- Is gossip ok or not?
- Confidentiality or not?
They do it because it’s fun and entertaining!
It might sound like:
“The other day we were talking about you at this meeting and realized how stubborn you are when it comes to collaborating…”
Or with friends
“I heard this rumor about you… Is that true? Did you do that?”
How do you master that pattern especially when you are the target?
What do you do when people talk about you behind your back?
We’ll check ways of mastering this challenge.
That’s another core shadow totally prevalent in society that has the potential to destroy someone’s reputation or life!
Sometimes, you might b confronted with someone giving you the cold shoulder and you have no idea why.
You might never get an answer but if you do it might sound like:
“Well, I was chatting the other day and she said that you said this about me! I felt really upset! Is that true? Is that what you think about me?”
You might correct that idea straight away or tell them that it is actually true.
The point though is that it is challenging to control, influence or avoid what people say about you or what they share when you are not present.
You might be afraid of criticism.
You might try to avoid it by pleasing others or staying away from the public eye.
Criticism can feed you with energy.
You take someone’s criticism and this the energy increases your vibration.
You feel more present, more real and more energized because of it.
Imagine what happens when you make that energetic shift.
Be happy when being criticized.
Another aspect of criticism and gossip is to start rising your vibration to live in a reality in which the people who are connected with you are in your field all the time, not just when they are physically present.
So suppose that you talk about your partner to someone.
Imagine that this partner is not physically present but they can feel everything you say.
The words you say stay in your aura, in your electromagnetic field.
If you criticize them, these words stay present in your field like aggressive arrows.
This partner feels these attacks at one point or another.
They might have this pure energetic feeling they can’t describe.
These judgments might appear as well your body language.
It doesn’t mean stopping to criticize.
You can still use that weapon if you want to.
However, if you want to master it master it be totally aware of its impact.
Instead of being dominated by impulsive emotions, you use the criticism, gossip or verbal attack exactly when you want to.
For some people, mastering criticism might mean to never it.
For others, it might mean being an active gossiper and spreading destructive rumors simply to have fun.
I am not here to tell you what’s right or wrong.
The way you use these weapons is up to you.
- Feed backing
- Using sarcasm
- Face to face
- Written form
- Other communication mediums
- Associated with a request to change or do something.
- Vindictive, aimed at hurting.
- A conscious attack.
- A gentle feed back.
- Self blaming
- Self pity
- Self judging
- Self ridiculing
- Negative self beliefs
- Negative self talk
- Being self conscious
That shadow is self judgement.
It is the projection of self criticism or fear of external criticism.
Another shadow aspect that emerged has to do with arguing or debating.
Some people will be in the debating or arguing mode all the time.
For them, it’s difficult to say ye to anything because they get a kick out of opposing any ideas or suggestions.
That’s connected with mental wrestling!
Any opportunity to have a challenging conversation will be taken because this mental challenge is their favorite way to grow, compete or generate energy.
Agreeing to anything means that the competition or mental wrestling is over and peace and harmony kick in.
A huge portion of discussions in the west will be arguing or debates.
This pattern is often expressed in couple, families or businesses.
The shadow of this pattern is that it is expressed with lack of awareness.
It will often trigger fights in situations where harmony would be a better match for everyone.
The urge to argue is the urge to use the mental realms, logic and reason as a battle ground that one wants to conquer.
Instead of physical battle it is really a mental battle going on.
The target is the conquest of the mental territory, the realm of ideas, thoughts, beliefs, etc.