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He cheated - Says it won't happen again - Can I trust him

He cheated - Says it won't happen again - Can I trust him

Postby Guest » Wed Jun 15, 2005 2:38 am

My partner cheated on me last year.

He keeps saying that he chnaged since then and that this would not happen again. Can I trust him?
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Can you trust him?

Postby vitalcoach » Fri Apr 27, 2012 2:28 pm

The best way to find out is to take small steps.

The first challenge however is always to get your power back first.

When he cheats on you, you feel vulnerable.

You want to get your power and dignity back before you invest in your relationship again.

How do you do this? By shifting the way you stand in your relationship.

You take some freedom back, invest into new friendships, focus more on yourself or give a boost to your career.

An infidelity is a warning it sign.

It tells you to wake up and shift from romantic to battle mood.

Your life and your relationship are under attack and the first thing you want to do is protect yourself.

Once you gain back your power and feel that your partner is genuine, you can take small steps to reconnect with him.

Now, don't jump back into this relationship blindly.

Stay awake and alert!

How can you test if he is sincere or not?

His actions need to reflect his words.

A guy can promise a lot and when it comes to acting according to what he says, he can step back and behave totally differently.

If he says he will be faithful forever, give him space to express it without expecting too much.

Now, it's him who has to gain you back.

He has to do most of the work and prove by his actions that he means it.

It can take up to a couple of years to rebuild trust in a relationship.

If you two are mature, you can reconnect much faster.

However, don't be blind and don't expect the world.

Take cautious steps and don't give yourself away just because of a vague promise on his side.

Let him take the steps first and prove you that he truly means it.

Get this e-book:

http://vitalcoaching.com/relationships/ ... on_you.htm

All the strategies on dealing with a cheater

Good luck! :wink:

vitalcoach


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