The key is to gain skills in these areas: first the field of dating: finding a man. Then the field of relationships: the art of being together.
You can start life in both areas actually without a clue of how to make it work. You spend 20 years of education gaining professional skills. Now, where do you learn about relationship and dating skills? Usually by trying and experimenting and following your instinct.
Is this enough? Very often yes! But sometimes, you can get stacked, blocked by invisible doubts and imperceptible resistances.
Your love life is both a game of passion and skills. Passion is your emotional fuel. It is the starting point. It is your instinct, your fire. Skills are something else: they can be learned, trained, developed.
How do you gain dating skills?
First step: Knowledge! Read, surf the net, talk about it with friends, discover the secrets of the opposite sex, etc. Today’s information technology is a gold mine of resources. You can reinvent the wheel yourself or simply benefit from other people’s experiences.
Second step: Experience! You have to get out there and try it out. Once you learn about the secrets of the dating world, you have to go out and do it. Experiment! Try! This means taking risks as well (nothing like putting your life, health or future in danger, no…). Go beyond your comfort zone and do things you did not do before! Try new things like giving a compliment to a guy you hardly know, or choosing for a sexier dress, etc.
Third step: Perfect your skills! Accept rejection as part of the learning curve. A negative experience becomes a mistake only if you repeat it over and over again without learning from it. This is the place where many women will fail. They think it has to work out the first time. Accept the fact that you are evolving and you are not yet perfect. Fine! Great! Life is an experiment, so go for it. Strengthen your inner freedom!
We all agree: Love is magic! and we don’t want to kill that magic by loading our mind with piles of useless information. On the other hand, when you feel challenged in your love life, discovering some new dating and relationship skills is the key to establishing long term success.