Getting angry is an instinctual defense or attack mechanism.
If you own your anger, if can even feel liberating!
You might say things like:
“Whaou! I really needed that!!!”
Your fire excess wanted to come out.
What if you could express this fire in other ways?
Some couples do that through sex.
You might choose a business or life challenge and express your conquering drive that way.
You can do some martial arts or train.
You can go outdoor and release this energy through extreme sports.
The goal is to channel that excess of fire in other ways than fights with your partner.