As you probably experienced, sex plays a huge role in your personal balance!
Sex is packed with shadows and challenges.
The TANTRIC SEX SYSTEM is an energy reality you can tap into that will offer you tools, inspiration, guidance, connection to source and open pathways to bliss and ecstasy in your life.
You can engage in sex simply following your instinctual passion!
This is beautiful and often fulfilling by itself!
You can as well bring more awareness and intention into love making and sexual connections and design your sexual experiences more consciously.
In this exploration I want to invite you to check some of the core ingredients that multiply the depth and positive impact of your sexual experiences.
One of the code expressions here is "INTENTIONAL SEX".
Intention means that we consciously orient our energy towards bliss, liberation, ecstasy and much more.
It's not just the superficial "fulfill my desires and follow my instincts" traditional love making approach!
We add devotion, prayer, meditative practices, mantras to consciously design and activate a tantric sex temple.
A tantric sex temple is an energy reality that supports your tantric experience.
It is of course anchored in the physical reality through beauty, candles, incense, sensual elements, temple elements, etc.
But the core aspect of this tantric sex temple is invisible.
When you invoke the tantric spirit through mantras, breathing techniques, meditations and other practices you create a portal or vortex of energy that activates energetic gateways between the worlds.
Once this portal opens up, you slide into a parallel reality where your mystical senses are enhanced and you access states of presence and spiritual bliss that are not usually activated in your daily life.
You enter into 5th dimension! The dimension of energy and spirit!
You perceive the dynamics of life from an energetic place, dissolving the traditional matrix of material life to unleash your universal identity.
Tantric sex is a path of awakening.
It can be combined with profound coupling experiences and deep erotic pleasures of course.
If you look beyond the gratification of the physical senses, you see that Tantric Sex opens you deeply to other dimensions.
We use sacred sex as AWAKENING PATHWAYS.
Two lovers within tantric love making become awakening agents towards each other.
Through sexual resonance they access powerful energy resources that unlock flows of mystical bliss that would otherwise stay trapped as untapped potential.
This is true MAGICAL ALCHEMY!
TANTRIC SEX is profound and magical!
It is a complete pathway of mystical awakening.
Now that we have the context set up, let's explore tools and techniques to create this magnificent soul merging tantric sex reality.
The "20 Steps" I will take you into are more like "20 Codes".
They are not meant to be followed in a sequential way.
They are qualities, values and core aspects that help create TANTRIC SEX RESONANCE.
By the way, you create your own reality! If you don't vibrate much with some of these codes, that's ok!
Own your experience and always stay fully sovereign to how you to design your tantric sex journey.
What I give you here are hints, approaches that I feel are high impact.
But it's really up to you! Select what resonates and discard the rest.
Here is another point:
20 CODES is just a small fraction of what we can explore!
We can indefinitely refine, expand this list to hundreds of subtler and subtler codes.
The TANTRIC SEX EXPLORATION is an endless adventure into untapped realms.
No matter how far you reach, there is always more behind your present horizon.
Let's look into them:
1 - DISCIPLINE
This might come as a surprise! What does discipline have to do with sex? Well, if you breathe together in a certain way while having intercourse for instance, you might multiply the depth of your experience.
The moment you stretch this breathing practice slightly beyond your comfort zone, you open new energy channels in your being that would otherwise not be activated.
Here is another example: setting up TANTRIC SEX DATES.
Instead of simply following passion and spontaneous desire and engage in love making when you just feel lile it, you set up times to meet to practice together.
You might for instance set up 3 X daily 1 hour sessions.
You can train YOUR TANTRIC SEX MUSCLES!
You can actually develop skills and abilities in TANTRIC SEX through practice and discipline.
2 - DEVOTION
Devotion is the conscious invocation of the invisible.
We consciously call in powers, energies and magic that will help us design these magnificent experiences.
TANTRIC SEX IS ACTIVE MEDITATION!
This means that the whole tantric sex experience is a sacred spiritual ritual where we offer our beings in honor and prayer.
3 - PRANAYAMA
PRANAYAMA = BREATH MASYERY
When you have sex, your breathing changes.
You channel pleasure through sound.
You accelerate, slow down, hold your breath or enter in catharsis states.
All that is enhanced or reflected in your breathing.
Now imagine that by consciously directing your breathing you can activate bliss states.
Combine these breathing activations with sexual fire and you have a massive erotic explosion of energy that blows the limits of your conceivable pleasure.
4 - COMMUNICATION
If you have a tantric lover, keep the communication channels clean and wide open.
Ask each other questions like:
- What is your intention?
- What did you enjoy the most about last night?
- Here is what I am grateful for
- Any shadows emerging in your field?
Do daily check ins, shadow checks when you face a challenge, practice a gratitude minute or a feedback minute.
Clear communication creates transparency and safety which allows the nervous system to relax and dive deeper into tantric love making.
5 - FIRE
FIRE AS PASSION!
Passion is an essential aspect of your tantric experience.
PASSION AND DISCIPLINE COMPLEMENT EACH OTHER.
When you feel passion, cultivate it, use it, don't suppress it.
It represents an essential source of energy that projects you forward.
6 - ART
You design beauty together following the streams of your sacred inspiration.
TANTRIC SEX IS AN ART FORM!
Your refine your sensual music, listening, consciously exploring the multidimensional expansion of your being.
7 - MANTRAS
Mantras are sacred code words and expressions.
A simple word like ANAHATA has the power to unlock your heart chakra.
When you sing KAMAYAMA JAYA, you invoke the VICTORY OF YOUR SEXUAL MASTERY.
It's pretty powerful, right?
Mantras design your inner landscape and program your mind to channel certain qualities and energy realities.
YOU BECOME WHAT YOU SPEAK!
Be aware of the power of your words!
8 - RITUALS
Rituals activate the temple space.
Bringing your hands in prayer pose before touching your partner's body tells the spirit that you are about to honor every aspect of this being.
It's your way of calling in love, respect and offering gratitude.
When you light a fire, you are calling in purification, energy, sacred transformative power to dissolve any trapped emotions and unsolved tension.
Rituals are a language that allows you to communicate with the invisible.
9 - PRACTICE
You become good at it by repeating certain techniques.
Someone who is in profound SADHANA / SPIRITUAL PRACTICE day after day will have more chances of activating TANTRIC SEX BLISS STATES than someone who thinks about it every months.
You heard this before: it takes 10'000 hours of practice to master an art.
If you study for a masters in a university, you might spend 4 years / 5000 hours in deep exploration of a topic.
In tantric circles we often hear the idea of 12 years spiritual training to become a tantrika.
Of course, it's not that simple but you get the picture.
Practice is what makes you really good at it.
10 - GUIDANCE
You will face potential pitfalls and challenges.
Surround yourself with support, teachers, masters, inspirers, knowledge and experience sources that you can trust.
11 - COMMUNITY
Community in Tibetan Buddhism is the Sangha!
It means the communion of saints that are on a similar path.
Being connected with explorers who are on a similar spiritual adventure will give you support and resonance in that specific field.
12 - PARTNER
You can explore tantric sex as SOLO, PARTNERED or GROUP.
The moment you find your perfect TANTRIC SEX MATCH, get ready to prioritize this connection and dive deep.
In my experience, cultivating connection for days, weeks, months or years gives you a very unique resonace that allows you to rise together.
Even if the resonance with a potential partner is not perfect, you can still have profound levels of exploration.
13 - SOLO
Solo tantric sex practices involve self pleasure exploration, mantras, energy activations and much more.
They are an essential aspect of your TANTRIC SEX TRAINING.
14 - VISION
Don't get lost in this exploration.
Stay focused on the original target: AWAKENING!
TANTRIC SEX IS A SPIRITUAL PRACTICE.
15 - WISDOM
Access your TRUTH, HIGHER SELF and MATURE RESONANCE when making choices.
Stay deeply awake in this exploration!
16 - TRANSMUTATION
Tantric sex is fundamentally different than traditional sex in the sense that our intention is way more than sensual gratification! It is awakening!
Pleasure is a side effect of the practices but not usually the central goal.
Another aspect is sexual transmutation where instead of aiming for peak orgasms or experiences we focus on sexual transmutation where the sexual energy ends up circulating throughout the body.
In tantric sex we tend to focus much on energy sex, which means exploring the energy dynamics rather than just the friction or touch aspects of traditional love making.
17 - PRESENCE
Presence means focus anddedication!
It is a quality that you want fully activated in your tantric love making.
18 - TOUCH
Bring awareness to the different flavors of touch. This where the tantric experience often starts. Discovering that through this simple energy connexion, a world of sensations and enery has the potential to open up.
You can expand this to the 5 senses of course!
19 - FLOW
The code word that I use for flow in Sanskrit is NADAYA.
Flow means that you release and don't get trapped in contraction if challenges arise.
20 - LIFE FORCE
The more energy resources you have in your being the more powerful your tantric sex experience will be.
Stay aware of sustaining high energy levels:
- Connect with nature
- Detoxify your body
- Clean your diet
- Detoxify your mind
- Cultivate harmonious connections with others
That's it for now!
This is an endless exploration and I won't cover of course potentially 12 years of tantric sex exploration in just one article.
If you want to explore TANTRIC SEX further feel free to connect with me for my TANTRIKA TRAININGS, EVENTS or 1 ON 1 SESSIONS.