Shadows have various levels of intensity.

You can easily give a mark 0-100% to the intensity of a shadow.
For instance physical abuse might carry an intensity of 80%.
Inconsistency will be more in the 20% range.
Romantic betrayal might be at 50%.
Cheating in the case of marriage will be at 80%.
Keep that in mind when defining a shadow.
These estimations are based on a feeling or perceived impact.
For instance with cheating, a receiver might perceive a 80% intensity where the giver might estimate it at 50%.
If your values and integrity are high and you steal a bicycle, your guilt intensity might be 80%.
In the same situation, if you don’t really care, your guilt intensity might be 20%.
Different people have different shadow intensity perceptions.