YES! ESPECIALLY ON SOCIAL MEDIA!
Some arguments have zero solutions!
… And the way you might engage in them is with a losing strategy from the start!
The best way to win is often NOT TO ENGAGE!!!
So many of the microconflicts happening in your life are such a freakin waste of energy!
Imagine what would happen if instead of fighting an opposing equal force, you would just redirect your energy somewhere else!
So why do we do it?
Why do we engage instead of dropping it!
Here is an idea:
IT’S AN ADDICTION!
Human beings are addicted to being in conflict!
It gives us a kick of energy that makes us feel alive!
Does this idea trigger you?
CHALLENGE BRINGS ENERGY IN YOUR FIELD!
When you are in crisis, you feel an adrenaline rush in your system that makes you feel alive!
You might have a short argument in a pleasant flat-lining day and that argument might be your energetic peak experience!
This means that you will feel the most “alive” at the moment of conflict!
Think about this!
Why would you engage when you get provoked if you didn’t get something out of it?
Can you feel it?
WHAT DOES YOUR SYSTEM GET OUT OF BEING IN CONFLICT?
SHOULD YOU ALWAYS WALK AWAY? OF COURSE NOT!
In case you wonder, of course, sometimes staying present, engaging, de-escalating, listening is THE WAY TO GO… Especially with romantic or business partners.
You have dozens of communication techniques to deal with tension or conflict!
Walking away is just one of them!
The reason I mention this one here is because you might get trapped in energy draining conflicting spirals with total strangers when NOT ENGAGING might have been the ABSOLUTE BEST TACTIC from the start!
Stay awake! Be a Ninja! ?
The idea of walking away will usually work way better with a bored stranger who is just trying to pick up an argument.
Share your insights, please!