break up for men articles

First girl you date after your break up

True! Going to a first date when you didn't do that for a long time can be quite disabling! Especially if your feel deeply triggered and impressed by her bea...

Talking to my ex feels shallow

Yes, it's normal. Don't be afraid to be shallow. That's the way to go You don't have to reinvent your life with her or develop an intimate friendship right ...

I TOTALLY LOST TRUST IN MARRIAGE

Marriage is beautiful! It does work for many! Simply think twice before you commit. People often marry too early because they are afraid of what will happen ...

How could she change so fast?

Feelings can change very quickly. It's just human nature. The fluidity of human feelings is beautiful but doesn't give you the security people often expect f...

SHE SAID SHE LOVED ME

Feelings can change very quickly. This is confusing. We think that feelings are permanent but they are not. Your girlfriend or wife might tell you that she ...

I feel guilty about seeing other women

ABOUT REFRAMING GUILT... In break up cases, it's not like you are doing something wrong. You are free! You are dating new women. In this case guilt is a use...

WHY ARE BREAKUPS SO HARD?

Both women and men get often hit really hard by a break up. Why is that? Because the vision they had for their lives suddenly collapses. Imagine that you bu...

Why does she harass you?

It’s stunning to see that your ex will harass you shamelessly. They will contact you when you are trying to move on and are just dating someone else! The...

What if she threatens you?

A threat is often aimed at just scaring you off! It’s aimed at creating drama. The way to respond to a threat? Sit back and wait! You will often see that N...

What's next? – ARTICLE

There is a way to multiply the power kick you got from this material! It is simple and direct! Within less than an hour, you could be talking live with me. A...

Shift your mind – ARTICLE

Okay, what I am going to say is radical. The truth is that half measures do not work with break up recovery. You have two options: · The first one is...

This is a battle for power – ARTICLE

This is a battle for power. It is a battle for energy. Your mind is your mind. So you need to gain back control. You need to be in charge. Does she want...

What if she calls you? – ARTICLE

There is always a “game” going on when two persons break up. It is a battle for attention and power. It is very rare for a person to just walk away and neve...

How often should you meet? – ARTICLE

Well, it is truly up to you. I would say that having a chat on the phone once a week is okay. More than that? She would take too much space in your mind an...

Is it wrong to meet? – ARTICLE

Not at all. You need to redesign your boundaries. There is nothing wrong with going for a drink and having a friendly chat with your ex. In fact it is ver...

No contact? – ARTICLE

It is an option of course. Your instinct guides you with that. Do whatever feels right for you. Observe the way it makes you feel. Suppose you don’t see...

What about guilt? – ARTICLE

After your ex bombarded you with reproaches, you might end up with this impression that you did something wrong. I’ll be honest: maybe you did. Maybe you did ...

Do you feel pain right now? – ARTICLE

Pain can take many shapes and many forms. Let’s look at “missing someone”. Missing someone? What is that? It is an emotional gap, right? When you miss s...

Letting go of the dream – ARTICLE

The dream is this projection you created when you got together in the first place. You know, all these projects, family, house, careers, travels, etc. That’...

She is dating someone else – ARTICLE

Another tough challenge: you see her with someone else, a new partner. Her life is hers. I’ll be direct: whatever power you had over her is now totally gone....