What This Article Covers
- What the Freeup Or Linkup moment actually is
- The key questions to ask yourself, one at a time
- Why honesty matters more than a “right” answer here
- How to use your answers once you’ve gone through all of them
Some Moments Demand A Real Decision
Every long relationship eventually hits a fork in the road.
One path is Freeup. The other is Linkup. Staying in the middle, unanswered, is its own kind of decision too.
These questions aren’t a test to pass. They’re a mirror.
Answer each one honestly, out loud or on paper, before moving to the next.
1. What Are Your Deal Breakers?
Name them specifically. Vague deal breakers can’t actually be checked against real life.
2. What Would You Need To Stay In This Relationship?
Not what you’d tolerate. What you’d actually need to feel whole here.
3. What Did You Try That Didn’t Work?
List the real attempts, not the ones you only thought about trying.
4. Yes, I Want To Be With You. How True Is That, 0 To 10?
Answer fast, before your mind starts justifying the number.
5. Yes, This Relationship Is Working. How True Is That, 0 To 10?
A low number here isn’t a verdict. It’s information.
6. Coupling Credits: Where Do You Score, -100 To +100?
Weigh everything — the good, the depleting, all of it — into one honest number.
7. Why Do You Want To End This?
Write the real reason, not the socially acceptable one.
8. Why Do You Want To Stay Together?
Same rule. The real reason, not the rehearsed one.
Read back through your answers as one piece, not separate thoughts.
A pattern will be there. It usually points toward Freeup or Linkup long before the mind is ready to admit it.
If you’re standing at this fork and need real support working through it, this is exactly where coaching helps. Reach out for coaching →
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