KALINATA CODES – CORE TACTICS TO MASTER FEMALE SHADOWS

KALI is the fierce feminine, in her destructive, shadow or challenging powers and expression.

KALINATA is KALI CIRCLE.

The reason I bring this idea is because often, you are not just dealing with one woman but with a few of them,  might be a lover, sister, friend even a daughter.

You might be exposed to 10 different women all expressing their own shadow flavors.

If you want to thrive and stay actively connected with these women, you must identify the core attitudes and behaviors that work and those that don’t.

Once you tap into this mature masculine expression, you can practice and embody them throughout the natural challenges that these women might expose you to.

Here are some of the core attitudes that came up for me this morning.

DON’T

  • DON’T JUDGE HER
  • DON’T ATTACK HER
  • DON’T THREATEN HER
  • DON’T DISCONNECT FROM HER
  • DON’T FOLLOW HER INTO EMOTIONAL INTENSITY, STAY PRESENT INSTEAD
  • DON’T BE A PUPPY
  • AVOID CHILDISH OR IMMATURE RESPONSES
  • DON’T BE HER CHILD, BE HER LOVER
  • DON’T LECTURE HER
  • DON’T LOCK HER INTO YOUR FRAMES
  • DON’T JUDGE HER SEXUAL FANTASIES
  • DON’T FREAK OUT WHEN SHE CONNECTS WITH OTHER MEN
  • DON’T TRY TO FIX HER
  • DON’T JUMP IN WITH ADVICE, UNLESS SHE ASKS YOU TO
  • DON’T ISOLATE YOURSELF
  • DON’T STAY IN SELF ABSORBED MODE
  • DON’T STAY IN PROCESSING OR THERAPEUTIC MODE
  • DON’T BE NEEDY

DO THESE INSTEAD

  • VALIDATE HER
  • STAY PRESENT
  • BE RESPONSIVE
  • BE IN INTEGRITY
  • RESPECT
  • OFFER SPACE WHEN ASKED TO
  • HONOR
  • EMPOWER
  • ENERGIZE
  • PRACTICE VITAL TRUTH
  • BE EMOTIONALLY MATURE
  • SHOW VULNERABILITY NOW AND THEN
  • SHOW YOUR POWER
  • CLAIM WHEN APPROPRIATE
  • BE COMFORTABLE WITH HER DISCOMFORTS, PAINS, PROCESSES, EMOTIONS
  • BE OK WITH HER SHADOWS
  • GIVE HER CHALLENGING FEEDBACK ONLY WHEN SHE GIVES YOU PERMISSION TO
  • BE A SAFE MAN TO BE AROUND
  • SHOW CARE AND AFFECTION
  • MASTER YOUR SEXUAL ENERGY
  • BE A POWERFUL AND TALENTED LOVER
  • USE HUMOR SOMETIMES
  • TEASE HER
  • CARE FOR HER WORLD
  • BE SENSITIVE TO HER PAINS, FEARS, INSECURITIES
  • OPEN SPACE AROUND HER
  • FREE HER
  • EXPAND HER CONSCIOUSNESS
  • BE FUN TO BE AROUND
  • BE CREATIVE
  • BE REAL
  • BE MASTER OF YOUR OWN SHADOWS
  • GIVE HER SPACE TO BE HERSELF
  • GIVE HER BOUNDARIES WHEN SHE CROSSES THE LINE “PAUSE”
  • DIRECT HER WHEN IT IS APPROPRIATE
  • MAKE DECISIONS FOR THE TWO OF YOU – THAT’S SOMETIMES, NOT ALL THE TIME
  • BE OK WITH BEING GUIDED BY HER
  • LET HER SOMETIMES GUIDE YOU
  • LET HER SOMETIMES TAKE CONTROL
  • STAY FREE – DON’T LET HER MICROMANAGE YOU
  • GIVE HER SPACE TO RELAX IF SHE SAYS SHE’S TIRED OR NEEDS TO CHILL
  • RESPECT HER BOUNDARIES
  • STAY CONNECTED WITH YOURSELF, YOUR OWN DESTINY LINE
  • HAVE AMBITIONS! HAVE PLANS FIR YOUR FUTURE
  • HAVE YOUR SHIT TOGETHER
  • MASTER YOUR MONEY
  • ACKNOWLEDGE THE INVISIBLE
  • BE A LEADER WHEN YOU HAVE TO
  • HAVE A TRIBE
  • EXPRESS YOUR POWER

CHECK THESE CORE SPECIFIC CHALLENGES

  • DON’T ENTER IN REACTIVE MODE IF SHE TEASE-CRITICISES YOU
  • STAY PRESENT IF SHE REJECTS YOU