You heard that before, right?
“IF YOU WERE A TRUE FRIEND, YOU WOULD…”
- Put me first
- Always be there for me
- Always follow my advice
- Always be on my side when conflicts arise
- Be totally loyal to me
- Be super responsive when I message you
- Etc.
Those are unspoken FRIENDSHIP CODES
UNSPOKEN FRIENDSHIP CODES?
They are various behaviours, values, choices you are supposed to make according to some invisible friendship rules.
When someone says “Do you want to be my friend?”, what they often mean is:
“Would you like to establish and unspoken friendship agreement that will bond us within this set of friendship expectations”.
What they might be saying as well is:
“If you don’t plat by these rules, I will”:
- Threaten you
- Bully you
- Verbally attack you
- Discredit you towards other friends
- Gossip about you
- Criticize you
- Backstab you
- Etc
These are FRIENDSHIP SHADOWS
FRIENDSHIP CODES
These are all these unspoken expectations and set of moral contracts that you will step into when connecting with new friends.
FRIENDSHIP SHADOWS
Here are some examples:
- Betrayal
- Bullying
- Emotional threat
- Control
- Etc
Are the result of unfulfilled projections within the field of friendships
A FRIENDSHIP IS A RELATIONSHIP WITH ANOTHER HUMAN BEING
This means that spoken or unspoken, there is a container and set of values and expected behaviors within that friendship
FROM FRIENDSHIP TO TRIBE
If you project these ideas now to a circle of friends, you get a:
- Tribe
- Group
- Club
- Brotherhood
- Sisterhood
- Etc
With a set of dynamics that becomes even more complex.
FRIENDSHIPS ARE ENERGY REALITIES
This means that on an energetic level it is the manifestation of a certain set of human dynamics.
FRIENDSHIP MASTERY
The goal is to be able to master the friendship energy reality!
This aims at being able to navigate friendships and tribes in masterful ways.
Here are some friendship mastery codes:
- Staying in ease and flow
- Spaciousness
- Flexibility
- Deep care
- Love
- Respect
- Presence
- Etc
VITAL FRIENDSHIP CODES
The list above is the start of what I call the VITAL FRIENDSHIP CODES.
You have specific values that will anchor deep friendship connections with other human beings
Sometimes only a specific set of these values will be manifested.
You might for instance be really good friends with someone but not necessarily prioritize them.
BROTHERHOODS AND SISTERHOODS
Sometimes, the tribe will be gender specific, male only or female only.
These groups can be formally established or be just casual.
For instance a tribe of friends who happen to be men only will gather for a night out.
Sometimes these groups will be more formal and established in the form of a men’s circle or women’s circle for instance.
