FEMININE SHADOWS DON’T NEED TO BE SUPPRESSED

When you are exposed to her shadows, the intention is often to try and suppres, educate, shift, limit these expressions.

A lot of what I discovered over the last few years is that I tend to do now the exact opposite when exposed to female shadows.

I open space, encourage, respect, honor all aspects of her being.

That doesn’t mean that I accept everything!

I sometimes remove myself from situations that might be toxic to me.

But the difference now is that I refrain from telling her what to do or how to behave.

I accept, stay present, disconnect or engage but almost never from a place of wanting to change her.

There is no force or control.

I rather focus on optimizing my emotional response to any shadow outbreak.

So, what’s the fundamental difference in my response?

I focus on my emotions and reactions way more!

I focus on myself and optimize my response rather than trying to control or educate her.

Basically I take responsibility for how I am receiving her shadows.

I step out of victimization and instead focus way more on my dignified, present and powerful responses.

If I experience discomfort I might stay or I might leave.

I still offer feedback or reflections in the form of:

“When you do this, here is what my system is enclined to do…”

This is a subtle game!

It is an art form!

It’s not jut one response or emotional posture that I practice all the time.

Sometimes, my reaction will be a shadow emotion that I own as much as possible!

I’m not always trying to be virtous or contain whatever emerges in me!

Sometimes I’m pissed and I might let her know by ignoring her or shouting back if she’s screaming!

I use my weapons and I let her use hers!

What does this bring to a relationship or lover’s connection?

Truth! Authenticity! Emotional range!

It unleashes energy!

It awakes emotional resources that would otherwise be suppressed!

Shadows are energy!

More on this coming soon!

Love you!

JAYAAAAHAAA