VITAL FIGHTS

VITAL FIGHTS – ENERGETIC INTENSITY

Especially in lovers context, we tend to think that tantra is all about sweetness and love and harmony. It's not! The light aspects of relating are only a...

VITAL FIGHTS – POSSIBLE TACTICS

Here are a few possible tactics when trapped in the arguing or fight zone: Attack  Defense  Apology  Negation  Provoking  Negoti...

VITAL FIGHTS – ARGUMENT TACTICS

Here are a few possible ways to phrase things to handle arguments and attacks: I never gave you the permission to tell me what to do       ...

VITAL FIGHTS – ACTIVATIONS

Vital fight practices are amongst the most challenging to integrate. I encourage you to try this within safe sessions or workshops with me. But in case yo...

MARRIAGE SUBTLE LIES

Here are some often unspoken marriage shadows. A few good ones to have a look at... I will love you forever = I will love you until you do some stupid...

VITAL FIGHTS – VITAL PAIN

Emotional pain can be triggered by loss, break up, separation, abandonment, etc. In the core of this pain, bliss can be accessed. You active an energy flow a...

VITAL FIGHTS – FIGHTGASM

A fight is the battle between two energy sources that interact in dynamic ways. In arguments it's the conflict of beliefs or perspectives. If you look behind...

VITAL FIGHTS – FIGHT VARIATIONS

You have many variations for that one: COMBAT ARGUMENT DISAGREEMENT BATTLE CONFLICT CLASH BLAME GAME CONFRONTATION PROVOCATION SABOTAGE ATTACK COMPETITION DR...

VITAL FIGHTS – FIGHT CIRCLES

Fight circles are protected containers in which fight simulations can take place. Here are a few names for that: FIGHT CIRCLE CONFRONTATION CIRCLE BATTLE CIR...

VITAL FIGHTS – RIVALING

Rivaling means systematically entering in competing patterns. This often happens in couples or between friends. It creates this inner tension in which each p...

VITAL FIGHTS – FIGHTING DIRTY

Fighting dirty means using tools that are not too ethical and are off usual values. This happens a lot in divorce battles. Divorces get dirty in this ca...

VITAL FIGHTS – ELBOWING

Elbowing means fighting your way to success often in dirty and aggressive ways. Success can mean fighting your way to enter your bus for instance. You c...

VITAL FIGHTS – ANTAGONIZING

Antagonizing means systematically taking an opposing or fighting position to trigger conflict. Antagonistic people trigger fights because they are addicted...

VITAL FIGHTS – RALLYING

Rallying means joining forces or creating bonds with fight partners. This is one of the core battle tactics. At the end of this line, you get global con...

AVOID FIGHT ESCALATION

In my work with break ups and divorces, I see men and women doing that all the time.They take their problem to court thinking that their lawyer will destroy...

VITAL SHADOW – CONFLICT HOOKS

Some people will throw fight triggers at you, especially when they are bored and they need some fresh energy. That's the way the spirit sometimes brings chall...

VITAL SEX – MAKE UP SEX

Why can make up sex be so powerful and intense?It is because you build up emotional intensity through fight and then project that intensity in love making....

VITAL FIGHTS – AVOID AND ACCEPT RESPONSES

When exposed to emotional violence you have two opposed sets of responses.The first set is:• Resenting• Victimizing• Leaving• Escaping• Avoiding• Disconnecting•...

VITAL SHADOW – HOW TO RESPOND TO BLAME

Suppose that you get a message from someone accusing you of not being present enough for them. They tell you that you neglected them in a specific situation, ...

35 WAYS A WOMAN MIGHT CONFUSE YOU

This can be an internal or external shadow.For instance you might have a lover or romantic partner that systematically confuses you. They might mislead y...

VITAL SHADOW – FIGHTING CREATES ENERGY

Fighting is a way to generate energy.Fighting creates friction!Friction creates fire!Fire is energy!-----If you have been fighting a lot in your couple for inst...

VITAL SHADOW – FIGHT HANGOVER

That's the feeling you get if you engaged in a deep verbal fight in your couple for instance.You wake up really weird the following day as if a nightmare had pa...

VITAL SHADOW – HOW TO STEP OUT

If you have been in the conflict, fight or shadow mode, how to you step out and move to a new energy space? Here are a few core strategies: BACK TO PEACE U...

VITAL SHADOW – BACK TO PEACE

In the middle of energetic battles, you can feel really high because of the intensity you face.One of the core skills is to be able to jump in and out of battle...

VITAL SHADOW – ENERGETIC AIKIDO

It feels that the best shadow and fight tactics are emerging as soft gentle, peace building moves.As I explore this energetic landscape I see how various techni...