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I am seeing a guy who was very recently divorced. He and I have been very good friends for several years, so it was fairly easy for us to begin dating. I knew his ex-wife, though not well, and they were together (on and off) for many years.
The thing is, she has moved all of her stuff out of his place now, but there are still many things around. He has boxes of stuff from their past in his closet and photo albums full of photos of them. He is going to save his wedding band because of the emotional attachment. He is the one who called off their relationship.
They are still in touch, often because of necessity to finish up various items of paperwork, etc. He says they barely speak or email, but there's no way for me to know that for sure. She is seeing someone now as well.
I cannot stand that he is holding onto all of these things from their past. It kills me. I have told him this and he has said he will move the boxes out of his place, but will not get rid of them. I would never ask him to throw them away because that would not be fair. It is his past, his memories.
I know that he loves me and I love him, but I just cannot seem to get past his past, and I'm not sure what to do about it. I hate to even hear her name or think of them together. It hurts me to know that he has felt all of these things before, and that he has said all of these things to someone else in the past. See, I have never loved anyone before him.
Any opinions or advice? Has anyone had a similar experience?