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Watch now these new videos! They answer most of the dating questions you might have :wink: - For women only! - vitalcoach
How to strike a conversation with a total stranger - video - 8 min
How to tease guys - Video - 4 min
I can't stand seeing him talking with other girls - Video - 5 min
How to connect with a man you never met before - Video - 7 min
How to increase attraction after a first date - video - 6 min
Key Safe-Dating strategies - Protect your body+emotions - Video - 10 min
How to win at first dates - Video - 7 min
How to ask him out - Video - 8 min
Why guys fall for girls like you - Video - 7 min
How to make it very easy for him to ask you out - Video - 7 min
Keep it simple for 3 months - Video - 6 min
How to be rejection proof - Video - 8 min
Is he afraid to commit? - Video - 4 min
Why does he flirt with you? - Video - 3 min
Why he does not call back - Video - 4 min
Understanding men - Video - 3 min
How to get a guy to fall in love with you - Video - 9 min
How to get a guy to notice you - Video - 4 min
I realize this is a long synopsis, but bear with me:
Okay, here's my problem: I worked with a guy on campus all of last year and basically had a huge crush on him from the second we met. I felt like we sparked the few first weeks and we'd chat a little during work and then he took off for classes overseas and when he got back things were different... Still, he'd confide in me once in a while about how he was feeling nervous or scared about the 'real world' and I thought that meant there was at least a chance he kinda liked me. But none of that matters because he graduated last year but has since secured a full-time job at our school and so is still around. When I thought he was graduating last year and I'd never have to see him again, I sent him an email confessing to him that I'd had a crush on him all year and that I would love to date him, yadda yadda, hoping maybe there was a chance he was interested. He never responded, and I was crushed but put it behind me. I thought I had gotten over it until the second I saw him in a bar the other week while out with friends. He never came over but after his second drink he was sitting about seven feet away on a stool with his whole body aimed right at me and I felt so awkward I downed a Long Island iced tea in about 3 minutes and made desparate conversation with my friend, pretending not to see him the whole time. He eventually left and I found myself in a computer lab around 2 am writing out a letter to him making it clear that I felt awkward that he never responded and that I'd still like to go out if he ever wanted to (I know I should have taken the silence as a hint but the alcohol and his body language gave me some weird hope I think), hoping that he'd either ask me on a date or flat-out say he wasn't interested. Well, he did neither. He apologized for being a lame person for not answering my earlier message, said he knew I had taken a risk and that he didn't think 'less' of me for it, and said that he was sure we'd run into each other sometime this year and that he promised not to be a stranger next time.
I know what that means. I know that's a nice guy's way of saying he's not interested. But a part of me, the hopeless crush part, is hooked on this stupid fantasy that maybe he's just really that shy when it comes to dating or asking out girls or whatever... And now I really can't get anything done. I keep turning it over in my head and I can't focus on the studying I need to be doing and I'm tired of this, because this is all that ever happens to me... I'm shy when it comes to dating or guys in general and it's hard for me to be open with them so once I am, and they're nice about it, I get hooked.
And when I say shy, I mean SHY -- I never trust myself. I've been told by guys I LIKED that I passed up dates with them, and I never realized it because I didn't think they were actually asking me out because they'd say something like, "You should come to the dance tonight" or "What are you doing tonight?" And I'd always freeze and say I had other plans and not realize that, from their point of view, they saw rejection or game-playing. I just don't want to be like this anymore. Ahg!