Some shadows can easily be dealt with while other shadows might be way more difficult or even impossible to sustain.
For instance, if she is physically abusive, that might be a deal breaker.
If she systematically takes steps to poison your life, that could be another deal breaker.
If she gets tense or angry here and there, that’s a way softer shadow and probably not a deal breaker.
See the difference?
If you are exposed to her shadows, ask yourself:
What are the shadows you are exposed to?
Are any of these shadows deal breakers or are they manageable?
If you face any deal breaker, you have a few possible ways to go:
- Get her to change
- Stay exposed to it
- Get it to evolve