A woman’s shadows are complex.
What she projects on you is often the result of a mixture of emotions, mindsets, beliefs or wounds.
It’s not just one emotion!
It is a multidimensional energetic experience that involves beliefs, feelings, conditioning, influences, bodily sensations and much more.
On the surface you can have what I call shadow cocktails which are a mixture of multiple shadows.
Lately I was interviewing a few women in my social circle and here is what came up:
FIRST WOMAN
My core shadows when relating to men:
- Wanting to feel special
- Ego shadows
- Always be validated
- I want him to only have eyes for me
- Competitive with the guy
- Jealousy about other girls
My core reactions when men don’t respond to my expectations:
- I say really bad things about them
- I go into negative self talk about them
- I disconnect
- I delete everything about them like pictures and other memories
- I go into closed hearted attitude
SECOND WOMAN
My core shadows when relating to men:
- Abandonment issues / Dad issues
- Feeling not good enough
- Being demanding
- I get attached
- It pisses me off when he doesn’t listen or stay present
What I would need?
- Compassion
- Listening
- Not reacting
Men’s reaction to my shadows:
- He made me look at myself and forced me to be alone
- He didn’t want to hear about my feeling after a while
THIRD WOMAN
My core shadows when relating to men:
- Caring too much about what other people think
- Fear of being judged
- Fear of not being good enough with work or looks
- Abused by girls, beaten up by them
- Fear of being used sexually by men
- Clinical depression and anxiety
Men’s reaction to my shadows:
- Men would run
- Because they couldn’t fix me, they would run
- Rejection
- Objectifying me
The reason I share these examples is to make you realise that the shadow sets you are exposed to are not just one emotion or one action.
- I want you to stay present
- Listen
- Don’t disconnect
- Have compassion
- Hear me
- See me
