilling and does feel like a clearing bone fire, especially when you are aware of it.

The result is increased emotional freedom, feeling of space and a feeling of clarification overall.

The goal is to be able to manifest the full tantric experience any time.

It is to master this energy and know how to express it, activate it, share it and use it.

These are skills which belong to individuals first, not couples.

Of course couples can master these arts if they both master them individually.

However, we are looking at individuals connecting first with themselves.

This is the context in which you can approach tantra.

You want to own all the tools you need to express tantra fully.

Now, we talked about sex.

We talked about energy exchange.

We talked about cosmic evolution.

You can access many avenues of tantric expression.

Sex might be just one of them.

Sex is part of a much vaster energy stream which contains all forms of energy exchange.

If you isolate the tantric sex experience and focus on that one only, you might miss the full spectrum of your mystical dimension.

Tantra does not depend on someone else.

Tantra is a stream you own yourself no matter what happens around you.

The goal is to master that stream and fully own it.

Once you take that step, you are then free to share it with whoever or whatever you want.

The ultimate goal is tantric autonomy.

This means that you own all the tantric tools and don’t depend on external factors to manifest that stream.