Should I tell him that I don't like it when he's in touch with his ex? – TIP


The first thing to check is: when did you have your last “boundaries” discussion with him?

If it’s more than a month, it is possible to sit down again and have an open heart discussion about this.

If you want a chat, instead of saying: “When you interact with her, I don’t like it and I think you should stop…”

Say:

“Let’s chat about exes today… How close do you feel it is appropriate for them to be? For instance would you be ok with me exchanging text messages with my ex in the evening while you and I are together?”

“What do you feel is ok or not – What’s your opinion? I am really interested in knowing what you think…”

Remember that you don’t tell him what to do.

You simply bring it up in an open way and let him see what could be a win for both of you.

When you have this chat about this, keep it short and targeted.

Let him see that you are ok with whatever direction he wants to take.
However, he must know that if he connects with his ex it means that you might stay in touch with your exes as well in similar ways. Would he be ok with that?

Another opportunity to practice your favorite mirror tactics 😉


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Shiva Rajaya

Tantrika / Life coach / Activator of new evolutionary codes for the planet and humankind

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