1. Emotional Manipulation: This includes tactics such as guilt-tripping, gaslighting, or playing mind games to control or manipulate the partner’s emotions.
  2. Isolation: The abusive partner may attempt to isolate their partner from friends, family, or support networks, thereby gaining more control and power over them.
  3. Verbal Abuse: Using harsh language, insults, demeaning comments, or constant criticism to degrade and diminish the partner’s self-esteem.
  4. Financial Control: Taking control of finances, limiting access to money, or using money as a tool for power and control.
  5. Threats and Intimidation: Making threats of physical harm, damaging property, or engaging in other intimidating behaviors to instill fear and maintain control.
  6. Withholding Affection or Sex: Using intimacy as a weapon by withdrawing affection, love, or sexual intimacy as a form of punishment or control.
  7. Physical Abuse: Engaging in physically violent behaviors, such as hitting, slapping, or physically harming the partner.
  8. Silent Treatment: The abusive partner may use the silent treatment as a way to punish or manipulate the other person. They may intentionally ignore or refuse to communicate, leaving the partner feeling isolated and anxious.
  9. Online Harassment: In today’s digital age, abusive partners might use technology to stalk, harass, or publicly shame their partner. This can include spreading rumors, posting derogatory comments or images, or monitoring their partner’s online activities.
  10. Control of Daily Activities: Abusive individuals may exert control over their partner’s daily life by dictating their schedule, monitoring their whereabouts, or making decisions without their input. This can lead to a loss of autonomy and a sense of being constantly monitored.
  11. Threats to Custody or Legal Action: In some cases, an abusive partner may threaten to take away children or use the legal system against their partner as a way to maintain control or coerce compliance.
  12. Sexual Coercion: Engaging in non-consensual or coercive sexual acts is a severe form of abuse. This can involve pressuring, manipulating, or forcing the partner into unwanted sexual experiences.
  13. Emotional Blackmail: Using emotional vulnerability or personal information shared in confidence against the partner, manipulating them into compliance or making them feel guilty for setting boundaries.
  14. Invasion of Privacy: Violating the partner’s privacy by accessing personal devices, reading private messages, or stalking their social media accounts, which can lead to feelings of insecurity and a lack of trust.
  15. Discrediting or Undermining Achievements: Abusive partners may dismiss or belittle their partner’s accomplishments, talents, or ambitions, undermining their self-confidence and self-worth.
  16. Social Isolation: The abusive partner may discourage or prevent their partner from maintaining social connections or participating in activities outside of the relationship. This isolation can increase dependence on the abusive partner and further control their actions.
  17. Blaming and Shifting Responsibility: The abusive partner consistently blames their actions, emotions, or problems on the other person, refusing to take responsibility for their behavior and shifting blame onto their partner.
  18. Threats of Self-Harm or Suicide: Some abusers may manipulate their partner by threatening self-harm or suicide as a way to gain control or instill fear. This emotional manipulation can be incredibly distressing for the partner.
  19. Gaslighting: Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation where the abuser distorts the partner’s perception of reality, making them doubt their own memory, perceptions, or sanity. This tactic can be used to gain power and control over the partner.
  20. Intimidation and Stalking: The abusive partner may engage in behaviors such as following, monitoring, or tracking their partner’s movements without consent. This invasion of privacy and constant surveillance can create fear and a sense of being constantly watched.
  21. Denial and Minimization: The abuser may deny or downplay their abusive behaviors, making the partner question their own experiences and feelings. This can lead to confusion and self-doubt in the victim.
  22. Forced Dependency: The abusive partner may create an environment where the victim becomes financially dependent on them, making it difficult for the victim to leave the relationship or seek support elsewhere.
  23. Manipulation of Children: In cases where children are involved, the abusive partner may use the children as pawns to manipulate and control the other person. They may make threats or engage in harmful behaviors to gain power or compliance.
  24. Public Humiliation: The abusive partner may publicly humiliate or embarrass their partner, either in private or in social settings. This can include derogatory comments, insults, or cruel jokes meant to degrade and demean.
  25. Sexual Exploitation: Engaging in non-consensual sexual acts or pressuring the partner into unwanted sexual activities is a form of sexual abuse. It violates the partner’s boundaries and autonomy.
  26. Economic Control: The abusive partner may control all financial resources, restrict the partner’s access to money, or sabotage their employment opportunities. This financial control limits the partner’s independence and creates a power imbalance.
  27. Threats of Violence: The abusive partner may use explicit or implicit threats of physical harm to intimidate and control their partner. This can include gestures, aggressive body language, or explicit threats of violence.
  28. Manipulation through Jealousy: The abusive partner may excessively exhibit jealousy, making baseless accusations or demanding constant proof of loyalty. This manipulation tactic is used to control the partner’s behavior and isolate them from potential sources of support.
  29. Destruction of Property: The abuser may intentionally damage or destroy the partner’s personal belongings, creating an atmosphere of fear and intimidation.
  30. Coercive Control: Coercive control involves establishing dominance and control over the partner through a pattern of manipulative and intimidating behaviors. This can include monitoring their activities, controlling their communication, and dictating their daily routines.
  31. Forced or Unwanted Substance Use: The abusive partner may pressure or force the partner to consume drugs or alcohol against their will, impairing their judgment and making them more vulnerable to abuse.
  32. Racial, Cultural, or Identity-Based Abuse: In cases where there are differences in race, culture, religion, or other identities, the abusive partner may exploit these differences to demean, belittle, or undermine the partner’s sense of self.
  33. Invasion of Personal Space: The abusive partner may violate the partner’s physical boundaries by invading their personal space, cornering them, or blocking their exit during conflicts.
  34. Sexual Objectification: Treating the partner as a mere object of sexual desire, disregarding their consent, boundaries, and individuality, is a form of sexual abuse.
  35. Excessive Control over Appearance: The abusive partner may dictate the partner’s clothing choices, hairstyle, or overall appearance, exerting control over their sense of identity and self-expression.
  36. Threatening to Out or Expose Personal Information: The abusive partner may threaten to reveal private or sensitive information about the partner to manipulate or control them, potentially causing harm to their reputation or relationships.
  37. Forced Isolation: The abusive partner may physically or emotionally isolate the partner from their loved ones, preventing them from maintaining relationships and support systems outside of the abusive relationship.
  38. Forced Intimacy: The abusive partner may engage in sexual activities without the partner’s consent or coerce them into unwanted sexual acts, disregarding their boundaries and autonomy.
  39. Manipulating Children against the Partner: The abusive partner may manipulate the children or use them as leverage to control and manipulate the partner. This can involve badmouthing the partner to the children, alienating them, or using visitation rights as a means of control.
  40. Sabotage of Personal or Professional Opportunities: The abusive partner may intentionally undermine the partner’s personal or professional growth by sabotaging job opportunities, academic pursuits, or personal goals, thereby maintaining control and power over their lives.
  41. Blurring Boundaries: The abusive partner may disregard or dismiss the partner’s boundaries, invading their personal space, accessing their personal belongings without permission, or making decisions for them without their consent.
  42. Excessive Monitoring and Surveillance: The abusive partner may excessively monitor the partner’s activities, including their phone calls, text messages, emails, or online presence, invading their privacy and eroding their sense of trust.
  43. Forced or Manipulated Financial Dependence: The abusive partner may manipulate or control the partner’s access to finances, making them financially dependent and limiting their ability to leave the abusive relationship.
  44. Exploitation of Vulnerabilities: The abusive partner may exploit the partner’s vulnerabilities, such as past trauma or insecurities, to gain power and control over them, using them as leverage in arguments or to diminish their self-worth.
  45. Sleep Deprivation: The abusive partner may intentionally disrupt the partner’s sleep patterns, preventing them from getting adequate rest, which can have detrimental effects on their physical and mental well-being.
  46. Forced Compliance with Gender Roles: The abusive partner may enforce strict gender roles, imposing expectations and restrictions on how the partner should behave, dress, or fulfill societal norms, leading to a loss of individuality and autonomy.
  47. Manipulation through Pity or Victimhood: The abusive partner may play the victim, using pity or sympathy to manipulate the partner into accepting blame or tolerating abusive behavior.
  48. Threats of Immigration or Legal Consequences: In cases where there are immigration issues or legal vulnerabilities, the abusive partner may use these circumstances to threaten deportation, separation from children, or legal consequences as a means of control.
  49. Social Media and Online Harassment: The abusive partner may use social media platforms or online channels to harass, stalk, or publicly shame the partner, causing emotional distress and potential reputational damage.
  50. Engaging in Intentional Deception: The abusive partner may habitually lie, deceive, or manipulate the partner, eroding trust and creating a sense of confusion and instability within the relationship.

About the author

Shiva Rajaya

Tantrika / Life coach / Activator of new evolutionary codes for the planet and humankind