MY HUSBAND AND I HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR 11 YEARS, WE ARE IN AN INTERRACIAL RELATIONSHIP.. I HAVE NO IMMEDIATE FAMILY AND HIS FAMILY ARE CLOSET RACISTS. WE FIGHT ABOUT THEM, OUR FINANCIAL PROBLEMS ARE POSSIBLY OUR BIGGEST PROBLEM, MY HUSBAND DOES NOT HAVE ANY IDEA OF HOW TO MANAGE HIS FINANCES, I GOT MAD ONE NIGHT AND TOLD HIM THAT HE WAS A 41 YEAR OLD MAN WITH NOTHING TO SHOW FOR IT… AND THAT HE HAS NOT CHANGED IN ALL THESE YEARS
I DID NOT MEAN TO HURT HIM, I WAS JUST BEING HONEST, BUT HE SAID THAT THE STATEMENT HURT HIM SO DEEPLY THAT HE COULD NOT TRUST ME ANY MORE… HE FELT HUMILIATED AND STATED THAT ANYONE WHO COULD SAY SOMETHING LIKE THAT COULD NOT POSSIBLY HAVE FEELINGS FOR THAT PERSON.. NOW HE WANTS TO END OUR RELATIONSHIP.
I CONVINCED HIM TO GO TO COUNSELING, BUT HE CONTINUES TO TELL THE COUNSELOR THAT HE DOESN’T THINK IT WILL WORK OUT. DUE TO OUR FINANCIAL SITUATION, HE’S STILL LIVING IN THE HOUSE. HE TELLS ME THOUGH THAT WE CAN LIVE THIS WAY, IN A CIVIL MANNER UNTIL OUR FINANCIAL SITUATION CHANGES, THEN HE WILL MOVE.
WE DO NOT TALK UNLESS IT IS ABOUT THE KIDS. WE EVEN SLEEP IN THE SAME BED. HE TELLS ME THAT HE WANTS ME SEXUALLY, AND WE STILL HAVE GREAT SEX, BUT AFTER SEX, IT IS BACK TO THE SAME OLD THING. I FEEL HOPELESS. I LOVE HIM SO MUCH, AND HAVE APOLOGIZED SO MANY TIMES, BUT HE SAYS THAT I AM NOT SINCERE.
HOW CAN I WIN HIS TRUST BACK.
To make this work you need two highly motivated people who are ready to go to battle to protect what is theirs. You need two people fully engaged into preserving their marriage and relationship.
What you need in there is extra protective power. As you can see the marriage contract is not strong enough to keep you together.
If you want to shift the present course of your marriage, you need to wake up extra resources of power. A battle is going on right now.
To make it work, the priority number 1 in your mind and in his mind must be to protect your marriage no matter what.
A few tips won’t work. You need something drastic. This requires you to go beyond the limits of what you already know. You need to invest yourself fully into it. Invest time, energy and money.
This is a process of marriage recovery. Can it work if he does not want it?
Will power and determination make a huge difference.
The question is: “Are you ready to do what it takes to make it work?”
If you are, simply reply to this message. I will tell you what is involved in getting your marriage back.