Rehearse a bit before you go.
Here is your “battle” plan:
- Be relaxed
- No sentimentalism
- Stay cool
- Sort out what you need to sort out
- Keep it short
Make sure you keep it on a light respectful note.
- Beg her to come back to you
- Attack her or blame her
- Try to control any part of her life
- Get jealous if she mentions other guys
- Have or hope for sex
Meeting an ex is always a high risk moment where fight triggers can tease you any time.
So, meet her armed with an ABSOLUTE determination to keep it on a light note.
If you feel this meeting is turning bitter, smile, give her a hug or a kiss, tell her you will call her again at another time and LEAVE!
It is simply not worth wasting any more energy fighting.