If you are dating a single father, this will happen and it is VERY natural!
His kids are his life.
They will always come first!
They need his protection and love.
So, simply prepared!
If you date a single father you will often come second after his kids.
Does this mean that such relationship can’t work?
Of course not?
You still have lots of potential space and possibilities to connect deeply in a VERY fulfilling relationship.
Let’s put it this way:
If you have your own business for instance and this venture needs your attention, you won’t simply drop everything because he wants you to, right?
This is your life!
His kids are his and they were there before you met him.
You don’t need to compete with them for attention.
I agree though… If all you get from him is a 2 hours date once a month, it might not be enough.
This is always a topic you can bring up carefully and let him know that if he had more time you would be happy to do more fun things together.
However, you must never pressure him!
If what you say sounds like demands, he will feel threatened and use his power to defend his family.
You can ask open ended questions like:
“How do you feel we could handle that?”
“How do you feel about this?”
“Spending more time together? Is this a wish you have or are you satisfied with what we share now?”
These open ended questions are a great way to open a conversation because they are not finger pointing.
There is no accusation. No one is being blamed.
We are simply exploring possibilities together.
Can you see how it works?
Take care and enjoy!