Certainly! Intentional romantic relating involves making conscious and deliberate choices in a romantic relationship that align with both partners’ values and desires. Here are 20 principles, along with specific examples of how they could be applied:

  1. Open Communication
  • Example: Regularly discuss feelings and expectations with your partner, like scheduling weekly check-ins to ensure both parties feel heard and understood.
  1. Trust Building
  • Example: Keep promises and be reliable, like arriving on time for dates or commitments, to foster trust.
  1. Mutual Respect
  • Example: Honor each other’s opinions, even in disagreements, by actively listening without interrupting.
  1. Emotional Honesty
  • Example: Share fears and vulnerabilities with your partner, like opening up about past traumas that may affect the relationship.
  1. Quality Time
  • Example: Plan regular date nights or activities that both partners enjoy to keep the connection strong.
  1. Appreciation and Affirmation
  • Example: Leave small love notes or compliments to remind your partner why they’re special to you.
  1. Healthy Boundaries
  • Example: Clearly communicate personal boundaries and ensure they are respected, such as defining alone time needs.
  1. Conflict Resolution
  • Example: Approach disagreements with the intention to understand rather than win, like using “I feel” statements.
  1. Shared Goals and Values
  • Example: Regularly discuss and align on common goals, such as financial planning or family planning.
  1. Support and Encouragement
    • Example: Encourage your partner’s hobbies or career growth by showing interest and celebrating achievements.
  2. Intimacy and Physical Connection
    • Example: Keep the spark alive by setting aside time for physical intimacy that both partners are comfortable with.
  3. Personal Growth and Independence
    • Example: Encourage each other to pursue individual interests or friendships, maintaining a healthy sense of self.
  4. Cultural Sensitivity (if applicable)
    • Example: Learn and respect each other’s cultural backgrounds, like celebrating unique traditions together.
  5. Spiritual Connection (if applicable)
    • Example: Explore and honor each other’s spiritual beliefs, such as attending a place of worship together.
  6. Mutual Accountability
    • Example: Hold each other accountable for promises and commitments, like working together on a fitness goal.
  7. Adaptability
    • Example: Be willing to grow and change together, such as relocating for a partner’s job opportunity.
  8. Financial Transparency
    • Example: Openly discuss and plan finances, like having a joint budget or individual spending allowances.
  9. Parenting Alignment (if applicable)
    • Example: Regularly discuss and agree on parenting styles and decisions if you have or plan to have children.
  10. Recreational Partnership
    • Example: Engage in hobbies and fun activities together to create shared memories and strengthen the bond.
  11. Long-term Commitment
    • Example: Regularly affirm the long-term intentions of the relationship, such as planning future milestones together.

These principles emphasize the importance of intention, effort, and alignment in maintaining a healthy and fulfilling romantic relationship. By applying these principles, couples can create a deeper connection, navigate challenges more effectively, and cultivate a relationship that enriches both individuals.

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Shiva Rajaya

Tantrika / Life coach / Activator of new evolutionary codes for the planet and humankind