Here are a few ideas to introduce you to tantric sex.

This is by far not all there is but it will give you a starting point.

In the tantric world, a penis becomes a lingam. A vagina is a yoni.

Both lingam and yoni are divine attributes and gateways for profound pleasure and realizations.

Orgasm is never the goal.

The real tantric goal is transmutation of energies into higher forms.

By transmutation we mean no suppression, it is rather the gentle flow of energy from the lower chakras into the higher ones.

Stimulate your sexual energy through tantric sex and rather than reaching climax keep on building sexual tension in your body.

After a while (like a couple of weeks), you start experimenting opening in all chakras. It is like the creation of an inner space and clarity.

This happens on an energy level.

It is a blissful experience because it clears the mind.

This is the true meaning of sexual freedom.

For most people, sexual freedom means having sex with whoever you want.

Within tantric sex, sexual freedom would rather be the true freeing of sexual energy in your body.

Most of the times, sexual energy is simply constricted or limited within the lower chakras.

When you feel excited and engage into sex, your sexual energy tends to still be polarized in the usual energy channel.

The natural purpose of this energy channel is simply to concentrate the sexual energy to release semen and eventually give birth to a child.

Now, with tantric sex, you dissolve this channel and create a whole new use of your sexual energy in your body.

You give it a new expression.

To do so, as a man you “retrain” your instincts so that ejaculation and traditional orgasm does not happen.

This makes a total difference because for a man all the seeds of energy contained in the semen are concentrated and used in a different way.

A spermatozoid is filled with a life potential. It is a seed of energy and if you keep this seed inside, it will simply expand in very different ways.

Nature did not create this tantric pathway as its main expression.

Nature needed to be focused on procreation first; otherwise, the human race would not have survived.

The tantric sex way is a new development in human sexual behaviour which opens new doors in our consciousness.

The best way to go is to experience how it works in your body.

This retraining of the body is really why it can be challenging at first to engage into tantric sex.

Many people simply don’t have time and energy to retrain their instinctual sexual response.

Most men with who I talk, always loose semen in the sexual act.

This means that a sexually active male will easily loose semen a few times in a week.

Now, this usually creates an energy gap in the body and a significant loss of stamina.

Imagine what would happen if this stamina was kept inside rather than lost through ejaculation.

What about women?

We talk about loss of semen but what happens to women when they orgasm?

Do they loose stamina and tantric potential as well?

I am still actively investigating that question.

My preliminary conclusions show that women do as well loose a significant amount of stamina when they orgasm.

They might not loose semen (even though we talk about female ejaculation in some cases), but they do release sexual energy when they orgasm.

For a woman, sexual energy builds up in the body.

You engage into sex.

Eventually, you have and orgasm.

Now, what happens after orgasm or multiple orgasm?

In most cases, you loose this sexual tension feeling.

The energy that was built to create this inner tension is released and you fall asleep or engage into other activities.

You can as well simply lay there enjoying the after effects of the orgasm.

The release of energy is obvious.

Even though this release might not be as significant as for a man it is still there.

Now, imagine what happens when both partners keep on building sexual energy endlessly without having an orgasm.

This sexual energy eventually expands and breaks through to find new channels through the body.

Now, when this happens, you break through into a totally new life dimension.

Your mind feels brighter.

You feel happier.

Love and harmony keep expanding.

Your level of desire stays very high.

You connect with your lover in new very subtle ways.

You feel bright and extremely awake.

There is only way to go: experience it.

After a few weeks of active tantric sex practice (without orgasm or loss of semen), you enter literally in a new state of consciousness.

You might go through a whole series of mystical experiences where for instance your heart chakra starts boosting rhythmically in local and blissful energy explosions.

You feel intense brightness in your third eye.

Your solar plexus feels empowered and cleared from negative emotions.

This is not the end of course. It is only a sample of what you can experience.

So much more can happen and these are only the original stages of tantric experiences.

These experiences can easily start appearing in the first 3 months of your practices.

Of course, you need to combine tantric sex with active energizing of the body.

The best is to do some yoga or exercise in nature and eat very light and super healthy. This will speed up these tantric opening and harmonize your body.

Sexual tantric energy is like raw fire. You need to train that fire and help it find its purpose in your being.

posted by vitalcoach  # 7:31 AM 0 Comments

Amongst the most useless emotions you can develop in your mind, you find guilt.

The root of guilt is a conflict between what you experience in life and what you believe to be right or wrong.

One of the key guilt areas is sex.

When you have sex, there is a potential for a totally fulfilling experience.

It is a fire which wakes up in your body with a powerful stream of love.

This stream can take you to ecstasy.

If you stimulate this force even more, you reach a point of stillness and total bliss.

If you did experience this before, you probably wonder how such a magnificent experience can turn into a negative emotion like guilt, right?

This has of course to do with western and eastern mentalities, education, old beliefs and so much more.

A lot of this guilt is initiated in various religious fields.

Where does it come from?

Well, when you want to dedicate your life to the highest, the worldly pleasures can be a side track.

Many monastic traditions put renunciation in the core of their beliefs.

This means that they renounce many worldly quests like money, sex or other “superficial” and “non fulfilling” pathways.

Now, these beliefs have been so embedded for thousands of years that you might have forgotten why they even existed in the first place.

The emotion of guilt is simply a left over mind set which reminds you to walk in a certain direction.

It says that if you step aside and invite deep sensual ecstasy into your life, you will doomed and end up in the darkest areas of the human mind.

This is not true of course.

The path of spiritual evolution through sexual union does exist. It has been practiced by millions of people around the world for centuries.

It did lead many to very profound realizations about human life.

It created joy, intense love, a sense of unification in millions of lives.

Any pathway you take is a choice.

You are free to decide for yourself what suits you best.

What matters is that you feel fulfilled as a human being.

If you are thirsty, you can try to suppress this thirst or simply drink some water and enjoy the freshness of this simple experience.

A naked body is very pure.

Sexual union is a divine act if this is where you want to see it.

Like with any natural forces the goal is of course to master these energies, not to be a slave of them.

This is the context in which you can explore the quest for pleasure and ecstasy.

Sure, you can get side tracked.

Sure, you can wake up sources of fire in you which might be challenging to tame.

But guess what?

That’s the kind of learning process you go through in life when you engage yourself in any human activity.

Any exploration requires skills and sex tantra is an exploration.

You can use some guidance and existing ideas. No need to reinvent the wheel.

At the same time, with every step you take, you penetrate deeper and deeper into a virgin territory.

The laws directing the balance in these spheres might be slightly different than other life fields.

However, engaging into this quest can be intensely rewarding. A world of wonders is ready to be discovered.

posted by vitalcoach  # 7:30 AM 0 Comments

Tantra goes far beyond the limits of India.

The principles or ideas behind tantra are universal.

This means that they don’t even belong to a certain system or religion.

You can readapt these principles freely to your own life and rename them in whatever way you want.

The keyword here is “freedom”.

You are free to redesign any of these ideas according to your own needs.

You are free, yes!

The goal of this e-book and ideas is not limit you within a rigid set of rules and ideas.

The goal is to free your mind and offer you a protected space where you can expand your own beliefs, feelings and desires.

I trust you!

I trust that there is a guiding instinct in you which knows the answer to any question.

This is why everything you read here is totally open for being rewritten, changed or modified according to what you feel.

If you don’t like something which is said in these pages, erase it, change it or rewrite it according to what you feel.

It is your right to do it.

There is no such thing as absolute truth in this e-book.

These are only some ideas, concepts or guidelines which might help you take the next step.

If any of these next steps do not suit you, create another step which will fit better your unique needs.

posted by vitalcoach  # 7:30 AM 0 Comments

Sex is an infinite source of energy in you.

If the way you use your sexual energy is unfulfilling for you or those around you, it is essential to do something about it.

This is a path of life mastery.

The goal is to master the tools that were given to you.

If your sexual energy feels like a snake you can’t tame or partner with, then obviously something is missing.

If you let it go and simply forget about it, I am sure you might still lead a very happy life.

Now, somewhere down the line, your mind might be triggered by the desire to know more about your sexual life force.

This is the moment it might be helpful you to have some basic system to support you in take some steps.

I am convinced that if you take the time, you might rediscover such a system.

It will simply take you longer.

This e-book is a shortcut.

It offers you some ideas that you might recognize as already awaken in you.

It might simply be a confirmation of what you already know and help you take your next step along your sexual development line.

Gaining some form of understanding of your sexual energy is very rewarding.

Being able to use this sexual energy to multiply the awareness, inner power and satisfaction you get from being alive is even more thrilling.

Imagine having this river flowing through your property and realizing that you can turn this streaming water into a source of infinite and empowering energy.

This is exactly what sex tantra is about.

Your sexual energy is this river you can learn to tame and use.

Once you do, your whole perspective on life might be immensely expanded.

posted by vitalcoach  # 7:29 AM 0 Comments

Imagine an inner reality which contains all the tantric sex teachings and practices.

The goal is very simple:

When you start developing this tantric line in your life, no need to retreat to some tropical getaway to experience tantra.

You want to manifest the tantric temple in your own house, wherever you live.

The tantric essence is not some distant reality you can exceptionally connect with.

It is part of your daily essence.

It is part of your daily thoughts, feelings, impressions or desires.

It is with you all the time.

This means that you are the tantric temple.

Your being and your life are divine essences and all you have to do to manifest this reality is give it more space in your life.

You do that through your actions, choices and thoughts.

You do that in the way you design your personal space, through the connections you have with people or the way you interact with them.

Tantric sex is only a small fraction of the energy exchanges you can have in your life.

Sex is the perfect area to experiment with this but you quickly realize that what you discover through tantric sex is something you apply all day long.

You feel more sensually awake, enjoying natural daily pleasures.

You feel more deeply connected with those around you.

You discover a new dimension of joy no matter what you engage into.

Your level of awareness increases naturally.

You are clearer about what you want from your life.

And so much more of course.

You discover a new inner sense of freedom and space.

Your life is more blissful.

You feel wonderful when you spend time in nature.

Your senses are awake.

Do you want me to go on?

Tantra is a very vast field and the tantric sex doorway gives you access to an energy connection which expands to all aspects of your life.

posted by vitalcoach  # 7:29 AM 0 Comments

If you came across the idea of tantric sex before, you might have read that sex and desire are just tests.

You might have heard that in fact, the goal is to transcend desire and be able to move beyond it.

In that sense the sculptures of Khajuraho would be the external expression of your sex drive and once you enter the tantric temple, all desires become still and you enter into peace and total bliss.

Is this true?

In my experience, desire is not a force to be suppressed.

It is a force to be tamed and mastered.

Imagine again the waves of the sea.

You can fear them and stay away from them or you can surf them and master the immense energy they convey.

Desire, pleasure and sex are powerful energies which can take you to total bliss.

They are like an elevator force which offers you a shortcut to the most incredible mystical experiences.

These forces where given to you by nature.

They are divine in essence like any other aspect of your life.

Rather than taking the “suppression” path which is suggested by many spiritual traditions, you can embrace desire and all dimensions of your emotions and use this force as a catalyst for what you are looking for.

Tantra is a fire and like with any fire, you need to develop the skills to master it and tame it.

Yes! In a way, it is a test.

The test is not to suppress your desires, rather use them.

Once you dive into these various dimensions of pleasure and delight, you gently dive into this inner core of stillness where even desire disappears.

It is like being in the eye of the hurricane in which absolute bliss is manifested.

Tantric sex is much more than a test: it is a vehicle.

It has the power to add a new dimension to your existence which radically shifts the way you stand in life.

posted by vitalcoach  # 7:28 AM 0 Comments