A Freeup Can Start Even When Everything Was Fantastic
Everything is fantastic.
Then dissonance shows up. Shadows kick in.
And you feel it: the relationship is starting to dissolve.
This article is about the freeup process: what happens next, and what the tantric view says about it.
Birth, Life, And Freeup Belong Together
A relationship is born. It lives. And one day it may go through a freeup.
We say “freeup” instead of “breakup” because something gets freed: the coupling vehicle, the shape your relationship took.
In Tantric Coupling, The Exit Is Part Of The Design
The freeup is not a mistake in the design.
You can explore many beautiful sides of a tantric relationship. Then a freeup comes. That doesn’t mean the design failed. The exit was part of it from the start.
A Freeup Is A Path, Not A Cliff
Many people feel like they just jumped off a cliff, and the relationship died on the way down.
In this view, that’s not how it works. The freeup is a process. It is a transmutation of your coupling experience, and it is a full part of the tantric experience.
Tantra Has A Path For The Hard Part Too
Amazing lovemaking? Tantra has a path.
Great communication? Tantra has a path.
A freeup? Tantra has a path for that too.
There Are Pathways Of Energy For A Freeup
Go deep into the freeup and you will find pathways of energy you can activate. They help the transition stay harmonious, and they help you stay connected.
You Can Do More Than Survive It
You can thrive through a freeup.
It can become exhilarating, even orgasmic: a strong, alive flow of energy between you.
It May Not Make Sense Yet, Because Nobody Trained Us
You might be thinking: how do I even reach that? Is it possible?
It may not make sense yet, and that is understandable. We are trained to get ready for forever. Nobody trained us to handle a freeup. Feeling lost in the middle of one is normal.
Here Is What You Can Take Away
- It’s Possible — “Maybe there is a way through this that I haven’t seen yet.”
- It’s Part Of The Story — “This freeup belongs to our story.”
- Stay Connected — “I want us to move through this with respect and care.”
- Learn The Codes — “I’m open to learning a new way to do this.”
An Egoic Death Can Be Part Of The Journey
For a tantric couple, a freeup can include an egoic death: the old version of “us” and the old version of “me” dissolve so something new can be born.
That is transmutation. It can still feel like a real loss, so let yourself feel it.
More Teachings Go Deeper Into The Codes
Videos and playlists on the channel go deeper into the codes and the dissolution process, and what it means for a tantric couple to go through it.
A Freeup Can Be A Doorway
Walk through it awake.
Going through a freeup and want a clear path through it? Reach out for coaching and let’s move through it together.
Keep Reading
- Freeup Stages: Your Relationship Has Many Options Between All In And All Out
- Tantric Coupling Freeup: Why A Great Relationship Can End With Nobody To Blame
- Free Up Is Not The End, But The Transmutation Into A New Relating Format
- How To Master Your Freeup
- Your Freeup Is Not Failure, It Is A Natural Step In Your Coupling Cycle
