KALINATA CODES – HOW TO DEAL WITH FEMALE SHADOWS

DON’T JUDGE HER
DON’T ATTACK HER
DON’T THREATEN HER
DON’T DISCONNECT FROM HER
DON’T FOLLOW HER INTO EMOTIONAL INTENSITY, STAY PRESENT INSTEAD
DON’T BE A PUPPY
AVOID CHILDISH OR IMMATURE RESPONSES
DON’T BE HER CHILD, BE HER LOVER
DON’T LECTURE HER
DON’T LOCK HER INTO YOUR FRAMES
DON’T JUDGE HER SEXUAL FANTASIES
DON’T FREAK OUT WHEN SHE CONNECTS WITH OTHER MEN
DON’T TRY TO FIX HER
DON’T JUMP IN WITH ADVICE, UNLESS SHE ASKS YOU TO
DON’T ISOLATE YOURSELF
DON’T STAY IN SELF ABSORBED MODE
DON’T STAY IN PROCESSING OR THERAPEUTIC MODE
DON’T BE NEEDY
DON’T OVERREACT
DON’T BLAME HER
DON’T BE TOO NICE OR JUST NICE
DON’T BE BORING
DON’T BE TOO INTENSE
DON’T INVADE HER SPACE
DON’T ASPHIXIATE HER
DON’T MICROMANAGE HER
DON’T PROTECT YOUR AGENDA ON HER
DON’T FRAME HER
DON’T LABEL HER
DON’T DOMESTICATE HER
DON’T ARGUE
DON’T BE OVERSENSITIVE
STOP TALKING ABOUT YOURSELF
DON’T STOP EVOLVING
DON’T RESIST CHANGE

VALIDATE HER
STAY PRESENT
BE RESPONSIVE
BE IN INTEGRITY
RESPECT
OFFER SPACE WHEN ASKED TO
HONOR
EMPOWER
ENERGIZE
PRACTICE VITAL TRUTH
BE EMOTIONALLY MATURE
SHOW VULNERABILITY NOW AND THEN
SHOW YOUR POWER
CLAIM WHEN APPROPRIATE
BE COMFORTABLE WITH HER DISCOMFORTS, PAINS, PROCESSES, EMOTIONS
BE OK WITH HER SHADOWS
GIVE HER CHALLENGING FEEDBACK ONLY WHEN SHE GIVES YOU PERMISSION TO
BE A SAFE MAN TO BE AROUND
SHOW CARE AND AFFECTION
MASTER YOUR SEXUAL ENERGY
BE A POWERFUL AND TALENTED LOVER
USE HUMOR SOMETIMES
TEASE HER
CARE FOR HER WORLD
BE SENSITIVE TO HER PAINS, FEARS, INSECURITIES
OPEN SPACE AROUND HER
FREE HER
EXPAND HER CONSCIOUSNESS
BE FUN TO BE AROUND
BE CREATIVE
BE REAL
BE MASTER OF YOUR OWN SHADOWS
GIVE HER SPACE TO BE HERSELF
GIVE HER BOUNDARIES WHEN SHE CROSSES THE LINE “PAUSE”
DIRECT HER WHEN IT IS APPROPRIATE
MAKE DECISIONS FOR THE TWO OF YOU – THAT’S SOMETIMES, NOT ALL THE TIME
BE OK WITH BEING GUIDED BY HER
LET HER SOMETIMES GUIDE YOU
LET HER SOMETIMES TAKE CONTROL
STAY FREE – DON’T LET HER MICROMANAGE YOU
GIVE HER SPACE TO RELAX IF SHE SAYS SHE’S TIRED OR NEEDS TO CHILL
RESPECT HER BOUNDARIES
STAY CONNECTED WITH YOURSELF, YOUR OWN DESTINY LINE
HAVE AMBITIONS! HAVE PLANS FIR YOUR FUTURE
HAVE YOUR SHIT TOGETHER
MASTER YOUR MONEY
ACKNOWLEDGE THE INVISIBLE
BE A LEADER WHEN YOU HAVE TO
HAVE A TRIBE
EXPRESS YOUR POWER
GIVE BACK, RECIPROCATE WHEN YOU RECEIVE SOMETHING
VOICE IT WITH AWARENESS WHEN IT’S APPROPRIATE AND TIMING IS RIGHT
COMMUNICATE CLEANLY
LISTEN AND RESPOND TO HER NEEDS
LISTEN TO AND RESPOND TO YOUR NEEDS
WHAT IS YOUR TRUTH? BE REAL
CREATE PHYSICAL, EMOTIONAL AND ENERGETIC SAFETY FOR HER
HAVE AN EDGE TO YOU
RECOVER YOUR POWER FAST IF SOMETHING HITS YOU
EXPAND HER
STAY CONNECTED
BE RELIABLE
BE IN INTEGRITY
BE SUPPORTIVE
COMMUNICATE CLEARLY
BE DIRECT, REAL, AUTHENTIC IN YOUR COMMUNICATION
BE SEXUALLY CONFIDENT
PRACTICE PRESENCE
BE CREATIVE WITH YOUR DATES
SHOW APPRECIATION
LISTEN
BE SENSITIVE TO HER NEEDS
BE FLEXIBILE
BE HUMAN
KEEP EVOLVING
BE YOUR BEST

CHECK THESE CORE SPECIFIC CHALLENGES

DON’T ENTER IN REACTIVE MODE IF SHE TEASE-CRITICISES YOU
STAY PRESENT IF SHE REJECTS YOU

HOW TO RESPOND WHEN SHE

CRITICIZES YOU
CHALLENGES YOU
MICROMANAGES YOU
IS AGGRESSIVE WITH YOU
IS DEMANDING
IS NEEDY
CONFUSES YOU
MISLEADS YOU
ABUSES YOU
PLAYS WITH YOU
REJECTS YOU
HARRASSES YOU
IS MOODY
DOESN’T TRUST YOU
CHEATS ON YOU
BETRAYS YOU
DISCONNECTS FROM YOU
DOES SOMETHING YOU DON’T LIKE
SHE TRIES TO ARGUE
WANTS YOU TO DO THINGS
IS SEXUALLY PUSHY
GETS UPSET
GETS SAD OR DEPRESSED
LOSES FAITH IN HERSELF
FEELS LOST
PROTECTS STORIES ON YOU
IMAGINES THINGS
IS DELUSIONAL
IS INSECURE
TRIES TO EDUCATE YOU, COACH YOU OR FORCE DIRECTIVE ADVICE ON YOU
COMMUNICATES WITH LOTS OF EMOTIONAL CHARGE
IS ANGRY WITH YOU
PLAYS GAMES WITH YOU
DOESN’T REPLY TO YOUR MESSAGES
SAYS NO TO YOU
IS INCOHERENT
LOSES HERSELF IN A LONG STORY TELLING
GETS JEALOUS
IS IN RIVALRY WITH YOU
GOSSIPS ABOUT YOU
DOESN’T WANT PEOPLE TO KNOW ABOUT YOU
REACTS WHEN YOU POST SOME PICTURE ON FACEBOOK
BELIEVES HER FRIEND’S LIES ABOUT YOU
MAKES MISTAKES WITH HER MONEY
DOESN’T FOLLOW UP WITH PROFESSIONAL GOALS
ACCUSES YOU
BLAMES YOU
THREATENS YOU
EMOTIONALLY WITHDRAWS FROM YOU
BRINGS UP PROCESSING DURING ROMANTIC TIME
THROWS EMOTIONAL STUFF AT YOU
BLAMES YOU FOR YOUR PAST
SAYS YOU ARE NOT THERE FOR HER
SAYS YOU ARE SEXUALLY INCOMPATIBLE
BREAKS UP WITH YOU
SAYS SHE WANTS SPACE
SAYS SHE WANRS TO BREAK UP
CHANGES HER MIND ALL THE TIME
IS UNSUPORTIVE
IS DISTRACTED BY HER CELL PHONE
PLAYS GAMES TO MAKE YOU JEALOUS
IS LATE
PREFERS SPENDING TIME WITH HER GIRLFRIENDS
HAS MORE EMOTIONAL INTIMACY WITH ANOTHER MAN THAN WITH YOU
WANTS TO BE FREE
WANTS AN OPEN RELATIONSHIP
IS NASTY WITH YOU
IS AGGRESSIVE WITH YOU
IS AGGRESSIVE WITH SOMEONE YOU CARE FOR
IS MANIPULATIVE
DOESN’T VALUE YOU
SAYS SOMETHING BUT DOES THE EXACT OPPOSITE
GIVES YOU MIXED SIGNALS
EXPRESSES HER INSECURITIES
DOESN’T TAKE CARE OF HER BODY
LACKS SELF LOVE
WANTS TO SPEND MORE TIME WITH OTHER MEN
FORCES HER AGENDA ON YOU
TRIES TO DOMESTICATE YOU
BLAMES YOU FOR EVERYTHING
CHEATS AND TELLS YOU IT’S YOUR FAULT
EMOTIONALLY HARASSES YOU
SHE GETS OFFENDED
SHE GETS TRIGGERED
PUNISHES YOU FOR DOING WHAT SHE SAYS
USES EMOTIONAL THREAT TO GET WHAT SHE WANTS
ACCUSES YIU OF TAKING SOMETHING PERSONALLY
DOESN’T LISTEN TO THE ESSENCE OF WHAT YOU SHARED BUT CRITICIZES THE FORM
DEPRIVES YOU FROM SEX
EMOTIONALLY DISCONNECTS FROM YOU
SHUTS DOWN EMOTIONALLY
DEPRIVES YOU FROM SEX TO PUNISH YOU
TRIES TO EDUCATE YOU
SHARES CHALLENGING EMOTIONS