- SAFE SPACE
- BIG PICTURE
Focus on the big picture rather than your own personal agenda. Think about the steps that your man can take that would be massively empowering for him, for you and your couple.
- ASK FOR PERMISSION
- NO EMOTIONAL CHARGE
- SAY IT ONCE
Say it once and don’t bring it up again for a few days. Being in processing mode in permanence is no fun. Your couple can take 10% of challenging communication time and be super healthy. If you are in processing mode all the time, pressure is too high and your couple gets drained. If you plant seeds, they won’t grow if you keep moving the ground. Give him space to digest and integrate.
- USE “I” STATEMENTS
- GIVE HIM POSITIVES
- TIME IT!
- TWO WAYS
Couple fights can be fun and exciting too if that’s what you crave for.
It can take years of practice to get it right.
But with a set of targeted skills like coaching your partner, you can go way faster.
In my experience, within just 3 months of playing with these skills you can already be super good at it.
What’s even more exciting is that once you know how to coach your lover, you can apply the same tactics to coaching your kids, family or professional team.
Once you tap in these skills, they are yours for life!
Imagine the impact of being able to effectively communicate with your romantic partner!