What This Article Covers
- What these self-reflection prompts are for
- 6 honest statements to complete before you decide
- Why these are about you, not your partner
- How to use your answers once you’ve written them
This Isn’t About Your Partner. It’s About You.
The Freeup Or Linkup decision gets clearer when you look at yourself first, not just the relationship.
These are statements to complete, not questions to answer in your head. Write them out, in full sentences.
1. Here Is How I Commit Myself To Show Up If We Were Linking Up
A real commitment, not a vague feeling. Be specific about what showing up would actually look like, day to day.
2. Here Are Three Of My Shadows That I Can Change
Name the actual patterns, not generic flaws. The specific ones are the ones you can work on.
3. Here Is How I Messed Up In The Past
Own it fully, without the “but.” Half-honesty keeps you stuck here.
4. Here Is Why My Partner Is Not Satisfied With Me
Answer from their side, not yours. This one takes real empathy, not defensiveness.
5. Here Is What My Partner Needs From Me
Not what you think they should need. What they’ve actually told you, shown you, or asked for.
6. Here Are Three Positives I Bring To This Couple
Balance the list. Self-reflection isn’t only about what’s broken.
Read all six answers back as one piece, not six separate thoughts.
Together, they show you how much of this decision is actually about your partner — and how much is about you.
If this reflection stirs something you want support working through, this is exactly where coaching helps. Reach out for coaching →
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